Oh man 😂 And that exactly is the reason why current relationships don't last. People don't know what relationship…
lasting is till death do us apart , doesnt make sense with how many years of success you are having for now, if somebody comes and say he/she is in relationship for 1 year or 10 years and not thinking of breaking up are both of them lasting xD?
All of this comes down to communication and the assumptions we make about people's behaviour. Those of us who…
makes sense , each for its own. I assume that it wasnt necessary cause she was feeling about something about her own so she needed to figure it out her own as telling him will make him more terrible but I do also think communication is the key maybe the point was for me here was that she thought that he might feel sorry of her feeling insecure of something he cant change which she thought that he might have expected from her to already figure it out before starting the relationship with someone who is a disable person. yeah the ending couldhave been better Im just saying that the being that way isnt bad and its okay to feel that way in a relationship with someone who is disable too no need to bad mouth her for her realizing the things she will miss because of her choosing the relationship as him is more important.
Thank you for your ted talk, I agree with you! Honestly, some of these comments are starting to have a whiff of…
people here are of all sorts young and dumb , young and mature , old and dumb and old and mature but just difficult to know which is which when interatcing the sense of old or young is what makes me suffer the most tbh I dont know who I might dealing when giving the taste of reality which is why I try to corner back but yeah some peeps are just trying to win their argument rather than just understanding the other people's side makes me wonder how I should deal with shut them or quiet them up lol but thankyou as there are opp minded people , same minded people also exist and encouraging for the same thoughts is what making the people with opp opinion still say what the wanna say.
How can anyone write something like that? I hope you don't treat your partner/other people according to what you…
I hope you get mature enough to take the hard pills in life too. No one is interested to get life advices from you or the dramas , I just stated the scenarios I felt was felt by fl ;never told you to implement in your life nor am I judge, expect you to do the same from now own, STOP judging people lives over something that might never happen in your own or someone else life.
i'm sorry but a lot of people here in the comments are acting like freaking saints. you can be angry at moeun…
I agree, bunch of love geeks will never start a relationship with such people but hate the one who have the courage to try that because it slaps them on their faces for being coward and when that person feels the problems in that relationship that they will never face they shittalk about them cause it satisfy there hunger of self-respect they ruined by being coward. For me , I think it is okay to face that way, you never know what you might have to deal with the person you start your life with, people handle that by themselves when no one watching but here everyone was watching which is why she is terrible.
''...because not loving is also making putting her in the same misery she felt she MIGHT have in the future. But…
I think fl thinks that way because she is already in a relationship after she felt that way not before starting the relationship which is why I think she said she should love him or keep the relationship that she already has rather than something that might never happen. not starting a relationship with someone you are not in love with or might the love might never last or trying the relationship without having the love to figure out in between both scenarios are possible but fl was never in any of these scenarios and she started the relationship because she liked him and felt the possibility of not loving him will put her in the misery but in reality for now she loves and not able to love him will also put her misery so she just chose to love him instead and see what comes in the future.
All of this comes down to communication and the assumptions we make about people's behaviour. Those of us who…
You are completely right , I never said that they will not break up in the future , there is a possibilty and everyone who is in a relationship or start a relationship with someone stranger know there is a possibilty, its not like I see and you are the one by time you realise that whether the one is really the one or someone else is waiting for you. The reason I think there wasnt really needed the additional talk with him after breakup was because this was something she was feeling personally and herself had to comeup for it , as for the talk she did had with him when she said she is okay , I don't think this talk had done anything better for the ml , he might had broke up over it anyway. The only reason I am trying to emphasize was that she was already in a relationship when she started feeling something that might never happen or will gonna happen in the future cause of something that isnt happening now. (The love might never fade or will fade but right now the love is there ). In other words she was just panicking , I am all okay with the people not starting a relationship because they dont think they will keep on loving someone until the very last cause in the current situation they are in is that they havent started loving so it is okay to feel disoriented or not confident enough of your feelings for the other person and thinking you gonna waste yours time and their precious feelings and some people are also there who thinks it is okay to try it out and face it head on and if doesnt work they will just split and I think both people are okay in it but the fl was different she was the one in love and she was the one who felt these feeling after starting the relationship not before it so I think that is also okay maybe not for you, I just thought maybe you might have not understood what I was trying to convey. If you still think that is not okay or wrong that is for you but fl here wasnt thinking that way I just elaborated there scenarios.
