Find Yourself

I'm not really a vivid fan of the two actors. But when I've started watching the series I felt in love right away. One of the main factor is the main actors portrayed their roles very well not to mentioned that the guy name Yuan Song ( Song Wei Long) is really doing a great job on his acting. Together with the supporting actors, they really did a big impact also on the casting, from He Fanxiang supportive & bully brother to her loving and caring friends and bff Mr. Ye Luming ( ahahaha he's really funny though on this series ). To summarized it from ep 1 to 25, so far the story i like everything, the casts, and especially the storyline is still keeping me to watch and wait the succeeding episodes. Hope this well end a very good and happy ending drama..

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The beginning of the drama did provide some interesting dynamics as we learn He Fanxing has never had a boyfriend despite being passed the "marriage age" for women in China. I do like that she is an mature woman who has a great job. We are introduced to the first male lead Yuan Song who is 10 years her junior and while he is handsome, he is immature and always being late to work as an intern at Fanxing's workplace. Anyway, the story practically forces them into a relationship rather than gradually moving along. He Fanxing goes on a blind date with another guy Ye Limung only to tell him she likes someone else (Yuan Song). However Limung still really likes her and is always doting on her throughout. What I've noticed is that Fanxing is truly having fun and being herself when she is with Limung and always seems so tepid and stupid when with Yuan Song. Yuan Song is such a jerk in this drama I can't stand it, he will get mad at Fanxing for doing the same things that he does then manipulates her into thinking she's the bad guy! I absolutely do not understand why I should be rooting for this guy... I have not finished the show but i really don't see a reason to if she's just gonna end up with this young guy who has no money, constantly compares fanxing to his mother, still accepts gifts from his ex girlfriend and has no consideration for the main character. The second male lead is a far better choice in my opinion and I wish it would go that way. Limung has always been there for Fanxing and it's ridiculous if she chooses this loser young guy who doesn't even respect her enough to keep their relationship private. He seems like just a player to me, but oh well. Watch it if you like, there are some really funny and charming moments but none of those are with the first male lead. Also the side characters: Fanxing's family and two friend's are cool, the designer guy is cool, the girls in the office are okay, Limung's niece is dumb and annoying.

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Ugh. This drama honestly got me more annoyed with Fanxing than anything. She is supposed to be the much older one, but Yuan Song is 100x more mature in terms of their relationship. This drama did not have to be 41 episodes of her saying no and him fighting for her. Also, justice for Ye Luming. He deserved so much better. He truly cared about Fanxing and supported her in every way, but she could not reciprocate it. Even till the end, he knew Fanxing wanted to break up with her, but he did it first to save her the guilt. Plus, Cai Minmin’s voice was something I could never get used to. Fanxing’s dad getting early Alzheimer’s was heartbreaking too, but I wanted more expansion on that onto what ended up happening.

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Liked: The scenes of Shanghai; the music; the acting by Victoria Song, Wang Yaoqing, and Yang Zhiying; the characters Ye Luming and Wu Yei Min; the friendships between He Fanxing and her buddies and between He Fanxing and Ye Luming; and the way the drama handled the issues with the father. Bonus point: Lots of cute dogs.

Did not like: Any of the romances. The age gap in the two primary romances was exacerbated by the immaturity of the younger half of each couple. Relationships between teacher and student always make me uncomfortable but the one here was made worse by how naive and childlike the student was contrasted against a teacher who was depicted as something of a rake. As for the main couple, I found Yuan Song irritating and selfish. It bothered me, for example, when he pursued He Fanxing then “teased” her about sexual harrassment (that's not funny and is pretty passive aggressive); tried to out her without consulting her first (I’d be ticked off if someone had done that to me, too); and most of all, the way he made her grovel at the end. All of the other relationships (including the parents’) were also problematic in one way or another.

I look forward to the inevitable sequel: Find Yourselves Divorce Lawyers.

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I CRIED WATCHING THIS SHOW

*spoilers alert*
This show started off good but after the main couple broke up everything went downhill. The decisions main lead made were just wtf. When she broke up with the younger guy it was reasonable and I could see why she did that but then she went on and dated the older guy which made me cry out of frustration. Then u would think the younger guy would give up, no he didn’t. I honestly thought that this show would be realistic about dating but und fortunately no it wasn’t. Both of the guys were basically experiments for her she doesn’t like one of them she moved onto the other one which pissed me off. The younger guy himself is stupid like no one would just wait around for their ex like this guy did.
Other than that the other couples are literally so cuteeee. I only continued watching the show for the other couples.

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When Relatable Turns Exhausting: The Age-Gap Angst Olympics

📝 Review (WARNING: Potential Spoilers — I’m Not Saving You from Emotional Damage)

Alright, real talk—this is the classic older woman, younger man trope with a 10-year age gap.

What really got to me was He Fan Xing’s reactions to the younger man. It was obvious she liked him, yet she kept obsessing over the age difference. And yes, it’s relatable—society still stigmatizes older women dating younger men while older men with younger women? Totally fine. The double standard is real.

