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I get that — and I agree Grandpa didn’t choose this out of selfishness. He didn’t plan to take over his grandson’s body or seek out a second chance at love. But at the same time, we can still acknowledge that what “destiny” brought came at a huge cost.

Ze Fang died — a young person struggling with identity and love — and his body is now being used to continue a love story that wasn’t his. That’s not just tragic, it’s heartbreaking. It’s okay for the romance to be touching, but I think it’s also okay to question the cost of that romance and who ends up forgotten in the process.

Yeah, I already know Hai Yuan is the reincarnation of Grandpa’s friend and wife, and I get that they’re soulmates connected by fate. But honestly, every time I hear it again, it just makes me feel worse for Ze Fang.

Like… this one soul keeps coming back lifetime after lifetime just for Grandpa, while Ze Fang — who clearly struggled with love, identity, and acceptance — dies and is treated like a plot device. His pain is barely acknowledged, and the story keeps revolving around Grandpa’s eternal love instead.

I get that the soulmate angle is meant to be touching, but the emotional cost feels so unfair. Not everyone gets a destined love. Some just get forgotten. And that really hurts.

This whole storyline is starting to feel a bit too much. If Ye Hai Yuan is really the reincarnation of Grandpa Xia’s old friend and his wife, then how many times does one man need a love story? He already had a full life and romance with his wife — meanwhile, Ze Fang, who clearly needed love and acceptance, just dies and gets erased like he was nothing.

What really frustrates me is that Ze Fang’s body ends up being just a vessel for Grandpa to have another shot at romance with his grandson's crush. It’s like everyone else’s existence is only there to serve Grandpa’s love arc. And if this one soul — friend > wife > Hai Yuan — keeps coming back lifetime after lifetime just to be with Grandpa Xia… honestly, let them rest already. It’s getting ridiculous.

The drama wants to sell this as a touching, fated love story, but honestly, it feels unfair and emotionally exhausting. I know Xia Ze Fang is not perfect, but he struggles deeply with his identity.

When he forced himself on Ye Hai Yuan, which is ABSOLUTELY wrong, he even asked, “If I were a girl, would it be different?” And Ye Hai Yuan said, “You’re not a girl.” Ze Fang then said he wanted to chop off his penis or die. When Grandpa asked what was wrong with his grandson, Ye Hai Yuan said, “I don’t like girls,” and Grandpa replied, “Then that’s perfect.” But Ye Hai Yuan said, “But he wanted to be a girl.”

I want to rip my hair out — what exactly did Ye Hai Yuan not like about him? I’m confused. I know love can’t be forced, and he doesn't have to like him, but it feels like there’s so much misunderstanding and confusion around Ye Hai Yuan and their history, but i will keep watching to understand.

I know what Ze Fang did in episode 1 — forcing himself on Hai Yuan — was completely wrong, and I’m not trying to excuse that. It was serious and unacceptable. But at the same time, he came across as someone deeply hurt and confused, struggling with his identity and desperate for love. That doesn’t make what he did okay, but it makes him feel more tragic than evil.

You read the novel, and say he was “pure evil” and wanted both Hai Yuan and Ri Qing, but can you explain where that’s shown in the book? So far in the drama, there’s nothing to suggest that. I really want to understand where that interpretation is coming from, because right now, all I see is a flawed, suffering character who never got the chance to be loved as he was.

Something that really frustrates me is that Grandpa Xia already had a full love story. He lived, he loved, he got married, and yes — losing his wife was painful, but that’s part of life. He had his chance. Meanwhile, Ze Fang was just starting his life, struggling with identity and love, and he dies without ever being accepted or understood.

So why does the grandpa get a second chance — especially in his grandson’s body, and with someone his grandson had feelings for? It just feels so unfair. The person who needed love and healing the most got erased, while the one who already had a full chapter gets to start over. I can’t stop thinking about how wrong that feels.

It seems like the grandson’s soul hasn’t fully left, and he is trying to come back by pushing Grandpa Xia out of his body. Knowing this makes the situation even more heartbreaking because it shows that the grandson is still present and fighting for his identity and place.

I actually had a similar theory at first—that maybe Ze Fang just had a bad head injury and was imagining being Grandpa Xia. But after learning more from people who have read the novel, it seems that’s not the case. The story is definitely about a true soul swap: Grandpa Xia’s soul wakes up in his grandson’s body, who is confirmed dead.

Also, the fact that Grandpa wakes up at the funeral home—not a hospital—really points to the supernatural aspect. So while I wish the head injury explanation were true because it feels easier to accept, the novel and show are definitely going with the soul reincarnation route.