Most of you guys are yapping about fl for her behaviour and wishing ml to be with someone else but I think you might have not understand what actually happened in the last few eps... The fl never really changed in any aspect for the ml but just became courageous to face her problems head on , you guys might have missed the actual scenarios in the healing music but the fl had confrontation problems;fear of abadonment in every situation she faced in her life which was the discussed million of times in the eps , she would rather just wait for the problem to be solve on its own or just kept pretending to be okay or kept thinking positively or optimistically rather than communicating about it. It first started when she heard of her mother story she got scared that the love her step mom shows isnt real when she will confess to her mother about her hearing the conversation and will not get the loved by her mother again, she never talked it out with the ml about his ex and pretending to unhear it and waiting for it to be just nothing as time passes cause she was afraid he might confess to him that he still likes her ex and she will brokeup with him, she never confronted the ex herself even though she got million of interactions with her she was scared the 2ndfl might win the ml back as she is not as successful as her or good as her. She would rather just get side hints from people aroung them to feel okay about the situation;talking to ml's friend or talking to johan or modam about her mother or taking to her best friend about his ex and kept feeling anxious while pretending to be okay until the very last few eps cause whatever you trauma is one day you do endup facing it there is this saying I read somewhere "If you dont address your childhood traumas, your romantic relationships will.", and this what happened with fl. She never once hated or disliked ml, she was scared by the problems she never faced yet in other words over-thinking the future , she was scared that the feelings she has for him will never be the same which she discussed time to time with her friends and kept feeling moritified about it and scared of giving too much hope to ml, which in her eyes she thought he might start expecting more or she might giving less, she thought the problems she faces now are solvable because she loves her or he loves her but what will happen when in the future if she doesnt have that much love, and ml got the gist of it, seeing her going through misery because of him is what he least wished for plus the past relationship where her ex also suffered because of him (in his eyes) which is why he broke-up. This is what opened the eyes of fl too , she realized that confronting is the key to solution, she ended up talking with his ex which were her first steps to facing her trauma. she talked it out with ml too but it wasnt enough that time , after breakup she realized that love is gonna remain annyway and best to give to the people who made it hence confronted her mother sorted it out and then also confronted in the play; it was notabout loving disabled people or not it was about if you think you ever gonna endup hating someone in the future why hate now, hate in the future instead and love until you can and are there for. She was in other words confronting her own fears ;fears she had for the ml which is why they got together in the end btw cause she only thinks she might hate it or not love him in the future but realized that she for now love him and should rather stick to it, because not loving is also making putting her in the same misery she felt she MIGHT have in the future. but what is Certain is that right now she Loves him. Thank you for my ted talk. Recommend me some other dramas now, I dont know what to start or look forward too now :( maybe dr.slump.?
ThankYou mind sharing the other ones too like Dancing green and love cant be said I find it hard to find c-movies with good quality and subtitles especially the recent ones. P.S:I went through ur list of recent chinese movies u watched
I assume that it wasnt necessary cause she was feeling about something about her own so she needed to figure it out her own as telling him will make him more terrible but I do also think communication is the key maybe the point was for me here was that she thought that he might feel sorry of her feeling insecure of something he cant change which she thought that he might have expected from her to already figure it out before starting the relationship with someone who is a disable person.
yeah the ending couldhave been better Im just saying that the being that way isnt bad and its okay to feel that way in a relationship with someone who is disable too no need to bad mouth her for her realizing the things she will miss because of her choosing the relationship as him is more important.
but thankyou as there are opp minded people , same minded people also exist and encouraging for the same thoughts is what making the people with opp opinion still say what the wanna say.
STOP judging people lives over something that might never happen in your own or someone else life.
For me , I think it is okay to face that way, you never know what you might have to deal with the person you start your life with, people handle that by themselves when no one watching but here everyone was watching which is why she is terrible.
not starting a relationship with someone you are not in love with or might the love might never last or trying the relationship without having the love to figure out in between both scenarios are possible but fl was never in any of these scenarios and she started the relationship because she liked him and felt the possibility of not loving him will put her in the misery but in reality for now she loves and not able to love him will also put her misery so she just chose to love him instead and see what comes in the future.
