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great drama. will rewatch again ?
I picked up this drama entirely because of Yu Shuxin. I did not regret it at all.However I was not as invested in He Fanxing’s relationship as the side plots…at some point I was hoping she ended up with nobody, but it’s okay I don’t hate the ending or the execution of it, I’m just glad she’s happy. The character developments were wonderful to see especially Cai Minmin’s and He Canyang’s. (somehow this drama made teacher x student relationship ENJOYABLE for me even though most of the time it would gross me out) He Canyang went from the most immature person in his family who fools around with girls, but he grows to actually love Cai Minmin and become more mature overtime, while Cai Minmin learned the healthy way to love someone and became more mature and independent from her family by the ending. I also really liked the cheating husband and unwanted pregnancy sub plot that He Fanxing’s friends have, would definitely rewatch over and over again.
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Excellent writing to ruminate on relationships‼️
I like to think a little bit while I'm being entertained and a drama that fits that bill is "Find Yourself" starring the uber handsome Song Wei Long. "Find Yourself" is not high on the skinship quotient, which is a pity because the Song is absolutely gorgeous to distraction and there are plenty of closeups of his gorgeous self. He and the female lead are quite attractive together and have good chemistry. She's an older woman of 32 dating a younger man of 22 so the potential was there for some affection and flirting but they've written the female lead as too buttoned up to go for it even as her suitor proves that he loves her more than she's willing to love him. But the writing and dialogue are tops in that the various characters talk so much about love, marriage, and dating that it truly provides insights into Chinese culture and thinking that I find thought-provoking.These folks are constantly talking with each other about relationships with their parents, boyfriends, husbands, siblings, etc. People can speak bluntly and truthfully about someone else's situation but less forthrightly about their own. The female lead He Fanxing is close to two college girlfriends and her own twin brother who lives across the hall from the family. The writers largely succeed at getting past the typical stereotypes: the mother and father eschew constantly nagging their children to go on blind dates and get married; one girlfriend is in a long term relationship but doesn't want marriage or children. The other has one child and another on the way and just wants to stay home to raise them but her husband wants her to keep earning money. And He Fanxing still wants to marry for love, not just for practical reasons, despite the unsolicited advice she gets from the other women at her office regarding choices for someone her age.
The first two thirds of the episodes are strongly dialog driven around the central relationship and it's many tributaries while the end seems to be about whether her practical side will win out over her romantic side. You can guess which side I'm on as a fan of this rom-com and its Prince Charming!
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This could almost be a perfect romance for me only if the SML and FL ended up together, and since they didn't (as expected), I wasn't as blown away by this drama as I would be. I was more invested in watching the scenes between Fan Xing and Lu Ming; their banter are so funny and their bond more natural than between Fan Xing and the male lead. There were so many misunderstandings between Yuan Song and Fan Xing, mainly because of Fan Xing constantly putting her foot in her mouth. I get it that she has never been in a relationship before, but she's a grown woman; she should act more mature than the young man she's dating. It was sometimes frustrating to watch the main couple argue over silly things, and it mainly stems from them keeping secrets from each other, not a good basis for a relationship.Despite this, there are a few things I liked about this drama: there are no overbearing mothers, evil stepmoms, or annoying sisters. Even the rivalry between some of the characters were not as intense and hateful as in some other dramas. Healthy competition for the win. I also admired the close-knit relationship of some, for example, between the three best friends who support each other in times of need, or how close Yuan Song is to his stepmom or MinMin to her uncle, or how the work colleagues will go and visit people who are ill. Fan Xing is also close to her brother Canyang, who is sometimes jealous of how their parents treat the siblings differently, but helps his sister anyway. The show's internal monologuing also provided a lot of Fan Xing's self-discovered truths, where she hopefully matures towards the end of the story.
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Out of All of the Dramas I’ve Seen, This is My First Review
There’s so much to say about the drama Find Yourself that I almost don’t know where to start. Actually in the beginning, I didn’t have any intention of watching this drama at all. I didn’t like watching dramas about older women/younger men, but they completely won me over. I guess I was the target audience lol. The only reason I ended up watching this after having it marked “not interested” for two years is that because of Song Weilong, I put it on in the background while doing homework and got drawn in almost immediately. So I started it to seriously watch it soon after.Now, onto the review. I constantly found myself laughing at all of the funny and awkward situations. I loved each character because they each had their own motivations and different path to finding themselves. I like how this drama deals with societal expectations, but also shows the viewpoint of her parents. I love how close He Fanxing and He Canyang are and they’re entire family is very heartwarming. There are also important life lessons that I’ve learned from this drama.
The beginning of the drama is probably more fun, it gets a bit more depressing later on but it ends nicely. I really, really, miss this drama. It’s one of the only dramas that I’ve seen that I feel I won’t be able to get over for a while (the other two being Someday or One Day and The Untamed). I don’t want to watch other dramas now, I really miss watching this.
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Almost had it
The first episode was awful at engaging the viewer. I had to force myself into continuing because I am a fan of Victoria's. The drama was just okay but it completely falls apart when you realize the male and female lead have no chemistry!!! It felt like a waste of time because I didn't believe they loved each other (nor did the female lead ever state explicitly why she loved the ml). Victoria had better chemistry with the 2nd male lead and that part was the most interesting. Song Weilong was pretty good and I am a fan of his now. I enjoyed the supporting cast and wanted to see their stories more.Was this review helpful to you?