No, it's a reincarnation of the grandfather’s deceased wife

I just finished episode 1, and while everyone’s focused on the soul-swapping, I can’t stop thinking about Xia Ze Fang and the pain he must’ve been carrying.

Yes — what he did, especially trying to force himself on Ye Hai Yuan, was absolutely wrong. I’m not justifying that at all. But it’s also clear that he was someone who was deeply lost, desperate for love, and struggling with his identity in such a heartbreaking way.

The part that destroyed me was when he said he wanted to be a girl just so Ye Hai Yuan would like him… and that implication about wanting to cut off part of himself just to be accepted? That’s not just sad — that’s a tragic reflection of how some queer people are made to feel: like they have to change their entire being just to be worthy of love.

What hurts even more is that the grandfather — who already had a life and decades of love — gets a second chance in Ze Fang’s body. Meanwhile, Ze Fang died alone, unloved, and misunderstood. And now his story is being pushed aside like he was just a vessel for someone else’s "greater" romance.

I’ll keep watching, but with a heavy heart. Because the real tragedy here isn't just a soul-switch — it’s that Xia Ze Fang never got to hear, “You’re already enough.”

Thank you — and you're absolutely right. I’m honestly done with them. I’m just replying in my free time. Unlike them, I actually have a life outside of obsessively defending strangers on the internet. 😌

Your reply is the exact reason why so many survivors stay silent. You’ve mocked the idea of being “inappropriately touched,” ridiculed the possibility of trauma, and reduced assault to something a woman should just “slap away” — as if that’s how assault works, as if all people react the same.

You talk about a “sane world,” but in that world, people would listen when someone says they’ve been hurt. In that world, you wouldn’t need the alleged victim to show her face just so that you can publicly humiliate her too. That’s not about wanting truth — it’s about demanding a target.

You act like anonymity is some trick when in reality, it’s a basic protection in many legal systems for people alleging sexual misconduct. It doesn’t make her less credible. It doesn’t make you more enlightened for demanding her identity like you're owed it. Survivors don’t exist for your entertainment or judgment.

You’ve said more about your contempt for women than anything else. You’ve equated anonymity with cowardice, pain with attention-seeking, and justice with convenience. You're not here for fairness. You’re here to rage at MeToo, to call people ‘hysterical,’ and to glorify your own cynicism as if it makes you rational. It doesn’t.

Your little “she probably wanted it” theory — accusing her of being a clout-chasing gold-digger who ‘flirted in hopes of getting groped’ — is repulsive. That isn’t logic. That’s misogyny, plain and simple. You've built an entire narrative around a woman you admit you know nothing about, because you're desperate to protect someone you watched in a single show.

No one’s arguing that KK is guilty without a trial — they’re arguing that allegations deserve to be taken seriously, not mocked. If that bothers you, it’s because you’re uncomfortable with accountability. And frankly, that’s your problem.

Of course, he denied it and plead not guilty — that’s what almost every defendant does. Do you seriously think someone pleading 'not guilty' automatically means they're innocent? If that were the case, courts wouldn’t need trials, evidence, or judges. People don’t just walk into court and confess — especially not public figures with reputations, money, and legal teams on the line.

Also — where exactly did anyone say she was raped? You’re literally making up claims just to tear them down. That’s not an argument. It's what people resort to when they don’t have facts on their side.

The actual allegation was inappropriate touching — your words, not mine — yet somehow you inflated that into a rape accusation so you could mock it for being “too extreme.” That’s dishonest, manipulative, and speaks volumes about your agenda. If you're going to argue, at least argue against what was actually said, not the fiction you've created to feel superior.

And no, pretending you’re not a fangirl/fanboy doesn’t change the fact that you're clearly emotionally invested. You’re here, writing walls of text, sneering at survivors, and boiling over because people won’t coddle your one-sided parasocial connection. Whether you followed him for one project or fifty, your bias is blinding.

Maybe I’m contradicting myself by writing a whole essay here, But the difference is, what I’m writing actually has substance. Because unlike you, I’m not just spewing bile for attention. I’m saying something grounded in logic, empathy, and facts. If substance makes you uncomfortable, that’s your problem, not mine.

And one last thing — calling me ‘theatrical’ while you spiral into this insult-laced essay is just ironic. You’re not nearly as clever as you think. You just got out-argued and now you’re flailing.

Yeah, they just took their biggest L ever and are proudly parading it like it’s a talent. It’s not about the case anymore for them — it’s about desperately clawing for attention by picking fights online because real life gave up on them.

They seem completely delusional, like they actually believe their own nonsense. It’s straight-up ‘no friends, no life, just trolling for validation.’ The desperation is so loud it drowns out any trace of sense. Honestly, it’s tragic and entertaining.

