Olddiva

But you were “well off” and culturally astute. In such families, there is always a dump bucket, or someone acting out the craziness of the family. Xiao Fan was the dump bucket, disrespected by all family members. That’s why I’m anxious to see his growth, to learn the power of “NO!”

None of us could enter into a world of wealth, power, and class, with an unrefined, uneducated, unlearned background and display strength and confidence. One either withdraws or becomes combative—both due to feelings of inadequacy. Plus, Xiao Fan has to please both families. His strength is becoming a great cook, to please LuQing, his one security blanket. I believe he will grow stronger, as he becomes educated academically and socially…and learn how to fight. Will probably assume characteristics of LuQing. Loving this show!

Like you, I’m suspecting Tao is attracted to Xiao Fan, after all, it was he who informed Lu Qing of him being beaten. Don’t watch a lot of BL, but glad I tuned into this one.

Soulmate, you really have to decide for yourself what is important to YOU, in a show. Things move at a faster pace today, and young people don’t have the experience or knowledge of slow living, and how some people just take their time in getting it right for THEM! No matter how frustrating, the ML was methodical and/or unsure about everything. On the side, I love this actor and glad to see him as a lead. The FL is young and I see a great future for her, as well.

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