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Not all people who do take teachings are dumb, many are adolescents who are not mature enough and impressionable that’s why I am concerned. Like I said I find it impossible to forgive because of my own experience in which our relation wasn’t “exciting enough” to prevent “ a moment of weakness” . Different circumstances can happen & lead to it I agree but for me I think if there are issues then communicate rather than going to someone else I mean what will you exactly gain by sleeping with someone else? An orgasm and then what? Guilt and hurt will follow from both sides and like I said it’s not really a mistake, it’s a long process so while doing it if you didn’t think of your partner or their feelings then what does that say? If you can forgive it then kudos to you it’s not easy and it’s your choice so I respect it but I can’t unless it was while the partner was drunk then I think I can forgive, also the scene show in this drama wasn’t cheating at all, even if they had slept together then also it can’t be classified as cheating…………..

I will watch it thanks for the suggestion, I know cheating is quite complex and different circumstances can lead to it and majorly it’s not forgivable for me because I know how hurtful it is so watching it and reflecting on it can be quite different and interesting

Acceptance is there and it’s increasing as we can see from the growing success of the bl industry and slowly change is coming to the themes too before we had only university themed ones with no substance in it but now we are getting better ones which talk about real life struggles like in moonlight chicken and the upcoming bl which will talk about trauma of religion and sexuality clash which is quite anticipated too

The reason why I mentioned the cheating plots of bls is because many people take moral lessons from it, I don’t see it as an example for real relationships personally but many others do as most of the audience base is teenagers which sort of molds their mind about the relationships that’s why I mentioned this and why is it immature if someone doesn’t want to forgive cheating?? For me personally regardless of what is show in dramas cheating can’t be justified, it’s a choice not a mistake, if there’s a bump in the relationship talk about it and have a healthy communication, why go behind your partner’s back and hurt them?? If you don’t wanna be monogamous it’s completely fine but talk about it with your partner and have an open relationship but you can’t expect me to be all forgiving for a person who for example goes and have one night stand after a fight with their partner and the next day asks for forgiveness by saying “ I am sorry I was angry so I made a mistake”. I know fiction shows are for entertainment but many people watch it as an example about how relationships work,there are many examples about how fiction affects decision of people irl that’s why I mentioned bls, not everyone is mature enough to interpret it correctly.A person deliberately sleeping with someone else knowing their partner will be hurt doesn’t deserve forgiveness according to me but if you want to forgive them it’s your choice. I can respect that but you can’t say I am being judgemental for not wanting to forgive them and I am saying this from personal experience,I have never come to such conclusion from any bl drama, I know how much cheating hurts even if it’s done only once so no I can’t forgive a cheater,if there’s a bump or problem then talk it out before turning to someone else, if not working break up or open it up rather than betraying someone’s trust.My moral lessons don’t come from bls, it’s from my own real life experience, when I see cheating happening in dramas that I watch for entertainment it hits close to home that’s why I get touchy on it,it
doesn’t mean I am taking lessons from the dramas rather I was projecting my experience on it which is honestly something many people do, it might take me some time to tolerate it in dramas as I haven’t completely moved on from the hurt personally but I know not to take moral guidance from dramas unfortunately many people don’t and that’s why it shouldn’t be glorified

At least lakhs of people watch bls all over to world and different content is coming up there are so many examples lie gmmtv new upcoming shows, dmd has a few different upcoming shows, pit babe, the sign, goddess bless you from death, interminable etc………. And it’s true majority of bl viewers want happy ending otherwise they get low rating as it happened with some bls before so they tread the cheating line in grey areas mostly like they did with only friends even then many fans didn’t like the couple due to that

Then would you rather have one partner cheat? For me personally I don’t mind cheating plot as long as the couple don’t end up together as cheating means the person doesn’t care about their partner, if you really want to be with someone else then talk to your partner and break up or open the relationship but cheating is not forgivable, if they show cheating then the partner who got cheated should break up and move on, if they show this then I won’t have any issue but unfortunately many times forgiveness happens which sort of shows it’s ok to cheat as your partner will forgive anyways

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I haven't watched it yet but kim isn't one of the mc while elyes is right? does that mean there's cheating in this??

can you give the spoiler about who cheats on whom??

but in reality many families especially in asia won't accept same sex love so this choosing love over family is a reality for many couples, what really would be annoying is if he marries a woman just for his family which unfortunately is also a reality for many so having courage to choose freedom and live for happiness is a message that is needed for many queer people

then how is that considered a bl?? they should have mentioned it's only about friendship and not have bl..........

does this mean the bl couple doesn't end up together?? what happens to them?