The reason I think there wasnt really needed the additional talk with him after breakup was because this was something she was feeling personally and herself had to comeup for it , as for the talk she did had with him when she said she is okay , I don't think this talk had done anything better for the ml , he might had broke up over it anyway.
The only reason I am trying to emphasize was that she was already in a relationship when she started feeling something that might never happen or will gonna happen in the future cause of something that isnt happening now. (The love might never fade or will fade but right now the love is there ).
In other words she was just panicking , I am all okay with the people not starting a relationship because they dont think they will keep on loving someone until the very last cause in the current situation they are in is that they havent started loving so it is okay to feel disoriented or not confident enough of your feelings for the other person and thinking you gonna waste yours time and their precious feelings and some people are also there who thinks it is okay to try it out and face it head on and if doesnt work they will just split and I think both people are okay in it but the fl was different she was the one in love and she was the one who felt these feeling after starting the relationship not before it so I think that is also okay maybe not for you, I just thought maybe you might have not understood what I was trying to convey. If you still think that is not okay or wrong that is for you but fl here wasnt thinking that way I just elaborated there scenarios.
The fl never really changed in any aspect for the ml but just became courageous to face her problems head on , you guys might have missed the actual scenarios in the healing music but the fl had confrontation problems;fear of abadonment in every situation she faced in her life which was the discussed million of times in the eps , she would rather just wait for the problem to be solve on its own or just kept pretending to be okay or kept thinking positively or optimistically rather than communicating about it. It first started when she heard of her mother story she got scared that the love her step mom shows isnt real when she will confess to her mother about her hearing the conversation and will not get the loved by her mother again, she never talked it out with the ml about his ex and pretending to unhear it and waiting for it to be just nothing as time passes cause she was afraid he might confess to him that he still likes her ex and she will brokeup with him, she never confronted the ex herself even though she got million of interactions with her she was scared the 2ndfl might win the ml back as she is not as successful as her or good as her.
She would rather just get side hints from people aroung them to feel okay about the situation;talking to ml's friend or talking to johan or modam about her mother or taking to her best friend about his ex and kept feeling anxious while pretending to be okay until the very last few eps cause whatever you trauma is one day you do endup facing it there is this saying I read somewhere
"If you dont address your childhood traumas, your romantic relationships will.", and this what happened with fl.
She never once hated or disliked ml, she was scared by the problems she never faced yet in other words over-thinking the future , she was scared that the feelings she has for him will never be the same which she discussed time to time with her friends and kept feeling moritified about it and scared of giving too much hope to ml, which in her eyes she thought he might start expecting more or she might giving less, she thought the problems she faces now are solvable because she loves her or he loves her but what will happen when in the future if she doesnt have that much love, and ml got the gist of it, seeing her going through misery because of him is what he least wished for plus the past relationship where her ex also suffered because of him (in his eyes) which is why he broke-up.
This is what opened the eyes of fl too , she realized that confronting is the key to solution, she ended up talking with his ex which were her first steps to facing her trauma. she talked it out with ml too but it wasnt enough that time , after breakup she realized that love is gonna remain annyway and best to give to the people who made it hence confronted her mother sorted it out and then also confronted in the play; it was notabout loving disabled people or not it was about if you think you ever gonna endup hating someone in the future why hate now, hate in the future instead and love until you can and are there for. She was in other words confronting her own fears ;fears she had for the ml which is why they got together in the end btw cause she only thinks she might hate it or not love him in the future but realized that she for now love him and should rather stick to it, because not loving is also making putting her in the same misery she felt she MIGHT have in the future. but what is Certain is that right now she Loves him.
Thank you for my ted talk. Recommend me some other dramas now, I dont know what to start or look forward too now :( maybe dr.slump.?
mind sharing the other ones too like
Dancing green and love cant be said
I find it hard to find c-movies with good quality and subtitles especially the recent ones.
P.S:I went through ur list of recent chinese movies u watched