Beyond the Bar Episode 8

Becoming the abuser is not growth or justice.

I’d have been totally okay with the case that the woman in the episode abused her abusive husband after taking the pills and having the outburst. But to knowingly do that many times? Taking medication so you can do that? Because you were abused does not give you the right to become an abuser. And portraying it as feminism is just so wrong. It’s not about whether the man deserved it or not but what kind of person she became. This episode was just so problematic. They have totally normalised the thing that women slapping beating men is some sort of feminism. Abuse is abuse. Self defence is something else. One time outburst is still okay, she endured so much, I understand that. But after that, she could have totally chosen to use law here, divorced him, make him go to jail, they had the proof of abuse anyway. She was not in any sort of circumstances where she couldn’t leave him. One crime doesn’t cancel out another. I hate the way feminism has gotten a bad name because of things like this. I really like the show, this episode really ruined it for me.

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