Not my Cup of Tea - Real Life is harsh enough
This film starts as a beautiful but awkward love story between Jimmy, an 18-year-old Taiwanese teen working at a karaoke bar, and Ami, a Japanese backpacker who briefly works alongside him.
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The chemistry never truly sparks, which I later realized was intentional—Ami keeps her distance due to her hidden struggle with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (a serious heart condition where the heart muscle thickens abnormally, making it harder for the heart to pump blood effectively and potentially leading to life-threatening complications).I never rooted for Jimmy and Ami as a couple, and I couldn't understand why Jimmy became so obsessively devoted to her from the outset. The story leans heavily on the frustrating trope of one person (Ami) unilaterally withholding life-altering information—her terminal illness—under the guise of nobility.
Eighteen years later, Jimmy (now in his 30s) remains so fixated on the "what if" of Ami that he's avoided other relationships entirely. This obsession stalls his personal growth and professional success, trapping his entire young adult life around what he perceived as rejection. It's profoundly sad, but in a preventable, self-inflicted way.
There are almost no genuinely uplifting moments to lighten the gloom—at most, their single date provides a brief flicker. They share a movie-watching scene that clearly devastates them both, but the film never explains the movie's content or why it affects them so deeply. It also glosses over Ami's hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, leaving key emotional context underdeveloped.
Ironically, the fleeting relationships Jimmy forms during his present-day journey through Japan are far more heartwarming and authentic than his central romance with Ami. The young boy he befriends on the train is adorable and genuinely kind, creating a sweet, fleeting connection that brought a real smile to my face. Even more charming is the young woman working at the internet cafe who kindly takes him to a lantern festival—their easy rapport felt refreshing, and I found myself hoping Jimmy would track her down again and maybe spark a new, healthier relationship.
While some viewers who love melancholic films might call this "realistic," and others may view Ami's secrecy as selfless (she truly believed she was protecting Jimmy, and it pained her deeply), I strongly disagree. True love means facing difficult truths together and making decisions as partners, not alone.
The frequent switching between Japanese and Mandarin also confused me; without clearer cues, it was hard to follow the languages and made scenes feel disjointed.
I would not recommend this film. I would not watch it again. And I avoid content like this. i do not need sad, or terminal illnesses or anything like that - enough going on like that in real life.
Spoilers
The chemistry never truly sparks, which I later realized was intentional—Ami keeps her distance due to her hidden struggle with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (a serious heart condition where the heart muscle thickens abnormally, making it harder for the heart to pump blood effectively and potentially leading to life-threatening complications).I never rooted for Jimmy and Ami as a couple, and I couldn't understand why Jimmy became so obsessively devoted to her from the outset. The story leans heavily on the frustrating trope of one person (Ami) unilaterally withholding life-altering information—her terminal illness—under the guise of nobility.
Eighteen years later, Jimmy (now in his 30s) remains so fixated on the "what if" of Ami that he's avoided other relationships entirely. This obsession stalls his personal growth and professional success, trapping his entire young adult life around what he perceived as rejection. It's profoundly sad, but in a preventable, self-inflicted way.
There are almost no genuinely uplifting moments to lighten the gloom—at most, their single date provides a brief flicker. They share a movie-watching scene that clearly devastates them both, but the film never explains the movie's content or why it affects them so deeply. It also glosses over Ami's hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, leaving key emotional context underdeveloped.
Ironically, the fleeting relationships Jimmy forms during his present-day journey through Japan are far more heartwarming and authentic than his central romance with Ami. The young boy he befriends on the train is adorable and genuinely kind, creating a sweet, fleeting connection that brought a real smile to my face. Even more charming is the young woman working at the internet cafe who kindly takes him to a lantern festival—their easy rapport felt refreshing, and I found myself hoping Jimmy would track her down again and maybe spark a new, healthier relationship.
While some viewers who love melancholic films might call this "realistic," and others may view Ami's secrecy as selfless (she truly believed she was protecting Jimmy, and it pained her deeply), I strongly disagree. True love means facing difficult truths together and making decisions as partners, not alone.
The frequent switching between Japanese and Mandarin also confused me; without clearer cues, it was hard to follow the languages and made scenes feel disjointed.
I would not recommend this film. I would not watch it again. And I avoid content like this. i do not need sad, or terminal illnesses or anything like that - enough going on like that in real life.
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