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the writer did great job though. the only flaw is her love life. look at what she did for her friends and family. she put her noble image and pride aside to work for her family. she got wonderful idea of using those coins and created a business. she protects even those that intally hated her like her bff’s maid and baby. she is not selfish, she didn’t runaway with the ml bc she knew the harm that would put her family. she was willingly to marry she didn’t love for her family stability and security.

how does she push guilt onto him ?
she believed he was dead, how is she wrong to move on after 3 years ? he never wrote her any letter during those 3 years and than his closet person told her he was dead. why is it wrong to marry the officer ? why blame her for that ? Also how is she wrong to believe the offfier ? the male lead himself said he never went to that island, she questioned him before and he himself said that.
she married the officer to save her family, at that time how long can a noble women stay unmarried ? imagine if she ran away with the male lead, the shame and discrimination her family would face. she has a family to take care of and need someone that will provide for them. the officer brings her security and protection for her family. the male lead can not do that bc he can not stay in one place for long.
you are examining her from your modern day privileged mindset.

it is not double standards though. bc there are many kdrma in which the male lead is dating someone else, and is talking to another woman. on this website there is even list for shows in which male lead is player and womenier. there are list for drama in which male lead is in love with another woman besides the female lead. it is that common.
the only reason why it is toxic is bc the sfl is has bad character such as trying to ruin the female lead. however if the sfl has a good personality, she is praised. I can’t find one drama in which the sfl is a good person but is hated by female viewers. can you give example of ml being called toxic and red flag for simply talking to sfl ?
even under this article, people are not calling him toxic. they are just hating the fact that he might not end up with the female lead. you do realize in the drama my dearest, he does hang out and drink with women in ep 9. for that time period, that is scandalous activity. however no one had issue with that. the viewers are mostly upset bc they want fl and ml to stay together.

Japanese shows are actually mostly catered to men, I am saying this based on data of demographics breakdown.

I respect your opinion, I understand there are less sfl however it is not double standards. bc when shoes target men and a show has mostly male views, there wouldn’t be SML. however they will be male lead with many women and Harlem. that is not double standards but differences in male and female fantasies. romance kdrama with has mostly female viewers thus it will have mostly female catering theme. Japanese shows cater lot to men so they have male characters with many women but the women having no SML.
btw I have no issue with sfl and I don’t have issue with men wanting to watch shows the man having many women.
however it is not double standards at all, it is all about shows havign target audience

that bc it is female fantasies, women like show where the male lead is loyal to female lead.
just like how male fantasies like Harlem and havign all the women loyal male lead. you might want to find kdrama that target men, you will have easier time finding sfl.
shows are also about making money and will have to cater to what the most viewers also like. but that is not double standards bc both male and female have fantasies that is seen as unfair to the other gender. it is not double standards but just different wants.

I wasn’t replying that to you but to the User called “the watcher 73505 “.
I know you are defending your opinion and have no issue with our discussion. Idk why it comes under you when I clicked his reply. sorry

I brought up anime bc lot of anime fans are men. so many anime shows target men thus they have male fantasies themes. you mentioned that men don’t complain so I brought up anime male fans to show that men do complain. whenever show targets men, and it acts in ways that is out of male fantasies, men to complain. male reaction videos on YouTube and Reddit posts are proof.
as for romance kdrama, I would say 70-90 percent are female viewers so often it will have female fantasies themes. look at the data on demographic breakdown on romance especially kdrma, men make small percentage.
also men do complain about SML, they think female lead is for the street and thot for flirting with other men. even women drag female leads. often times both men and women have no issue with male lead being player of womenier but will hate on women that sleep around. you can watch Korean male reaction videos that have eng sub, nowadays many do. you can see they don’t like female lead havign many male interest
it wasn’t even until recent years that there are female leads in kdrama that had sex outside of marriage.
I bring up Japanese and anime bc it has much much large male watchers thus it is easier to understand how men would react to these things.

disagreeing doesn’t mean not taking. why post public comments if you can’t handle anyone disagreeing

men don’t complain? that is the biggest lie you have told. not only do men complain, men drag and rage over female characters. have you been to anime fan pages on Reddit ? they drag female characters that have multiple love interest. why do you think haram them anime is so popular ? male viewers do not have issue with the male lead cheating and sexually harassing female characters like in “Death March” but will call female Characters “hoe” “sluts” “loose” and “for the street” these are the exact words from men btw. men complain especially anime fan males complain a lot more.
how is it double standards? men do not like female characters having Multiple partners or having many male surrounding her.
if this show targeted men, there would have been rage from men if the female had SML. however the show targeted women and if you look at the data on Korean viewership a lot of them are women. you
look at movies and drama that target male audiences and are you really going to tell me, men do not mind female charter having mutiple male ? really ?

