
jazme:
Forgive me for being ignorant, but i don't know the difference between BL. To be honest, I only know lesb, gay, bi. The other categories or letters after that I'm already confused
T=trans (transgender)
Q=questioning
I=intersex (people born with biological traits of both male and female, or something in between)
A=asexual (people who don’t want to be in a sexual relationship to varying degrees) or aromantic (people who don’t want to be in a romantic relationship to varying degrees)
BL or Yaoi vs LGBTQIA content/History of BLs
in the 1970s in Japan, women started writing MLM (men loving men) romances (manga or graphic novels) targeted at an audience of women. Most of the women reading and writing were straight. These were called Yaoi in Japanese. I don’t know if most or all were very explicit at first. These evolved into a range of mlm romance mangas of varying degrees of explicit content. i don’t know exactly when, but they gained popularity outside of Japan and other Asian countries starting writing similar content, in both graphic and non-graphic novels. These were called various names in each country but the term BL (boy love), became popular to encompass all of it.
in 2014, Thailand made the high school series Love Sick, the first live-action series adaptation of one of these novels. (Before then countries in Asia made mlm live action content, but these were mostly “pink films,” which combined stories with what was basically porn. A few series and movies were made that weren’t Pink Films but they generally weren’t for a mainstream audience.) After Love Sick, Thailand slowly started making more and more BL shows. Asian BL shows didn’t become really popular outside Asia until COVID. Since then the genre has taken off. Most BLs still follow romance tropes and the majority of fans around the world are still straight women.
while BL is no longer written only by women for women, many people in the gay community don’t feel these shows are a realistic representation of the queer experience. when Shows like Love in the Big City or Shine came out, many people preferEd to call them LGBTQIA because they go beyond what traditional BLs typically depict, and are much more true to life.
I have been watching a lot of videos arguing about whether BLs serve the gay community or make a fetish of it. The answer is, it depends on the show and the viewer. Some people particularly feel that focusing on things like “top” and “bottom” is especially disrespectful.
I am pansexual (this is like bi, but includes being attracted to people who don’t identify as male or female. Some people say it means I love/am attracted regardless of gender.) I am married to a female/nonbinary (neither completely male or completely female) person. Because of this, and just as an intelligent person, I feel I’m allowed to speak to this issue. I think that most romances aren’t realistic, nor do i believe they need to be. The problem is when people don’t know the difference between fantasy and reality.
i Am glad BLs sometimes address issues like homophobia, parental expectations, and marriage rights. But I also want escapist content from all kinds of romances.
as far as how much we focus on sex or top and bottom in BLs, I don’t know if men who love men are bothered by this. I don’t need to know this information unless I am trying to understand the logistics of a particular sex scene. I like details to make it real. But I also like when BLs change the typical scenario so it’s not so formulaic.
There is actually still more to say, but since people have whole YouTube channels about this, there will always be more to say.
if you have other questions you don’t want to ask here you can message me anytime. I don’t consider any question inappropriate. I’m serious. I was a sex Ed teacher.
sorry for the super long answer to your very simple question.