Lemonschist:
@Popcxqueen
The system wouldn't allow me to quote your response, so I am doing it below your post.
Saying something is problematic doesn't mean it is wrong. Saying something is problematic is just a nonsense word used to silence an observation you don't like. Using the worst of stereotypical female personality traits as character quirks or weaknesses in the male character just shows both sexes in a bad light. Just as they try to use the worst of stereotypical male personality traits in their GirlBoss characters. Either way it makes the character shallow and easy to dismiss, even if it is a lead. If it is used for comedic purposes, I don't mind it, but when it is used to show an aspect of the character's personality then I find it reduces my interest in the character's development and relationships.
It's not a nonsense word and I'm not silencing you by using it. On the contrary, you're dismissing my concerns about your wording. I'm expressing an opinion that as a women, it feels shitty to hear "effeminate" being used as a negative, as if men can't "act like women" because that somehow diminishes their manhood and makes them look bad. (It's also often homophobic.)
We can agree to disagree about this. If seeing a man squeal because he's afraid of a bug really makes you lose interest in the entire rest of the drama, I don't know what to tell you.
