I re-watched ep 20. I might be wrong but I think Ping Ping already know that Dr. Nie might be his father... he's…
My Chinese is not yet good enough to get everything in ep20 as i just saw that raw, but in ep18 NYS did say that the kid is bright and knows something is up, so when he asks don't lie to him. He definitely seems to know that my situation is not normal. At 6 though he must be wondering how and why I have two fathers, what is going to change....
NYS is so funny cos on the one hand he claims he won't fight her for custody, but then his father says he will…
They are both so flawed and don't know how to talk to each other, NYS can only say talk to me, and does not actually 'do' anything to gain her trust. When his father makes snide remarks he should say something, when he sees his father make bad plans he should find a way to stop them, he is becoming less and less a hero. Tan Jin knows him I guess and that he would never outright go against his father so what's the point of telling him anything, it won't change much except give her hope that may be dashed.
I respectfully disagree with those who think TJ is prideful and weak. Why should she accept him and tell her life woes after a few weeks of knowing each other again? That's unreasonable. And even is she did then what? Love does not solve bread, butter and life issues.
In a culture where your parents are sacrosanct and blood grudges can go for generations on end, (your fathers, father, father's, father killed my fathers father' fathers father so i kill you type of vibe) it is understandable that she wonders how this can end.
TJ looks far ahead and sees no real resolution and cannot trust NYS, and she shouldn't. When they were younger he never understood her fully. After dating for years, the time she says I no longer love you, he believed it, and believed that she had wanted money all the time and began to 'hate' her. The stabs and jabs he gave when he did not know of her past are wounds that make it hard to trust no matter how much she may want to. His ambivalence and staid personality does not inspire confidence.
And she knows if he is helping her he will be going against his powerful father, a position she does not want to put him in. If I was her I'd go to Mark too because he is an 'outsider' who impartial enough to give the tough advice she may need. He is like a therapist, she can tell him everything objectively to get to a solution, talking to NYS will never be objective because her emotions will be involved all the time. He also is someone who can be in her corner no strings, someone with some power. Her one focus is her child and she knows the type of person NYS father is, a manipulative, evil person. She knows that the moment she allows the old man into their lives PP is no longer hers, fullstop. Fear does not equal pride.
Yes she feels guilt, and wishes NYS could have been a father to her child, but when does guilt mean you need to bend over backwards to give up your child? At what time during her baby's life should she have said 'ok you are one now, or two or three, now I can go give you up, let me contact your father,' because that is what she would have been doing, giving him away. She has been saving for years, and life has happened, nobody ever thinks it's going to take me more than x years to save for this surgery. Her daily life she has had hope, "there is light at the end of the tunnel, I will have enough money soon for the surgery, and my son is well enough to go on." She has never said she does not want NYS in their lives, or have custody, she said she "cannot" see how it can be possible. Her wants she has never considered because that is a luxury she cannot afford. It is like killing her father all over again. You may not agree with it but this is her stance, nothing to do with pride. And she has not done anything regarding custody other than study what is ahead because she knows NDY is coming for her with a knife aimed at her throat, I salute her for getting ready so she will know what her options are when the time comes.
Even NYS said that he realised he never really knew her thoughts, just assumed, so he has come to the realisation that she hasn't opened up to him as yet and he is ok with that because he knows that trust is not earned on dime. His focus is finding out the truth and PP's surgery. He hopes the relationship between them can be repaired, but he is also doing everything alone not consulting her, she knows not of his real plans, he does not know of hers, their joint focus which they both agree at the moment is PP.
The Nie family knew nothing of PP until a week ago. Had they been a poor family, it would matter not if she hurried to tell him. But because they are rich and we are sad for PP we want his life to suddenly be 'better'. Why is it 'better' to have NDY and NYS in his life now? They are strangers to him, let them get to know him slowly including his mother who loves him more than anything.
'Been wondering about that too. They got married when they were in second year university; they would have been…
Yeah, the reunion may have been mixed years of people in the same city/ area? Her class was definitely 11 which is not the final grade.. LOL doesn't matter really :)
'Been wondering about that too. They got married when they were in second year university; they would have been…
LOL my math exactly, except he is a year or two older because the were not in the same stream, they met n his last year at high school and she dropped out in her third year of uni, so she is 28ish and he is 29ish 30. I just say their anguish put in another 5 years to their looks so there :)
Tan Jin knows him I guess and that he would never outright go against his father so what's the point of telling him anything, it won't change much except give her hope that may be dashed.
In a culture where your parents are sacrosanct and blood grudges can go for generations on end, (your fathers, father, father's, father killed my fathers father' fathers father so i kill you type of vibe) it is understandable that she wonders how this can end.
TJ looks far ahead and sees no real resolution and cannot trust NYS, and she shouldn't. When they were younger he never understood her fully. After dating for years, the time she says I no longer love you, he believed it, and believed that she had wanted money all the time and began to 'hate' her. The stabs and jabs he gave when he did not know of her past are wounds that make it hard to trust no matter how much she may want to. His ambivalence and staid personality does not inspire confidence.
And she knows if he is helping her he will be going against his powerful father, a position she does not want to put him in. If I was her I'd go to Mark too because he is an 'outsider' who impartial enough to give the tough advice she may need. He is like a therapist, she can tell him everything objectively to get to a solution, talking to NYS will never be objective because her emotions will be involved all the time. He also is someone who can be in her corner no strings, someone with some power. Her one focus is her child and she knows the type of person NYS father is, a manipulative, evil person. She knows that the moment she allows the old man into their lives PP is no longer hers, fullstop. Fear does not equal pride.
Yes she feels guilt, and wishes NYS could have been a father to her child, but when does guilt mean you need to bend over backwards to give up your child? At what time during her baby's life should she have said 'ok you are one now, or two or three, now I can go give you up, let me contact your father,' because that is what she would have been doing, giving him away. She has been saving for years, and life has happened, nobody ever thinks it's going to take me more than x years to save for this surgery. Her daily life she has had hope, "there is light at the end of the tunnel, I will have enough money soon for the surgery, and my son is well enough to go on." She has never said she does not want NYS in their lives, or have custody, she said she "cannot" see how it can be possible. Her wants she has never considered because that is a luxury she cannot afford. It is like killing her father all over again. You may not agree with it but this is her stance, nothing to do with pride. And she has not done anything regarding custody other than study what is ahead because she knows NDY is coming for her with a knife aimed at her throat, I salute her for getting ready so she will know what her options are when the time comes.
Even NYS said that he realised he never really knew her thoughts, just assumed, so he has come to the realisation that she hasn't opened up to him as yet and he is ok with that because he knows that trust is not earned on dime. His focus is finding out the truth and PP's surgery. He hopes the relationship between them can be repaired, but he is also doing everything alone not consulting her, she knows not of his real plans, he does not know of hers, their joint focus which they both agree at the moment is PP.
The Nie family knew nothing of PP until a week ago. Had they been a poor family, it would matter not if she hurried to tell him. But because they are rich and we are sad for PP we want his life to suddenly be 'better'. Why is it 'better' to have NDY and NYS in his life now? They are strangers to him, let them get to know him slowly including his mother who loves him more than anything.