Seriously though. I hate Tong Hua so much for portraying the act of doubling down on childhood trauma, never getting over your trauma and growing but instead pitying yourself and complaining how hard your life has been, and severely regressing in personality and independence because you arrange your life entirely around your trauma, as "healing childhood trauma".
Jing heals Xiaoyao? Fuck right off. He makes her worse and less capable of living independently and being happy in the future than she was before she let herself be sucked into his mess. You know who heals Xiaoyao? Xiang Liu. He's the only character in this entire story that aims to help her improve herself, become free and confident and succeeds. And Jing? "I just want to lock you up deep in my mansion so no one else can look at you or try to steal you away from me". Like, are we being serious right now? Are we really going to pretend that's sweet or healthy, for anyone, under any circumstances, ever?
The Jingers will say, oh, you just don't understand. Xiaoyao is so pitiful and traumatized, her relationship with Jing is so sweet and just what she needs to heal. Jing is such a green flag. Well, I have a lot of personal and professional experience with childhood trauma and how to overcome and heal it, and I beg to differ.
Anyway. Rant over. Send nice gifs please.