Thank you for sharing that — I can only imagine how difficult it must’ve been to speak up, especially knowing the kind of backlash that often follows. What you said about parasocial relationships is so real. People form these imaginary bonds with celebrities and then act like personal bodyguards — even if it means stomping all over someone else’s truth.

It’s not ‘bitterness’ to warn others — it’s bravery. And frankly, your warning matters more than any fan’s fantasy version of someone they’ve never even met. You’re right: some celebrities maintain their fame no matter what they do, but that doesn’t make your experience any less real or valid.

The way you’re standing in your truth despite the hate? That’s a strength. And don’t let anyone who’s too far up a stranger’s a** try to take that away from you.

I’m not going to be baited by your theatrics. You’re not arguing in good faith — you're trying to weaponize the possibility of someone’s mental health struggles to guilt people into silence. That’s not compassion. That’s manipulation.

You talk about fairness, but never once have you considered that the alleged victim might be telling the truth. You’ve already picked a side — not based on evidence, not based on the legal process — but because you watched one series and decided he couldn't possibly be guilty. That’s not logic. That’s bias.

Being held accountable for alleged actions is not the same as being ‘crushed’ or ‘driven to suicide.’ It’s a consequence of living in a society that is finally starting to question blind idol worship. You’re so focused on him being 'wrecked' that you’ve completely erased the person who came forward, as if her pain doesn’t matter, as if the accusation is an attack on your taste in actors instead of a serious legal matter.

If he’s innocent, he deserves justice — absolutely. But pretending that reputational fallout is worse than not investigating sexual assault allegations is exactly the kind of mindset that keeps victims silent.

Justice isn’t about rushing to believe either side blindly — it’s about allowing space for evidence to be examined and truth to come out without people like you emotionally blackmailing the world into pretending nothing happened.

You’ve made your stance clear without knowing anything about the facts. You’re not seeking justice — you’re seeking absolution for someone you don’t even know, and you’re doing it by accusing others of cruelty for simply not looking away.

I’m not here to ‘crush’ anyone. I’m here to remind people that fame is not a shield from scrutiny. And if that makes you uncomfortable, ask yourself why.

You keep whining about fairness, but your definition of it seems to be ‘protect the accused, vilify the accuser.’ Using someone's career as a shield against accountability isn't justice — it's manipulation. The legal term victim is used in court documents and police reports when someone claims harm. It doesn't mean a verdict has been made.

Yes, reputations suffer when serious allegations arise — that’s the cost of living in a society that increasingly refuses to sweep potential misconduct under the rug. But what’s really unfair? Silencing accusers, treating them like disposable damage to protect someone’s fame.

If he’s proven innocent, the record will show it. But if he’s guilty, will you still defend him? Or will you just pivot to blaming ‘cancel culture’ instead of holding him accountable?

And don’t flatter yourself — nobody's desperate for your response. Just tired of watching you twist logic into a delusional defense rant.

You keep saying ‘no one is listening,’ yet you respond to every single comment like it’s your full-time job. If you really believed your own words, you'd stop replying. But clearly, something’s hitting a nerve — maybe it’s the fact that people are finally calling out your obsessive defense of someone on trial.

Says the one ranting in every comment section like it’s a personal crusade. If no one’s listening, why are you still here foaming at the mouth over every response? Projection’s a hell of a thing.

Wild how you preach “innocence until proven guilty” while acting like you already know he’s innocent. What happened to neutrality, huh? You’re so obsessed with “weirdos canceling celebs” that you’re bending over backwards to defend a guy accused of indecent assault, before the trial even begins. If he's found guilty, are you gonna crawl back and apologize, or double down and call the verdict part of the “witch hunt circus” too? You talk about sadistic thrills — sounds like you’re the one getting off on dismissing victims and playing savior to someone you don’t even know.

It’s wild how you paint people wanting accountability as “weirdos” craving sadistic thrills. No one’s against innocence until proven guilty — that’s basic justice. What’s messed up is how some rush to defend someone accused without even respecting the victim’s side. Wanting fair treatment for everyone isn’t “cancel culture,” it’s called due process. Try focusing on facts, not just defending your fave blindly.

I get where you’re coming from, but let’s be clear—Kenshin’s charged with indecent assault, which means unwanted touching. It’s serious, even if it’s not the same as sexual assault.

Sure, it’s hard to picture it happening during a busy fan meeting, but it could have occurred afterward or during a break when fewer people were around. We don’t have all the details.

Either way, the victim’s experience deserves respect. It’s way too early to be condemning or attacking Kenshin before the trial even starts. And victim blaming or fan hate? Completely unacceptable.

Let’s wait for the court to decide before taking sides. Until then, stay neutral and respectful.