You shared my sentiment. What he said and did in the car conversation with Duoduo. What he did in the family dinner…
Exactly Couldnât agree more. Itâs crazy how some people used to defend him in the comments no matter what, but now theyâve finally opened their eyes and can probably see things for what they really are. Everything from the car convo to the dinner to shutting Duoduo down when she asked for clarity just shows the pattern. Honestly, Duoduo getting out of this is the best outcome for her
I watched The 11 ep and honestly itâs so worth it. I really liked how Both leads are strong and independent and thankfully thereâs no toxic romance here. Their chemistry? Absolutely chemistringđ„ Also for anyone worried about the sibling thing relax theyâre not actual siblings. Come on who would even make a brother-sister love story/ dramađ
Seeing how you framed your words, I guess that it's targeted to me.We saw what was shown on the screen. So I am…
I am speechless to be honest, seeing how someone made it as if it's Lechen that tried to have the conversation and explained it to Duoduo, and made it as if it's because he learned his lesson. Such shamelessness Seriously same i donât get how people defend lechenâs behaviour đ€š I think they are watching another show đ€
Seeing how you framed your words, I guess that it's targeted to me.We saw what was shown on the screen. So I am…
About the part that he took responsibility the next day, to add what you said about it, I want to add that it's still Duoduo's initiative and not Lechen's to have the talk. He's still trying to avoid her. So I won't really take it as he took responsibility.
If Duoduo didn't try to have a talk with the excuse of giving gift, he would never do the talk (maybe he's still not in the right state of mind,
Seeing how you framed your words, I guess that it's targeted to me.We saw what was shown on the screen. So I am…
Saying itâs a dating show doesnât automatically excuse how someone treats others. Yes, theyâre allowed to explore different connections thatâs the format but how they do it still matters. Being in a tough environment isnât a free pass to be careless with peopleâs feelings. As for the editing sure, reality TV is edited and sometimes unfairly. But editing doesnât create actions, expressions, or words out of nowhere. It can twist things, but it canât fake someoneâs core behavior. And honestly, if someone looks bad every episode, itâs not just the editing. People can judge based on what they see and thatâs valid.
He took responsibility the next dayâ? So what? What about the moment it actually mattered when someone was vulnerable and deserved honesty? Waiting 24 hours isnât accountability itâs damage control under pressure.
And no no one thinks heâs supposed to be perfect. But saying heâs human over and over can sound like youâre brushing off his mistakes. Everyone makes them, but that doesnât mean we skip over the impact. Finally, nobody said you were mad but your tone does come off a little like youâre trying to talk down to people who disagree. Saying âthis is for open-minded peopleâ sounds like you think anyone who criticizes him is just too shallow to get it. Thatâs not fair either.
You can empathize with him. Others can criticize him. Both things can be true. Letâs not pretend everyone who disagrees is just uninformed or not thinking deeply enough.
Seeing how you framed your words, I guess that it's targeted to me.We saw what was shown on the screen. So I am…
See this is where your whole argument starts to crumble. You keep repeating âitâs a dating show like itâs some magic shield against criticism. Newsflash being on a dating show doesnât give you a hall pass to act sloppy, send mixed signals, or handle people carelessly. Exploring is normal, sure. But exploring doesnât mean treating others like disposable trial runs. Thereâs a difference between getting to know multiple people and straight up lacking clarity or accountability. The âpurpose of a dating showâ isnât to excuse bad behavior itâs to see how people handle connections under pressure. And guess what? If someone handles it poorly, they get judged for it. Thatâs the game.
Now about the editing I honestly have to laugh at how much youâre leaning on that. Yes, editors manipulate. Yes, they can hide certain scenes. But they donât fabricate someoneâs entire vibe out of thin air. If the majority of viewers walked away feeling like he was passive, distant, or only receiving, then maybe, just maybe, thatâs because thatâs what he consistently showed. Editing can amplify, but it canât erase someoneâs personality or decision-making. If other contestants didnât get the same âbad cut,â why is it only him who supposedly got destroyed by evil production scissors? Come on. That excuse is doing Olympic-level gymnastics at this point.
