My Housekeeper Nagisa-san

Where is the romance?

I’m confused. I was curious enough after reading the synopsis to give it a go. After finishing the show, I’m none the wiser.

In trying to clear up my confusion, I took a step back and examined the fundamentals. Firstly, for a romantic drama to succeed, we must want to ship the OTP. In all honesty, I can’t. Their brief declaration of love feels hollow. They delivered the lines as directed. Nothing more.

Secondly, the OTP must have chemistry. There is none. I have no problem with age gap love and there are certainly good examples. However, the ML repeatedly stated that he wants to be a mum. Someone who will look after his clients with care and dedication. This he certainly did with single-minded professionalism. So, the FL loves a man who is old enough to be her father and acts like a surrogate mum. This is messed up. I don't feel their attraction at all. Yes, there is dependency and dedication (plus a bit of wishful thinking by the older ML) but my heart steadfast refused to flutter.

I’m not saying that this can’t happen. Heck, so many sageuk dramas are based on a high-born person falling in love with a servant (or contemporary bosses with secretaries for that matter). However, you'd expect some chemistry if not outright sexual tension. In this case, it is more like someone mistaking caring, concern and duty as love. The fact that the FL has mommy issue doesn't help. Even the FL's proposal of a trial marriage smacks of desperation. Excuse the French, this is arse backwards.

This is confirmed after they started the trial marriage near the end of the series, they are running through roles and responsibilities, and the ML raised the question of children. The FL was shocked. It is as if she never thought about s-e-x. Will they live in a platonic relationship forever? This is how romantic their relationship is from their own perspective. How can we see it any other way?

In fact, so much of their interactions are formal and stilted. This is not helped by the fact that as soon as the ML appear on the scene, the FL is chased by 2 very eligible bachelors. Her rejection of both is expected but baffling.

OBTW, you can forget about skinship. There is none. He did try to lift her up once in an embrace but ends up hurting his back. That's more sad than funny.

The show is not bad per se. It is well acted and all the standard bits are there. It is obvious where the story is heading so I kept looking for the usual rom-com tropes and triggers. They are few and far between. It is as if the production deliberately went for a "what-if" scenario just to mess with us. It is an oddity even by Japanese standard. Peace.

P.S. The original series is 9 episodes long. There is a “special” episode. This is included in the Netflix version as ep.10. It is basically a 1.5 hrs recap of the entire series with a contrived exposition on their version of love. Gawd help them if they need to go this far to justify their brand of logic. I’m still none the wiser.

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