But in this show? She took it to the extreme. I mean, it almost turned me off the whole Older Woman, Younger Man C-drama trope for a while. Not because the drama is bad—the actors are fine, the story works—but the FL’s overthinking was just… exhausting.

And let’s be honest, the societal pressure angle? It’s too relatable. Women who are unmarried or divorced get treated as “less desirable” in dramas (and sometimes in real life). Thankfully, things are slowly improving, but Asian dramas love to milk this for angst.

So, yeah, I get her hesitation. I really do. But this one dragged it out enough that I couldn’t fully enjoy it.

The leads are competent, and the chemistry is there when it matters, but for me, this isn’t a rewatch. Not a favorite, just… fine.

💭 Final Mood:

“Relatable in a frustrating way. Okay acting, story meh. 3/5. Definitely not climbing my favorites list or getting a second watch.”

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Enjoyed this very much, especially FM. Although it was hard to believe her naivete and lack of experience at her age, particularly considering how good looking she is and successful in career, i still liked the storyline. I did think it made more sense for her to fall for the 2nd ML though as they were very compatible, and did seem to make a great couple, but that is why i love these A-dramas- lots of implausibility which makes it enjoyable to watch for me.
As alluded to, i really loved the female lead. I think she did a great job with this role. I found her very sexy, not just because she is hot (she looked awesome in every outfit), but because of that naivete, inexperienced way she portrayed the character. It was so adorable to see, even though hard to believe in such an older lady. I still like the sexy cougars, and aggressive types, however there is something very alluring about this character.
I'm from the USA and have pretty much dedicated my leisure watching to Asian productions. I love all the cultural differences, and they seem to be prevalent in all the shows i have watched, from Chinese, Taiwan to Korean and others. First- food. Americans like to eat just to eat, but in all these shows food is a most important aspect of every day life. so cool to see that. Second- the family hierarchy and the conflict about how things should and ought to be. In USA, it is pretty much, do what makes you happy and others have to accept it. In these shows, everything is decided on in lots of cases based on what is expected of you, or how others would perceive you- very fascinating. it is what makes these series 30-40 episodes long in most cases. Third- the age difference scenario- makes a good storyline
Anyway, I digress a little. I really liked this drama...lots of tender moments, lots of anguish for both leads and other characters and a nice happy ending. Great stuff, particularly during these difficult times we are going through now. Will be looking for more of these types of shows now that i have to stay in the house for the next 6-8 weeks, ugh!

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Favorite Noona Drama - Followup Movie would be nice

Watched earlier this year and one of the few I have rewatched couple of times (continue to find things I missed). Realize late review as FYS was released in 20/filmed 19. I d'ont get all the negative reviews about Victoria Song's acting nor the 11.5 age difference given the noona story. Nor the lower rating that than "The Rational Life" 8.2 (comments also less negative about the lead, who I like, who is 20 years older in real life and played about 10 years younger). Whereas VS played her own age and Song Wei Long played older but convincingly). I enjoyed the relationship, chemistry, and skinship in FYS... made sense as FL was emotionally much younger than chronogical age). Whereas with TRL low chemistry, family was toxic mother and his likable mom... vs FYS He family (enjoyed her twin though his final GF not believable), and FL didn't have long term friendships like Fan Xing in FYS. The RL had much fewer filming locations, humor, only one family relationship that was toxic, one or two quick kisses, and a happy ending that probably won't last. Not going to happen but would love a FYS sequel movie showing two leads married... PS been using this site for year and finally did first review today :)

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A good watch

I usually don't like watching drama that has more than 24 episodes. This drama with 41 episodes is a long watch. But, it is good one to watch and you should give it a try.
It is a struggle of a 32 year old woman in love with a guy in his 20's. Song Weilong as the main lead, Yuan Song, was amazing. Victoria Song as He Fan Xing has also portrayed her character well. But, her character was really dumb most of the times. You can relate to her woes of dating a younger guy. But, the way she treated him was too much. She started the affair knowing that he is young. Then she breaks up with him and tries to date Ye Lu Ming. Even when she was dating Yuan Song she introduces Ye Lu Ming as her boyfriend to her college mates. After she broke up with Yuan Song she talks to him about dating and marrying Ye Lu Ming. All this after a badminton match with Ye Song. She knows that Ye Song is hurt but tries to built a future for herself with another guy. She was insincere about her feelings to herself, Yuan Song and Ye Lu Ming. Well, if she was so fearful about societal pressures she shouldn't have started the affair. I somehow disliked her smiling and trying to act cute in front of Ye Lu Ming.
I also didn't understand why in the drama they had always commented that Ye Lu Ming as a handsome guy. The actor who portrayed He Fan Xing's father looked younger to me than Ye Lu Ming. They could have casted a younger guy I guess. But, he is a good actor and has done a nice job. He Can Yang and Cai Min Min was really cute. I really liked them. The family ties shown between He Fang Xing, He Can Yang and their parents is heartwarming . It is really cute seeing the twin sibling bond and how the parents always showed favourtism to He Fang Xing. They are the best parents out there. Also, the friendship between the girls is enviable. It was fun watching the colleagues too. There is no scheming and villainous character in the drama which I actually liked.
NB : I loved the dogs too :)

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