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Secret Lover taiwanese drama review
Dropped 3/10
Secret Lover
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by B_B
Feb 8, 2026
3 of 10 episodes seen
Dropped
Overall 1.0
Story 1.0
Acting/Cast 1.5
Music 1.5
Rewatch Value 1.0
This review may contain spoilers

CONSENT DOESN'T NEED TO BE NEGOTIATED!!!! FFS !

I was curious how this would go and stayed up until Ep 3, skipping some parts along the way, but that third episode was so revolting that I immediately dropped the show.

I am so glad I did, especially after reading comments confirming that the rest of the episodes are just as fucking disgusting.

​Why the fuck do you need to negotiate consent with a game of rock-paper-scissors?

Consent should be an absolute given, not a gamble, but here it’s just the gamification of bodily autonomy. It clearly a rigged system where the top always "wins," and even on the rare occasion the other person actually wins a round, it isn't even respected. It is a disgusting way to manipulate someone into a corner while pretending they have a choice.

​The black-haired dude constantly drones on about how he has “always loved” the other guy, but he doesn't give a single fuck about his partner’s comfort or agency.

Even worse, the show tries to excuse this by portraying it like the other dude "secretly" likes him but just isn't aware of it yet. That does not make these actions right. Just because two people are in a relationship or "meant to be" doesn't mean basic human decency and respect disappear.

This mindset is exactly why things like marital rape exist. Abuse and coercion don’t just happen between strangers; they often happen with the person closest to you, and being a "partner" isn't a license to ignore boundaries.

He uses "love" as a mask for predatory behavior, treating his "friend" like a toy to be dragged around and played with whenever the whim strikes him. I truly hate people who swear they like someone yet treat them like literal dirt. That dude is a walking talking red flag!

​The constant hand-grabbing and dragging are infuriating as well no matter what the other person says or how much they protest, the black-haired just doesn't give a fuck.

The writer clearly thinks this physical coercion and arrogance are a substitute for chemistry, but romanticizing abuse and coercion is not fucking sexy at all. It is just a pathetic display of toxic dominance.

They managed to cram every trashy romance cliché and manipulative power imbalance into just three episodes ugh.

This is what I get going off a tictock recommendation without actually bothering to read the reviews beforehand.

​I should have listened to my intuition and bailed after that bathroom scene in the first episode. I feel so salty that I gave into my curiosity just to see if it would progress.

An hour wasted on this predatory shit, ugh. 🤮 I wouldn't even give this story a 0; it deserves a -100.
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