you should try Japanese shows. a lot of them tend to be targeting men so there is many sfl and harlem theme. Korean shows tend to target women

if she was typical feminine woman, she would have been killed during the war. her friend would have been raped and killed herself.

she can’t just travel with him. she has a father that is mentally ill, a sister and brother to care for. she couldn’t go with him before.
we have to think about the time period, a woman that runs away with a man, the amount of shame and discrimination the family would face. her sister wouldn’t be able to find a man to marry even. remember from work 4, where they said woman’s chavsity is most important thing and that it is better for the woman to kill herself then to lose it. him asking her to run away is too selfish of him

so you have seen “a love to kill” but you don’t see how toxic and aggressive male leads are praised ? look at how he aggressively and emotionally tortures her bc of misunderstanding about his brother. yet you say male leads have to be kind and caring ? he humiliated and then throws pity party for himself when the truth is uncovered.

of course it becomes more memorable for you, you are man. why do you think so many anime shows have harem theme ? bc men like those things. movies and shows targeting men have harem relationships. but why do men come here and play victims over shows that target women as audience?
btw “ love to kill” has male lead that blames and emotionally tortures the woman without knowing the full story as he blames her for how his brother turned out. he is aggressive and curls. yet people see it as love story.

I think this going to be endless cycle of argument.
the reason why this drama do not want sfl is bc they want ml and fl to be together. these two characters are so well written and it is currently one of top show in Korea. people are invested so much into the show. look at Lorena commenters and reactions, they are really into the show and two leads. they do not want second female lead nor second male lead. they want the two leads only. yes it would have gotten the same reactions bc people were raging and hating the fact that GC might marry that officer. they even said they will not watch the show anymore if she gets married bc it will leave bad taste and ruin the love story. people were hating and annoyed that fl focus too much time on her first love. do you even read the reaction from Korean YouTube pages ? you can use English translation.

this website has Asian drama which includes Thai drama that is why I brought it up. if you want to focus on Korean then that is fine. we can focus on that.

Her first love did want her but felt like he could not handle her. That is also why she had hard time moving on bc she knew he liked her but was hesitant. Remember in ep where he is drunk and lead her on again ?

“ Yes, we all want these two together, but no one ever mentions the romance, chemistry, and flirting between the FL and SML as a negative”
But they do, they literally drag female lead for not deciding and playing their their emotions. Do you read the comments of those shows with love triangle ?
You are making loud and wrong claims lol.
Many times it is male lead that is mean and arrogant. That is also why so many people liked this drama bc ml didn’t have many of that toxic masculine traits that we see in many drama

“ ML's you mention that are playboys or toxic, are only given those names for merely rejecting a FL, or even giving some attention to a female character other than the FL. ”
Now that are straight up lies!
For merely rejecting ? No they are called playboys bc they sleep with endless women and use women like toys. So many drama in which male lead sleeps around and leads the other women to play with their emotions and the female lead is the good girl that makes him better person.
So many drama in which male lead is toxic bc he treats fl like objects and acts over possessive. So many drama in which male lead forces himself and kisses the female lead. There is even slap/kids category in Thai drama. Look up rape theme in Thai drama and see how common it is.
So many male lead are arrogant and disrespectful. Actually there are way more drama in which male lead is disrespectful and the female lead is the innocent/good girl. There is even category for bad boy/good girl. But bargirl is rare in drama. Just finished watching Chinese drama “goodbye my princess” the male lead is so emotionally abusive that the ending is fl committing suicide”, he killed those she cares about just so he can trap her and make her his. Yet many people still shipping him with her. Have you seen fl lead act that way ?
The only good point you made is that there are not many second female lead that i agree. That is bc second female lead are made as crazy and toxic. However if they are not toxic then they get praised. Like the drama “ “doctor stranger” many people loved second female lead way more then female lead.

She is teenager during a time in which woman’s main purpose was to find a husband, it made sense why she was oppressed and childish

The male lead literally said in ep about feminine women, he didn’t like it. The reason why he was drawn to her was bc she was shameless and bold about her first love.