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⚠️ Warning: This post contains major spoilers for the ending of A Love Other Than Yours.

After finishing the drama, I couldn't stop thinking about one thing.

To me, the character who deserved a better ending wasn't the female lead... it was the male lead.

Many people thought the ending was realistic because he eventually started a new relationship. But for me, the issue was never who he ended up with. The real issue was the emotional state he was in when he entered that relationship.

From the very beginning, it was clear that his deepest wound wasn't losing love.

It was believing that he didn't deserve to be loved.

Whenever someone cared for him, he saw it as pity.

Whenever someone embraced him, he felt like he owed them something in return.

The family who took him in never saw him as a burden. They loved him as their own son.

But he couldn't truly accept that love.

He responded with gratitude, not with a sense of belonging.

He always felt like he was repaying a debt instead of simply being part of a family.

The female lead, on the other hand, had a very different journey.

I never felt that she entered her new relationship to escape the past.

Instead, she healed first.

She accepted that her previous relationship had ended, and then she chose someone new because she genuinely wanted that person—not because she needed someone to fill an empty space.

That made her relationship feel healthy and emotionally mature.

Sadly, I couldn't say the same about the male lead.

His new relationship felt like a response to finally receiving unconditional affection.

But accepting love is not always a sign of healing.

Sometimes, it is simply a sign of emotional need.

That's why I felt his relationship wasn't built from emotional growth, but from a loneliness that still hadn't healed.

Then came the ending.

He spent two years away, and when he finally returned, he chose to cut ties with the people who had once become his family.

That left me wondering... why?

If those two years were meant to represent healing, why did he still feel the need to walk away from the people who loved him the most?

This is where I disagreed with the writer.

To me, that wasn't healing. It was avoidance.

Real healing doesn't mean erasing your past.

It means making peace with it.

Personally, I wished for a different ending.

I wanted to see him years later, happily married, maybe with a child, returning to introduce his new family to the family that once saved him.

Not because he owed them anything...

But because he had finally realized that they truly loved him.

Not out of pity.

Not out of obligation.

Simply because he belonged.

For me, that would have been real emotional growth.

His journey was never about finding another woman.

It was about learning to tell himself:

"I deserve to be loved."

If he had truly reached that point, he wouldn't have needed to leave his roots behind.

He would have returned to them, finally feeling that he belonged.

That's why I believe the male lead didn't need a better romantic ending.

He needed a better emotional ending.