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Why Every Butch Deserves a Jane, Not a Pie
As a butch myself, watching Yes or No was a journey of mixed emotions. While I love the visibility, I have to be honest: Pie’s personality is not romantic—it’s a nightmare in the real world.
Pie starts the relationship with heavy prejudice, and unfortunately, she never outgrows that "self-centered" mindset. In the real world, a partner like Pie is a second battlefield. She is high-maintenance and demanding, constantly refusing to share your interests. For example, Pie turning off Kim’s video game while she was playing was incredibly rude and dismissive. Kim showed genuine interest in Pie’s hobbies, even bringing her a jellyfish aquarium, but we never see Pie reciprocate. Even when helping with Kim’s university project outdoors, Pie did nothing but whine about being there during the holidays.
Her lack of trust is also incredibly destructive. In the scene where Jane kisses Kim, it was visible that Kim had an eye mask on and couldn't see. Instead of using common sense, Pie jumped to the idea of cheating and destroyed Kim’s thoughtful gift in a fit of rage. She loves Kim in the dark but rejects her in the light to protect her own image.
While Pie whined about Kim’s university tree project, Jane was quietly nurturing a plant of her own to understand Kim's passion. Pie was ashamed and rejected Kim in front of her mom, while Jane was proud—she flirted openly and fought for Kim’s attention without shame.
As a butch, it was impossible not to fall in love with Jane. My heart ached for her because she represents the genuine sweetness and good heart we actually crave. Jane showed "brave softness." She didn't find Kim shameful; she leaned into Kim’s world and gave the kind of silent, honest support that is the real prize.
A warning to my fellow butches: Don't let the "Happy Ending" fool you. If you check the sequel, the jealousy and toxicity only get worse. Girls like Pie rarely change because they think their lover’s job is to "endure" their flaws. Kim might have chosen Pie, but any butch who knows her worth would have chosen Jane in a heartbeat.
Pie starts the relationship with heavy prejudice, and unfortunately, she never outgrows that "self-centered" mindset. In the real world, a partner like Pie is a second battlefield. She is high-maintenance and demanding, constantly refusing to share your interests. For example, Pie turning off Kim’s video game while she was playing was incredibly rude and dismissive. Kim showed genuine interest in Pie’s hobbies, even bringing her a jellyfish aquarium, but we never see Pie reciprocate. Even when helping with Kim’s university project outdoors, Pie did nothing but whine about being there during the holidays.
Her lack of trust is also incredibly destructive. In the scene where Jane kisses Kim, it was visible that Kim had an eye mask on and couldn't see. Instead of using common sense, Pie jumped to the idea of cheating and destroyed Kim’s thoughtful gift in a fit of rage. She loves Kim in the dark but rejects her in the light to protect her own image.
While Pie whined about Kim’s university tree project, Jane was quietly nurturing a plant of her own to understand Kim's passion. Pie was ashamed and rejected Kim in front of her mom, while Jane was proud—she flirted openly and fought for Kim’s attention without shame.
As a butch, it was impossible not to fall in love with Jane. My heart ached for her because she represents the genuine sweetness and good heart we actually crave. Jane showed "brave softness." She didn't find Kim shameful; she leaned into Kim’s world and gave the kind of silent, honest support that is the real prize.
A warning to my fellow butches: Don't let the "Happy Ending" fool you. If you check the sequel, the jealousy and toxicity only get worse. Girls like Pie rarely change because they think their lover’s job is to "endure" their flaws. Kim might have chosen Pie, but any butch who knows her worth would have chosen Jane in a heartbeat.
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