And then thereâs your âhe was overwhelmedâ defense. Honestly? Thatâs the weakest one yet. Everyone gets overwhelmed in situations like this thatâs literally the point of being on reality TV. The difference is, mature people still manage to show respect, communicate, or at the very least not make others feel like afterthoughts. Saying âhe wasnât in his right state of mindâ as a blanket excuse is basically saying âheâs only responsible for his good moments, but none of his bad ones.â Thatâs not how accountability works. If every misstep is waved away with âoh, he was just overwhelmed,â then youâre not defending him anymore youâre babying him.
The bigger issue here is that youâre not actually seeing him as a flawed human being. Youâre trying to sanitize him into some victim of editing and circumstance, where literally nothing is ever his fault. Thatâs not empathy, thatâs denial. Being open to his POV doesnât mean inventing endless justifications to protect him from criticism. It means acknowledging both his strengths and his shortcomings without twisting reality to keep your fave untouchable.
So no, Iâm not âclosed offâ to his perspective. Iâve considered it, Iâve factored it in, and I still think the way he handled things deserves criticism. Youâre just mad I donât buy the pile of excuses youâve built to cover for him. At some point, actions speak louder than edits, nerves, or whatever scapegoat fans want to throw out.
Also for anyone worried about the sibling thing relax theyâre not actual siblings. Come on who would even make a brother-sister love story/ dramađ
Seriously same i donât get how people defend lechenâs behaviour đ€š I think they are watching another show đ€
If Duoduo didn't try to have a talk with the excuse of giving gift, he would never do the talk (maybe he's still not in the right state of mind,
Exactly đŻ thanks for reminding me đ„°đ„°
As for the editing sure, reality TV is edited and sometimes unfairly. But editing doesnât create actions, expressions, or words out of nowhere. It can twist things, but it canât fake someoneâs core behavior. And honestly, if someone looks bad every episode, itâs not just the editing. People can judge based on what they see and thatâs valid.
He took responsibility the next dayâ? So what? What about the moment it actually mattered when someone was vulnerable and deserved honesty? Waiting 24 hours isnât accountability itâs damage control under pressure.
And no no one thinks heâs supposed to be perfect. But saying heâs human over and over can sound like youâre brushing off his mistakes. Everyone makes them, but that doesnât mean we skip over the impact.
Finally, nobody said you were mad but your tone does come off a little like youâre trying to talk down to people who disagree. Saying âthis is for open-minded peopleâ sounds like you think anyone who criticizes him is just too shallow to get it. Thatâs not fair either.
You can empathize with him. Others can criticize him. Both things can be true. Letâs not pretend everyone who disagrees is just uninformed or not thinking deeply enough.
Now about the editing I honestly have to laugh at how much youâre leaning on that. Yes, editors manipulate. Yes, they can hide certain scenes. But they donât fabricate someoneâs entire vibe out of thin air. If the majority of viewers walked away feeling like he was passive, distant, or only receiving, then maybe, just maybe, thatâs because thatâs what he consistently showed. Editing can amplify, but it canât erase someoneâs personality or decision-making. If other contestants didnât get the same âbad cut,â why is it only him who supposedly got destroyed by evil production scissors? Come on. That excuse is doing Olympic-level gymnastics at this point.
And then thereâs your âhe was overwhelmedâ defense. Honestly? Thatâs the weakest one yet. Everyone gets overwhelmed in situations like this thatâs literally the point of being on reality TV. The difference is, mature people still manage to show respect, communicate, or at the very least not make others feel like afterthoughts. Saying âhe wasnât in his right state of mindâ as a blanket excuse is basically saying âheâs only responsible for his good moments, but none of his bad ones.â Thatâs not how accountability works. If every misstep is waved away with âoh, he was just overwhelmed,â then youâre not defending him anymore youâre babying him.
The bigger issue here is that youâre not actually seeing him as a flawed human being. Youâre trying to sanitize him into some victim of editing and circumstance, where literally nothing is ever his fault. Thatâs not empathy, thatâs denial. Being open to his POV doesnât mean inventing endless justifications to protect him from criticism. It means acknowledging both his strengths and his shortcomings without twisting reality to keep your fave untouchable.
So no, Iâm not âclosed offâ to his perspective. Iâve considered it, Iâve factored it in, and I still think the way he handled things deserves criticism. Youâre just mad I donât buy the pile of excuses youâve built to cover for him. At some point, actions speak louder than edits, nerves, or whatever scapegoat fans want to throw out.