Out of All of the Dramas I’ve Seen, This is My First Review
There’s so much to say about the drama Find Yourself that I almost don’t know where to start. Actually in the beginning, I didn’t have any intention of watching this drama at all. I didn’t like watching dramas about older women/younger men, but they completely won me over. I guess I was the target audience lol. The only reason I ended up watching this after having it marked “not interested” for two years is that because of Song Weilong, I put it on in the background while doing homework and got drawn in almost immediately. So I started it to seriously watch it soon after.Now, onto the review. I constantly found myself laughing at all of the funny and awkward situations. I loved each character because they each had their own motivations and different path to finding themselves. I like how this drama deals with societal expectations, but also shows the viewpoint of her parents. I love how close He Fanxing and He Canyang are and they’re entire family is very heartwarming. There are also important life lessons that I’ve learned from this drama.
The beginning of the drama is probably more fun, it gets a bit more depressing later on but it ends nicely. I really, really, miss this drama. It’s one of the only dramas that I’ve seen that I feel I won’t be able to get over for a while (the other two being Someday or One Day and The Untamed). I don’t want to watch other dramas now, I really miss watching this.
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Almost had it
The first episode was awful at engaging the viewer. I had to force myself into continuing because I am a fan of Victoria's. The drama was just okay but it completely falls apart when you realize the male and female lead have no chemistry!!! It felt like a waste of time because I didn't believe they loved each other (nor did the female lead ever state explicitly why she loved the ml). Victoria had better chemistry with the 2nd male lead and that part was the most interesting. Song Weilong was pretty good and I am a fan of his now. I enjoyed the supporting cast and wanted to see their stories more.Was this review helpful to you?
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I started this drama because of Victoria but definitely stayed for Song Wei Long. Victoria's character is really irritating in my opinion. HFX started off this strong and beautiful woman and just became somewhat of an indecisive mess. Don't get me wrong, I completely understand that the drama is about her learning to overcome these insecurities and fight for her love but the effort is kind of laking. HFX is definitely in love with YS but at the same time has little problem playing along with YLM. But more than HFX, I find YLM to be worse consider his character is really manipulative when you consider what he's doing. He stayed by HFX as a friend with alternative intentions, and while he does seem to have genuine feelings for HFX, I honestly just find this man a little creepy. YS deserved better! though HFX does make it up to him at the end so its all good.I think this drama starts off amazing and is worth a try overall!
Victoria and Song Wei Long look very good together!
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Small Disappointments Add Up
I am having to take a significant pause in watching the rest of this series for several reasons:1. Stop petting her head: given the age/status difference, this seems wildly inappropriate even if meant affectionately. It minimizes her and what she is saying and never seems to really fit the scene.
2. Epic/profound fail on the Bechdel test: So far, 15 episodes in, there has not been one single conversation between women that is not about men -- getting one, keeping one, separating from one, marrying one -- they don't talk about work, family, pets, hobbies, dreams, hopes, or anything else without the overriding theme of "get man". Revolting.
3. Not by any stretch of the imagination, not even in remote, small villages, is any 32 year old woman that naive, oblivious, and unable to make logical inferences and sensible conclusions; this is like watching fruit rot -- it just gets worse and worse. If she's that stupid, she's certainly too stupid to earn a living, so doing this to a woman who is a senior administrator is beyond ridiculous and highly insulting. Let alone that it ignores the endless series of conversations about men, which in and of themselves would have given her a great deal of information.
4. Slapstick bits and hammy acting don't help: it's not frequent in most cases, but it is jarring and does not serve to advance the story.
5. College girls behaving like elementary school children with their dumb pranks, theatrics for attention, and outright doofy clothing in many instances.
That's it. If I can finish the series, I will because there some elements in other people's reviews that make me think it gets better.
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My advice to FL - "Trust yourself!"
I was excited to watch this series because older woman, younger man is one of my favourite tropes and a few of director Ding Zi Guang's dramas are in my watchlist. The series started off great (I love episode 1) but after 10+ episodes, I became frustrated. I dropped this series because I couldn't watch a self-pitying female lead and refused to waste almost 720 minutes on this mess.What I liked:
1) He Can Yang - He is the reason why I pushed through until episode 24. He is easygoing but dependable and caring. I like that he always offer to listen to one's concerns.
2) Best friends Song Xue and Yang Xiao Yu - I like scenes where three of them hang out. Song Xue gave great advice most of the time.
3) Song Wei Long - Wow, so handsome. I love his smile. He resembles Taehyun of kpop group Tomorrow x Together.
What I disliked:
1) He Fan Xing characterisation - She is hardworking, independent, level headed when it came to work. I liked her character at first but when she lied to her school friends about her boyfriend, I was livid! I also despice her for feeling sorry for herself even though she was the one that ended the relationship. I also dislike Fan Xing for confiding in Ye Lu Ming rather than in her best friends whenever she had relationship problems.
