As another middle aged professor, I could not agree more!
No worries. Yes, I'm finding it more and more hilarious that I don't know a lot of guys in the BL fandom space. I also feel like an old man (hitting 40 soon) in this arena. My field is in Business, with a focus on Organizational Development.
Is it me or is the old bookstore manager actually older suansoon? Maybe I misheard when he passed on, but I could have sworn his daughter says his name is Suansoon too. Maybe I misheard.