Both Leads were exploited: Him by the enemy, Her by his family. He was drugged and essentially date raped. She was an unwilling participant. He was intentionally kept in the dark. Both were pushed to get married. It's not surprising he couldn't trust her and there were so many misunderstandings. I felt bad for them both, they were both victims. The happy ending is well deserved.
I am close friends with someone who was subjected to SA by the son of a business partner of her father. She never…
"There's people out there who act as apologists without realizing the damage it causes, and that some truths are unsettling but that doesn't mean its ok to pretend it didn't happen." oof! That part.
SA in many cases is also mental and emotional abuse simultaneously. Victims can make irrational decisions like choosing to protect their abusers. These abusers can be so effective the victim doesn't even realize what’s happening until way late. Most victims of abuse don't knowingly allow themselves to manipulated, mistreated, and abused. This part of why age & consent come into question in these cases.
For your friend: I extend empathy. Being the "Villain" in their story means being the Victor in her own. Speaking up was very brave of her. I hope she finds healing and peace.
Hi, *SA TRIGGER WARNING* Here is something to consider when it comes to KSR parent's parental responsibility.
I was SA'd multiple times before age 10 by multiple people. Not every case is the same and not everyone processes and reacts the same.
I was told to keep things a secret. Almost all my abusers "loved" me and weren't "mean" to me. Some were family.
My immediate family didn't find out about the abuse until I was in my 20-30's So where were my guardians, aunts, uncles? They were present in my life the whole time they just didn't know. I was good at keeping the secret and I did not tell them. That doesn't make them bad, it just makes them people who trusted the wrong people. A fraud generally isn't recognized as a fraud until evidence proves it or they show themselves to be one.
Why didn't I tell them? Why didn't I say something? At first I was so young I didn't realize it was wrong But when I did I was scared of the outcome. It was going to be a big thing, life might change, and People were going to get in trouble and I didn't want that.
I'm fine and have done therapy.
The Point: 1. Her parents may not have known and potentially purposefully kept in the dark. 2. Abuse is complicated and nuanced. It messes with both the mind and body. The abused don't always make the most rational decisions.
I pray the truth comes to light and justice is served.
Oof! You could play a drinking game with the amount of kisses in this drama. And REAL kisses they were. The Main Leads had great chemistry and did a great job at convincing us they were infatuated with each other.
"Save Myself" with Yu Yin And Kechun.
He was drugged and essentially date raped.
She was an unwilling participant.
He was intentionally kept in the dark.
Both were pushed to get married.
It's not surprising he couldn't trust her and there were so many misunderstandings.
I felt bad for them both, they were both victims.
The happy ending is well deserved.
SA in many cases is also mental and emotional abuse simultaneously. Victims can make irrational decisions like choosing to protect their abusers. These abusers can be so effective the victim doesn't even realize what’s happening until way late. Most victims of abuse don't knowingly allow themselves to manipulated, mistreated, and abused. This part of why age & consent come into question in these cases.
For your friend:
I extend empathy.
Being the "Villain" in their story means being the Victor in her own.
Speaking up was very brave of her.
I hope she finds healing and peace.
*SA TRIGGER WARNING*
Here is something to consider when it comes to KSR parent's parental responsibility.
I was SA'd multiple times before age 10 by multiple people.
Not every case is the same and not everyone processes and reacts the same.
I was told to keep things a secret.
Almost all my abusers "loved" me and weren't "mean" to me.
Some were family.
My immediate family didn't find out about the abuse until I was in my 20-30's
So where were my guardians, aunts, uncles?
They were present in my life the whole time they just didn't know.
I was good at keeping the secret and I did not tell them.
That doesn't make them bad, it just makes them people who trusted the wrong people.
A fraud generally isn't recognized as a fraud until evidence proves it or they show themselves to be one.
Why didn't I tell them? Why didn't I say something?
At first I was so young I didn't realize it was wrong But when I did I was scared of the outcome.
It was going to be a big thing, life might change, and People were going to get in trouble and I didn't want that.
I'm fine and have done therapy.
The Point:
1. Her parents may not have known and potentially purposefully kept in the dark.
2. Abuse is complicated and nuanced. It messes with both the mind and body. The abused don't always make the most rational decisions.
I pray the truth comes to light and justice is served.
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And REAL kisses they were.
The Main Leads had great chemistry and did a great job at convincing us they were infatuated with each other.