Yu Sheng You Ya (2025)

Hell is Other People..

An uncomfortable yet fascinating watch.. I do like stories that challenge me and this one certainly did.. It’s a heavy and difficult drama and every performance, especially Vin Zhang’s is so believable that it’s painful to watch.. The drama’s emotions feel real, not staged or exaggerated.. The story breathes, I mean it feels alive, honest and organic as it moves through its sorrow and exhaustion..

There might be quite a bit of ranting in my words here.. This drama had more characters to hate than to like.. There’s no contender for Parent of the Year, because I mean, you will understand once you see this drama.. The family isn’t very likable for most part of the story and after a while, you start hating other characters too.. Apart from the main leads and the two cops involved, everyone else falls somewhere between hate and love-hate..

I hated her mother right from the moment she came on screen.. Her daughter was looking for comfort and all her mother was concerned about hiding that heinous act.. And whatever her mother did in the hospital made my hatred for her only deepen to a point where I couldn’t forgive her, no matter what happens next..
The FL worked hard.. They didn't want her to study so that they could prioritize her brother's education.. Still somehow she made it through school and got into university.. Her family basically abandoned her.. But when she graduated and got a job, her mother dragged her back.. After what her mother did at her workplace to force her to return home.. I don’t know.. I felt nothing but hate for her.. Even after this they blamed her insulted her without having any right to do so, she faced every hardship alone and even after that they wouldn’t let her be happy, always pushing their burdens onto her..
Even her brother was sickening in the beginning.. He literally told her husband ' You are not her family.. You don’t know her pain ' All this while being silent about his own sister’s assault.. He saw her in the hospital, he knew what happened, still he said nothing.. The sheer audacity of that?? Forget being her brother, is he even human??

To be fair, his character did get better soon and may be worthy of redemption.. He realizes his mistakes and finally starts supporting his sister.. As for their father, I don’t even want to talk about him.. Just another spineless worm..

Her family, their minds, their thoughts, their entire way of seeing the world are poisonous.. Their deep rooted perceptions have rotted them from within.. Her mother especially, she couldn’t stand the idea of her daughter’s life reaching beyond her own..

The things the rapist and his family did to the FL and her husband were just too much.. I just hoped they would suffer a hundred times worse by the end.. He hid the USB drive inside his daughter’s trophy.. How could his wife still defend him after knowing what sort of trash he was.. What she did in court on day one only proved how rotten she is too..

I wanted to mention a few other things..

The scene where their neighbours helped them clean the insulting graffiti was comforting to watch.. Just how the society subtly supported them during such a painful time is something we don't see often..

I liked how their past connection wasn’t turned into some worn out childhood romance trope.. It was more than that.. There are other emotions besides love, it’s not always romance that drives people to act or care..

Not blaming them, but her plan for revenge and his attempt to act on her behalf so she wouldn’t completely destroy herself were both stupid.. But I guess that was necessary for the story to reach its tipping point..

" Do you think Qin Nan loves Ye Sibei??
If you think so, it would be difficult for you to understand Qin Nan's actions..
It is not just love.. Qin Nan sees Ye Sibei as a faith, almost like a religion.. "

Who is the antagonist in this story?? Is it just the perpetrator?? What about his wife and all those people who took his side, even though it was painfully obvious what he did?? What about the FL's parents, who for a major part of the story blamed her, insulted her and pushed her deeper into darkness instead of giving her the support she needed?? Isn't this the ultimate result of their constant meddling and their need to box her into a life she never wanted, when she could have achieved so much more and led a life much brighter than this?? And the sister in law, who changed her statement and lied in court to protect herself and cost them the case?? Even if it's just him who deserves the punishment and rot in hell, others are to be blamed too and they need to suffer the consequences of their choices..

Overall, not perfect by any means.. There are slight issues, some poor dialogue and a few unnecessary scenes.. But all of that is easy to forgive.. Yes, it doesn’t come without its flaws but what we got is good enough to watch at least once.. I should probably stop here because this has already gone too long.. So in conclusion, I liked this drama.. But it’s not something I would rewatch.. Not because it’s bad but because I wouldn’t want to go through those same emotions again..

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Eye opening about Chinese society

We saw in this drama the majority of societal issues in China, how plenty of parents treat their children as investments, they'll push their kids to the edge, ignore their feelings and make sure their lives are fully under their control. It is also why having a male child is highly prioritized and many females were either aborted or given away to orphanages. Many people in China value their image around other people and will protect it all cost. Higher ups always take advantage of the powerless and usually they are not capable of defending themselves, they just get heavily gaslighted and smeared. Injustices like rape cases do not get handled and solved properly, victims would often just be suffering in silence. Even when others know and see injustices, they would rather ignore as long as it is not personally affecting them. This drama is truly eye opening and should make Chinese society change for the better in the future.

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