2) Ye Lu Ming - I liked him at first and understood his sadness about "the one who got away". However I don't like once he schemed his way into Fan Xing's family. Devious!
3) The romance - I enjoyed romance between Fan Xing and Yuan Song before the breakup. Since their relationship is secret / "forbidden", I think the director could have done more romance scenes e.g. in the store room, hidden touches, surprise kisses. Anyway I am disappointed by choices made by Fan Xing - she totally not believing in herself, that's why she dictating how her first love should be.
Favourite scene
When Fan Xing took care of Yuan Song when he was ill
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creeps me out
ngl the age difference between them doesn't sit right with me. I tried multiple times to watch it but the age difference is kinda concerning lmao. ngl the age difference between them doesn't sit right with me. I tried multiple times to watch it but the age difference is kinda concerning lmao. if this was the other way around with the age gaps this show would be canceled rightfully so. the acting was alright nothing to say there. ive only watched like 3 episodes. I don't know about the music.....Was this review helpful to you?
BEST SHOW EVER!!!
I don't have enough words to say how great that show is!!!No soapy crap clichés, but laughter!
David Wang plays so well his role you are just observing him as the sneaky one. He's really the right actor for that!!! I so enjoy watching him!
Victoria Song plays sooo well too with her manners and faces, it's a delight!
Yu shu Xin is annoying as the spoiled brat and she plays soo well too!!! Oh when she eats it's so funny!! I hope she didn't have to repeat the scenes otherwise she'd be super fat!! ha ha ha!
The story is all about ooops and hugh sequences and I love every single one of them!
Of course, there's love, we know how it'll end too but there are many surprises as we go into the episodes!
I cannot say anything bad about this show and wish we had many more like this one.
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He Fanxing is figuring out what she wants from life and relationships - to be true to herself or societal/community approval. But, once it appeared all 40+ episodes would be He Fanxing stumbling around unsure, I considered dropping the show . . .
Positives: When He Fanxing and Yuan Song (young love interest) shared a screen there is great energy, and you could see why they are drawn to each other. There is surprisingly little screen time devoted to Yuan Song, and there's a lot more that could be done with the character. . .
Negatives: Ye Luming (older love interest) has 'red flags' written all over him from the start. He lies, stalks her, ingrates himself with her parents, is very physical and grabby, and uses all the pressure in the world. This is excused as just being an alpha/domineering CEO, but his hostility toward women that cry and fantasising/dreaming about stabbing them was a bridge too far. Once I realized he was staying on through the show, I stopped wanting to watch . . .
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The beginning of the drama did provide some interesting dynamics as we learn He Fanxing has never had a boyfriend despite being passed the "marriage age" for women in China. I do like that she is an mature woman who has a great job. We are introduced to the first male lead Yuan Song who is 10 years her junior and while he is handsome, he is immature and always being late to work as an intern at Fanxing's workplace. Anyway, the story practically forces them into a relationship rather than gradually moving along. He Fanxing goes on a blind date with another guy Ye Limung only to tell him she likes someone else (Yuan Song). However Limung still really likes her and is always doting on her throughout. What I've noticed is that Fanxing is truly having fun and being herself when she is with Limung and always seems so tepid and stupid when with Yuan Song. Yuan Song is such a jerk in this drama I can't stand it, he will get mad at Fanxing for doing the same things that he does then manipulates her into thinking she's the bad guy! I absolutely do not understand why I should be rooting for this guy... I have not finished the show but i really don't see a reason to if she's just gonna end up with this young guy who has no money, constantly compares fanxing to his mother, still accepts gifts from his ex girlfriend and has no consideration for the main character. The second male lead is a far better choice in my opinion and I wish it would go that way. Limung has always been there for Fanxing and it's ridiculous if she chooses this loser young guy who doesn't even respect her enough to keep their relationship private. He seems like just a player to me, but oh well. Watch it if you like, there are some really funny and charming moments but none of those are with the first male lead. Also the side characters: Fanxing's family and two friend's are cool, the designer guy is cool, the girls in the office are okay, Limung's niece is dumb and annoying. Was this review helpful to you?
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I CRIED WATCHING THIS SHOW
*spoilers alert*This show started off good but after the main couple broke up everything went downhill. The decisions main lead made were just wtf. When she broke up with the younger guy it was reasonable and I could see why she did that but then she went on and dated the older guy which made me cry out of frustration. Then u would think the younger guy would give up, no he didn’t. I honestly thought that this show would be realistic about dating but und fortunately no it wasn’t. Both of the guys were basically experiments for her she doesn’t like one of them she moved onto the other one which pissed me off. The younger guy himself is stupid like no one would just wait around for their ex like this guy did.
Other than that the other couples are literally so cuteeee. I only continued watching the show for the other couples.
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