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Soapy!!!
This show is like Young and Restless meets Bold and Beautiful - Chinese version. This is a soap Opera !!! Que the dramatic songs š© If you are looking for poj or similar, this aināt it. This show is packed with lots of twist and turns and most of all DRAMA!!!! If you are not into messy situations and drama, then donāt watch this . Now for those of you who like a drama with lots of tea šµ, sit back and enjoy!First let me say, the acting is great. I definitely can not stand Ren Susu. For an actor/actress to invoke an emotion from you like a a strong like or hate, then they are the character they have become. So letās get into the spoilers!!
REN Susu dated Qingyi back in the days and she ends up getting shot and is presumed ādeadā. Qingyi hasnāt let go of his first love who is Susu. Fast forward 3 years later, his brother is getting married and so is he. But guess who his brother is marrying, REN FREAKING Susu, his dead lover. š± yes and from there itās been nothing but drama and more drama. Now I have to give it to qingyi, because it could not have been me. At the engagement ceremony, everyone would have to know about my past with her especially my brother. He would have known that night. Cause what you mean , you marrying my brother?!!𤨠clearly he is still hung up on her and this carries on throughout the show. The moment we think they may get together , then boom she got other plans that donāt include qingyi . Like girl , why are you still around??! Yall itās a lot of unnecessary necessary drama that keeps you frustrated and delusional and other emotions I canāt quite think of now. Please donāt have any expectations of having sensible reasons of why this or that happens because again this is soap opera drama. Nothing need to be understood except MORE DRAMAš«© This is their recipe and Iām here for it. Now what I can say is that I felt like they should of at least draw us into the backstory of ren susu and qingyi before they hit us with the return of dead susu . That way we would of been fond of their relationship and hoping for them to get together. Right now, I wish she would disappear and I canāt stand how so devoted qingyi is to her and he neglect his own feelings and life for her. While she disregards his without batting an eye š Like if I could snatch her a** up in the tv, I would of done it since 1st episode. Now mind you mid-way, qingyi and susu , end up going to one of their special place that only the two of them know about, and this is after she is being chased and wanted. They end up spending the night together and get this, she gets pregnant. Mind you, she donāt know it yet but she still insists on marrying his brotherš© after smashingš©
I canāt spoil too much, because then there would be no point in watching the show. His older brother , is one of the only one out of the family that is redeemable and the other brother who was accidentally switched with qingyi. His mom and sister, can kick rocks.
So to sum it up, if you like soap opera and drama filled episodes, then join the clan. Itās a nice change of pace . Think of it as a palate cleanser after eating good sushi. This show is suppose to keep you on your toes with lots of angst and frustration. If that was their angle, then baby they deliveredš¤. If Iām grading it on that level, the show is 9/10. Itās better production than days of our lives. But overall Iāll give it a 8. Yall lost that point because of Susu. I want to smack the š© out of her. Hope this help some of you Zhang Linghe fans understand the assignment in this show and see his performance differently here. You can tell that he has come a long way from his previous performances. He captures Qingyi character beautifully in this drama. And Wang Churan as Susu is such a great actress. I think she is starting to become my favorite. I canāt wait to see more of her work.
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9/10 HATED IT!!?? DONT RECOMMEND BUT EARNED EVERY BIT OF THAT 9
I watched this show because I loved them in The Princess Royal, so seeing them together again in a completely different genre was definitely an adjustment.Now, my review is going to sound contradictory and maybe even a little confusing at first, but trust the process. Once you get the end, youāll understand.
And yes, you read that rating correctly.
9/10.
Iām sure youāre wondering: How can you hate a show and still give it a 9/10?
Baby, cue the spoilers. š¬š«©
We start with younger Qianxu and Yingtao. Theyāre kids playing together, studying, talking, supporting one anotherāyou know, doing kid things. But even early on, weāre given glimpses into their completely different family dynamics.
Qianxu is raised in a home where love is suffocating and overbearing. He lives in the shadow of his dead brother and never really gets the opportunity to discover who he is.
Thereās a small moment that becomes incredibly symbolic: Qianxu discovers that he likes the color red, but his parents insist that he doesnāt. They tell him he likes black.
Think about that.
This child isnāt even allowed to decide what color he likes.
That pretty much tells you everything you need to know about his upbringing.
Then we have Yingtaoāfearless, bright, optimistic, opinionated and full of life. Naturally, these two form a strong bond.
Fast-forward to their teenage years. Qianxuās mother takes him to another city, while Yingtao mourns the friendship and connection she lost.
And this is around the point where I started wondering whether I had accidentally signed up for emotional damage and trauma because BABAAYYYYā¦
I hated every second of this relationship.
I did NOT root for them.
But trust the process because eventually all of this starts making sense.
We have two completely different upbringings.
On one side, thereās Qianxuās controlling, overbearing mother, who still hasnāt processed the grief of losing her first son and, because of that, has never fully acknowledged the son sheās currently raising.