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I started this drama because of Victoria but definitely stayed for Song Wei Long. Victoria's character is really irritating in my opinion. HFX started off this strong and beautiful woman and just became somewhat of an indecisive mess. Don't get me wrong, I completely understand that the drama is about her learning to overcome these insecurities and fight for her love but the effort is kind of laking. HFX is definitely in love with YS but at the same time has little problem playing along with YLM. But more than HFX, I find YLM to be worse consider his character is really manipulative when you consider what he's doing. He stayed by HFX as a friend with alternative intentions, and while he does seem to have genuine feelings for HFX, I honestly just find this man a little creepy. YS deserved better! though HFX does make it up to him at the end so its all good.I think this drama starts off amazing and is worth a try overall!
Victoria and Song Wei Long look very good together!
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Small Disappointments Add Up
I am having to take a significant pause in watching the rest of this series for several reasons:1. Stop petting her head: given the age/status difference, this seems wildly inappropriate even if meant affectionately. It minimizes her and what she is saying and never seems to really fit the scene.
2. Epic/profound fail on the Bechdel test: So far, 15 episodes in, there has not been one single conversation between women that is not about men -- getting one, keeping one, separating from one, marrying one -- they don't talk about work, family, pets, hobbies, dreams, hopes, or anything else without the overriding theme of "get man". Revolting.
3. Not by any stretch of the imagination, not even in remote, small villages, is any 32 year old woman that naive, oblivious, and unable to make logical inferences and sensible conclusions; this is like watching fruit rot -- it just gets worse and worse. If she's that stupid, she's certainly too stupid to earn a living, so doing this to a woman who is a senior administrator is beyond ridiculous and highly insulting. Let alone that it ignores the endless series of conversations about men, which in and of themselves would have given her a great deal of information.
4. Slapstick bits and hammy acting don't help: it's not frequent in most cases, but it is jarring and does not serve to advance the story.
5. College girls behaving like elementary school children with their dumb pranks, theatrics for attention, and outright doofy clothing in many instances.
That's it. If I can finish the series, I will because there some elements in other people's reviews that make me think it gets better.
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My advice to FL - "Trust yourself!"
I was excited to watch this series because older woman, younger man is one of my favourite tropes and a few of director Ding Zi Guang's dramas are in my watchlist. The series started off great (I love episode 1) but after 10+ episodes, I became frustrated. I dropped this series because I couldn't watch a self-pitying female lead and refused to waste almost 720 minutes on this mess.What I liked:
1) He Can Yang - He is the reason why I pushed through until episode 24. He is easygoing but dependable and caring. I like that he always offer to listen to one's concerns.
2) Best friends Song Xue and Yang Xiao Yu - I like scenes where three of them hang out. Song Xue gave great advice most of the time.
3) Song Wei Long - Wow, so handsome. I love his smile. He resembles Taehyun of kpop group Tomorrow x Together.
What I disliked:
1) He Fan Xing characterisation - She is hardworking, independent, level headed when it came to work. I liked her character at first but when she lied to her school friends about her boyfriend, I was livid! I also despice her for feeling sorry for herself even though she was the one that ended the relationship. I also dislike Fan Xing for confiding in Ye Lu Ming rather than in her best friends whenever she had relationship problems.
2) Ye Lu Ming - I liked him at first and understood his sadness about "the one who got away". However I don't like once he schemed his way into Fan Xing's family. Devious!
3) The romance - I enjoyed romance between Fan Xing and Yuan Song before the breakup. Since their relationship is secret / "forbidden", I think the director could have done more romance scenes e.g. in the store room, hidden touches, surprise kisses. Anyway I am disappointed by choices made by Fan Xing - she totally not believing in herself, that's why she dictating how her first love should be.
Favourite scene
When Fan Xing took care of Yuan Song when he was ill
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creeps me out
ngl the age difference between them doesn't sit right with me. I tried multiple times to watch it but the age difference is kinda concerning lmao. ngl the age difference between them doesn't sit right with me. I tried multiple times to watch it but the age difference is kinda concerning lmao. if this was the other way around with the age gaps this show would be canceled rightfully so. the acting was alright nothing to say there. ive only watched like 3 episodes. I don't know about the music.....Was this review helpful to you?
He Fanxing is figuring out what she wants from life and relationships - to be true to herself or societal/community approval. But, once it appeared all 40+ episodes would be He Fanxing stumbling around unsure, I considered dropping the show . . .
Positives: When He Fanxing and Yuan Song (young love interest) shared a screen there is great energy, and you could see why they are drawn to each other. There is surprisingly little screen time devoted to Yuan Song, and there's a lot more that could be done with the character. . .
Negatives: Ye Luming (older love interest) has 'red flags' written all over him from the start. He lies, stalks her, ingrates himself with her parents, is very physical and grabby, and uses all the pressure in the world. This is excused as just being an alpha/domineering CEO, but his hostility toward women that cry and fantasising/dreaming about stabbing them was a bridge too far. Once I realized he was staying on through the show, I stopped wanting to watch . . .
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