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Waste of potential

This could have been so much more. At first it felt relatable and realistic, it showed the reality of relationships, the torture of not knowing what you want. But I feel like the writers messed up.

1- I think they should’ve not tried to make Mido appear in a good light despite all the harm she caused, they should have make her appear like a real human who makes mistakes, shows regrets and recognize she was the one at fault. It was pretty annoying to see her always acting like the victim and trying to make people pity her, but especially Namgung. I don’t blame her for her mistakes, it’s real situations that happen, but her reactions were not relatable and just selfish which resulted in most viewers not liking her (if it was the writers intentions then it’s a success). I know she suffered and still suffers, but it doesn’t mean she can’t try to make up fort her actions (= letting Namgung be free)

2- Because maybe the problem was that she never really knew anyone but him, and I think it’s risky to engage with someone if you didn’t try with other people before. That way she would have realized that someone making her feel something doesn’t mean the person is right for her. But once again she wanted to have Namgung and still feel new things. In real life we can get in that kind of situations and I feel like it would have been a great lesson to show Mido make a choice, cause in life we often have to take difficult decisions that our heart doesn’t want to take and that we are thankful we made in the future. In this situation the best option would have been to let Namgung be free sooner, try new things, realize she messed up and a) he was the one and come back to him or b) don’t center her life around men and heal as a single person.

3- I didn’t like the fact that because she is a tortured person she has the right to hurt people. She was depicted as lost, but also selfish only thinking about herself. She stayed with Namgung because she felt guilty towards him and she was attached to him and their memories but I don’t feel like she really loved him (or maybe only as someone she knew her whole life, just like I love my sister). It was confortable being with him and she wanted to keep it that way, she gave him mixed signals, every time she came back she did not care if it hurt him or not. And she also often blamed him, gaslighting him into thinking he was also at fault when I don’t really see where it’s the case.

4- As for him, his character was plain, never taking decisions, waiting for Mido to decide, not realizing their relationship was toxic. I think he loved her but at the same time also felt guilty towards her and her family, and I think he could not break free until Mido made the first move. That’s why when she cheated he should have had self respect and leave her. And the idea of letting her explore her feelings for another man wasn’t a bad idea, but it shouldn’t have been a 1 month thing, they also should have had no contact and try to really connect with other people. Them being constantly in each other lives made it hard for them to really engage with other partners.

5- the two Sml are clowns without self respect. It wasn’t realistic at all, you can’t love someone so much that you always let yourself get compared to your partner's ex. Someone in their right mind should just not try to go out with people still attached to their ex, and WHO the hell wants a one month relationship like wtf. The writers treated our Sml like the biggest clowns on earth. And I don’t get why they didn’t let the characters get intimate with their new partners, there was no chemistry at all which makes the ending hard to understand. It feels like the trial month was for nothing but all of a sudden they want to have long term relationships with Sml.

6- The second male lead had so much potential. But once the trial month started they made him pathetic, he wasn’t the psycho he was before. I didn’t get why him and Mido got together anymore, she was only crying and not as chaotic as before. I think they should have gone all the way and make them have a passionate, toxic and self destructive relationship to a) teach Mido a lesson and b) make them stick to their character of selfish and toxic people. They didn’t have to show us the good side of the lawyer, that’s not what we liked about him anyway.

7- If I was the writer (which I’m not), I would have made this drama a realistic life lesson on the difficulties of love, feelings, feeling lost and I would have focused on the growth of the characters, making them understand who they are, what they want and maybe making them understand they have to see a therapist. I would have made Mido and Namgung break up, learn to love themselves, get away from guilt, and try to discover other people. I would have make them go through difficult things, specially Mido who always hid behind Namgung, so that she learns how to live by herself. I really think they should have broke up sooner and maybe by the end of the drama meet again to talk about how their relationship was a blessing and that the ending was an even greater one since they never learned to live by themselves before. The real act of love would have been to stay away from each other not constantly getting back to each other (or maybe a few times at the beginning and then realize they have to go no contact)

Anyway, it was a mess, I don’t even know why I wrote so much about it. I’m just frustrated the writers didn’t make it more relatable. I don’t think I wouldn’t like Mido if she was written differently. I like characters who make mistakes, but they never made her learn the lesson or grow. We, women, are so much more than tortured, selfish or emotional, we make mistakes, we learn from them, and it angers me to once again see this image of evil, selfish women in a show.

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