On the other side, Yingtao has loving but extremely passive parents who sometimes come across as enablers. Yes, Yingtao receives plenty of love, but she was never really taught appropriate boundariesāand GIRL crosses them quite often. š«©
Qianxu grows up in a home where he isnāt accepted for who he is. His home becomes suffocating, so naturally, he learns to avoid. When things become emotionally overwhelming, he runs.
And this is where the story became interesting to me.
Despite how much these characters irritated me, their family dynamics gave them dimension. Suddenly, I wasnāt watching some fantasy version of love that C-dramas can sometimes give us. I was watching two people whose childhoods shaped how they would eventually love as adults.
This drama forces you to look at how circumstances and choices create a domino effect.
What shapes us?
What do we yearn for?
What are we willing to sacrifice to protect the person we love?
And at several points I found myself asking:
Should this relationship even survive?
Because make no mistakeāthis relationship is TOXIC. š¬š«©
Back to teenage Qianxu and Yingtao.
Yingtao eventually attends the same school as him.
First š©: Qianxu doesnāt acknowledge her after she came all that way to see him.
Eventually he realizes his mistake. He misses their friendship and begins inserting himself back into her life.
Fine. Iāll give teenage Qianxu a little grace. For some teenagers, reputation is everything.
They start getting close again, and this is where their family dynamics really begin colliding.
Qianxuās mother has his entire life mapped out. Competitions. Academics. Future plans. The whole nine yards. Sheās even trying to control who he spends time with, especially Yingtao.
Eventually Qianxu canāt take it anymore.
He and his mother have a FULL-BLOWN screaming match.
And let me give the actors their flowers here because that scene was beautifully executed. You could hear years of resentment pouring out from both sides.
Did that make me enjoy watching it?
Absolutely not. š«©š©
The whole neighborhood can hear this fiasco unfolding. Yingtao and her parents are outside.
And what does Yingtao do?
SHE ENTERS THEIR HOUSE TO HELP HIM ESCAPE.
EXCUSE ME?! š¤Ø
Where were the adults?!
Why didnāt any of these grown people who could hear this child having a complete breakdown with his mother step in and try to diffuse the situation?
HER PARENTS INCLUDED.
Some viewers may see Yingtao as Qianxuās safe place here.
I saw the beginning of a pattern of overstepping boundaries.
And baby, that wasnāt even the icing on the cake.
Qianxu goes to Yingtaoās house and her parents allow him to miss school for TWO WEEKS.
Again:
WHAT?!
Now Qianxu is out enjoying his newfound freedom. Yingtaoās father eventually wants to talk to him about his plans and offer some loving adult guidance because, despite everything happening at home, this kid is a math genius with an incredible future ahead of him.
Yingtao tries to stop her father from talking to Qianxu because she thinks heāll become overwhelmed.
And that irritated me.
Her father is an adult. Qianxu is still a child. He still needs direction.
Yingtao has become so consumed with protecting Qianxu that she barely seems to know what SHE wants for her own life.
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I could list every infraction, but weād be here all day. You really have to watch it unfold to understand how deeply this dynamic becomes embedded in their relationship.
Eventually things get worse, and Qianxu decides he wants to drop everything and study overseas.
But does he communicate those dreams to Yingtao?
Of course not.
Naturally, sheās hurt.
But girlā¦what exactly were we expecting from someone whose coping mechanism is avoiding difficult situations and running when life becomes overwhelming?
Then he leaves.
And doesnāt contact her for TWO YEARS.
Two. Whole. Years.
Now theyāre adults and in college, so Iām sitting there thinking:
WHAT IS THE HOLDUP?! š¤Øš¬š¬š¬
Meanwhile, Yingtao has not let him go. Sheās basically on a wild goose chase for this man despite being ghosted.
And YES, by now Iām screaming at her too.
Eventually she catches him sneaking out of his house.
EXCUSE THE FUCK OUTTA ME?! š±
You couldnāt call?
Couldnāt answer a message?
Couldnāt send a text?
But youāre HERE?!
Does Yingtao ask the obvious questions?
NOPE. šāāļø
She immediately comes up with explanations that satisfy HER, Qianxu basically lets her, they kiss, share their little momentāblah, blah, blah.
And guess what Qianxu does?
YUP.
GHOST. š»š
At this point my dude is a smooth criminal.
Before disappearing, he tells her not to forget him.
Does Yingtao eventually move on?
Of course not.
She holds onto this man like heās her emotional lifeline. š«©š©
Fast-forward to adulthood.
Years have passed without a word from Qianxu. Yingtao has physically moved forward with her life, but emotionally?
Girl is still in an unofficial relationship with a man who isnāt even participating.
Then one day her friend finds out where Qianxu is and eventually gives her the information.
Tell me why Yingtao PACKS A SUITCASE and trucks her ass to another city looking for this man.
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And when Qianxu finally sees her?
HE RUNS AWAY FROM HER.
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At this point, the whole thing has become annoyingly comical.
Eventually, after Yingtao has pushed and chased about as much as one human being possibly can, Qianxu realizes that he doesnāt actually want to lose her.
And FINALLYā¦
We get his side of the story.
This is where my entire perspective shifted.
Up until this point, Iām yelling:
LET HIS ASS GO!
Heās selfish.
Heās a terrible communicator.
He ghosts you every chance he gets.
Why are we still doing this?!
Then we learn what happened to Qianxu.
His family falls apart. He ends up staying with his cousin, someone he looks up to, but an unfortunate accident destroys their source of income. Qianxu suddenly has to shoulder the responsibility of helping support a family while attending university in Hong Kong.
His life went to shit.
And then he says something to Yingtao that changed how I interpreted almost everything that came before it.
He explains that if Yingtao had found him doing well, she would have eventually walked away.
But if heād told her that he was suffering?
If sheād known about the poverty, hardship and responsibility he was carrying?
She wouldāve dropped everything and climbed right into the gutter with him.
And thatās when I went:
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Becauseā¦
HEāS RIGHT.
He knows exactly who Yingtao is.
Now, we can argue that Qianxu should have told her the truth.
Normally, Iād agree.
But then I had to ask myself:
What would Yingtao have done with that information?
Weāve spent the entire drama watching the answer.
She is all-consuming when it comes to this man. She wouldāve tried to fix everything. She wouldāve inserted herself into his struggle. She wouldāve put his problems before her own future.
And Qianxu knew that.
While he stayed away, Yingtao continued building a life for herself.
She accomplished things.
She progressed.
She became someone.
And Qianxu didnāt want her life to stop simply because his had gone to shit.
That realization completely changed how I viewed his sacrifice.
Through Yingtaoās eyes, he abandoned her.
Through Qianxuās eyes, he let her go.
Not because he stopped loving her.
Because he loved her enough to accept that he might never have her if losing him allowed her to keep moving forward.
He was ashamed of the person heād become. He didnāt want a relationship while his life was in that condition.
Andā¦
I agreed with him.
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THIS is where the writers earned their stripes.
Because suddenly this wasnāt simply a frustrating romance anymore.
It was a coming-of-age story about how our childhoods shape the way we love, how circumstances alter the people we become, and how one decision can create a domino effect across multiple lives.
And then I realized something else.
These two had ultimately been sacrificing the same thing in opposite directions.
Yingtao loved Qianxu enough that she was willing to sacrifice her life for their love.
Qianxu loved Yingtao enough that he was willing to sacrifice their love for her life.
And THAT is when this damn drama got me.
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Do I think their relationship is healthy?
Absolutely not.
Would I personally want this kind of love?
HELL NO.
Did I spend most of the drama wanting Yingtao to leave his ass alone?
YES.
Did I spend the other half wanting Qianxu to learn how to communicate like a functioning human being?
ALSO YES.
But by the end, I had to respect them.
Yingtao loved Qianxu for who he wasānot his potential, accomplishments, money or status.
And Qianxu loved Yingtao enough to risk losing the person he wanted most because he believed staying away gave her the best chance at building a life beyond his suffering.
Their happily ever after?
They earned it.
And that irritated the hell out of me because after spending almost this entire drama refusing to root for themā¦
I caught myself SWOONING during their happy moments. š«£
The AUDACITY.
Then the ending had their adult selves essentially communicating with their younger selves, reflecting on who they had become and the journey that brought them there.
And that broke me.
Because how many of us wish we could sit across from our younger selves and explain:
You have no idea whatās coming.
The heartbreak.
The mistakes.
The choices.
The people youāll lose.
The person youāll become.
And somehow reassure that younger version:
We made it.
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That symbolism was beautiful.
So yes.
After ALL thatā¦
9/10.
Did I enjoy watching it?
Absolutely fucking not. š«©š¬
Did it stress me from beginning to end?
YES.
Did I want to give this show a 3/10 at several points?
BABAAYYYY, the 3 was READY. š
But good storytelling isnāt always about giving me characters whose choices I agree with.
Sometimes itās about making those choices believable.
This drama made me dislike these characters, question them, judge them, reconsider them, understand them andāagainst my willāeventually respect their love.
Thatās why it gets a 9.
The writers earned every damn point.
Would I recommend it?
Hell no. š
We donāt need too many people voluntarily signing up for the same traumatic viewing experience. š«©š¬
But I will give this drama its flowers.
It captured something painfully real about love: our decisions donāt exist in isolation. Our families, childhoods, fears, circumstances and sacrifices shape how we loveāand sometimes the very thing we do to protect someone becomes the thing that hurts them.
Their love wasnāt clean.
It wasnāt healthy.
It definitely wasnāt the kind of romance I personally root for.
But I believed it.
And sometimes thatās the mark of a damn good story.
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