Charming92

I don't call her a slut, i am just saying what most people thought without actually trying to be in her shoes!

I gave it a lot of thought, and i think in the very end, i would have acted exactly the way she did. I would have cheated, not gotten physical, and would have ended it fast. I totally get where she was coming from. The drama was amazing, so deep, so heavy!

People are close minded, and they tried to find excuses to hate the main characters without understanding why they did what they did.

I would love for the situation here to be black and white. I mean, she cheated, she is a slut, he should move on. Or he was a sucky husband, good for her. I wish it was that simple.

Best drama i have ever watched!

I am single and i am definately against adultery, and i am a really judgy person lol. But i felt her in my bones. It wasn't the fact that she "jumped" the first person she met. It was that she was so unhappy, and wasn't even aware of it, and KJ understood. He took the time to understand her when her husband of 7 years had no clue.

HT was my favourite character in the show, he was the biggest sweetheart, and imo the one who is the least at fault, but i think he would be sad if he moved on. He would be completely alone trying to look after a sick mother. His answer was IR. Sure he could have ended up with SJ, she would have taken good care of him, but he seriously didn't love her. IR was his soulmate.

As for IR, yes she might do the same thing again, thats always a possibility, but i doubt she will. She didn't cheat because she didn't love him, she cheated because she was unhappy, not because of him but because of all the problems the family had put on her. To make my thought clear, her main problem was Hee Soo. Hee Soo is gone, she is gonna be happy with her husband. Imo she loved them both, but HT was more important, and she made the right choice

I agree with everything you said. HT's family was the show's main premise. Although, i don't think the right choice for IR was KJ. Sure she loved him, but she didn't start a relationship with him because she didn't want HT anymore, and she didn't go back to him just because of him family.

Surely if HT's mother didn't have dementia i doubt they would have ended together, but still its not that she went back to him just because she loves his family and that family defines her.

I think the show shows you she understands who she really loves when she had a panic attack when she thought HT is dead, and when she wakes up and KJ is there, she still sees HT. I was trying so hard to understand from episode 5 to ep 19 who she REALLY wants, and i don't think she knew herself. She found out when she woke up.

As for her relationship with KJ, yes they were good together, yes they loved each other (although their love doesn't cancel HT's love or IR's love for HT). But i think IR loved him not as a man, but she loved the fact that she didn't need to be THAT woman she was with HT. She didn't need to be the rock of the family, she didn't need to be tough, she could be her old 18 year old self again. She loved the fact that he was powerful himself, and she could be vulnerable next to him. I am not saying she used him, or she didn't love him in reality, but i think, her love for HT was deeper. The shit of his family made them separate, they never lost their feelings for each other.

Maybe exactly because she didn't want to be those things anymore, she should have ended up with KJ, but since Hee Soo died, (and she was the main problem of hers even though she loved her possibly more than herself), i think HT was the right choice.

I accept these types of marriages, but i don't believe they are healthy. In my opinion even if it seems like they have no problems, they have the biggest problem ever, their marriage is just a paper sheet nothing more. Everyone can do whatever they want in their own life, but i find that kind of relationship way sicker than what valid love showed us. Marriage is about being faithful, if you don't believe in monogamy then don't get married. Il Ri cheated because there were problems, of course there will be problems in a relationship, its human nature. Whats the way to not have problems? Regularly cheat? no, i can't accept that in my life.

Between open relationship with no problems and a normal marriage with possible problems i'd take the 2nd option even if that may mean that my wife might cheat on me. I believe in love in a more romantic way.

The problem with Il Ri was that she wasn't aware that she was unhappy herself. The fact that her husband was always perfect to her, and loved her like crazy, and the fact that she loved his sister, made her forget, or to put it better, push back, all the bad treatment from his family and all the heavy job she had to do.

The new guy was the one who told her, "you are like a pawn to that family and you do whatever they tell you". He was a completely different person, free, and real about himself, and he saw right through her. He had mommy issues and Il Ri was the perfect mom figure, with the way she took care of a whole family, so he fell for her, and Il Ri fell for him because he made her feel free again. He made her realise her sad life, and he loved her like crazy but for her he was a window to be free again, she loved him too, but it wasn't the same as Hee Tae.

I know this might sound stupid, and it might is, but i think its a reality that anyone around us can live.

You might say, if she wanted to be free she should have left her husband. Again it isn't that simple. She loved her husband like crazy, she didn't want a divorce. Its just a back and forth thing, she couldn't do anything in my opinion. I keep thinking and rethinking it, and i can't find any solution. Again, i am not saying cheating is the solution, but i get where she came from

I agree with you, and normaly i'd react the same way you say. But the way everything was presented here, i think i'd have followed Il Ri's footsteps, shut it up and do everything i am supposed to do.

About her husband, i can't say you are wrong either. I have read so many different opinions about him online, his character is SO well written and the actor did SUCH a wonderful job. I believe he is the biggest sweetheart of the show, the most selfless person. Generally men, we aren't good at reading emotions and situations, we prefer straightforward things, i get that. I don't completely blame him, especially when he tried to relieve Il Ri from his sister's presence, and she refused, but still, he isn't completely blame-free.

It doesn't really explain, all we get is that she collapsed a day after they came back from their honeymoon. It never explains how it happened or why. I guess it didn't really matter, the show wants to focus on the married couple and everything else gets explored to the point that helps the show explore the main couple's relationship.

It isn't that easy to escape from family. it isn't a black and white situation as i already said, you can't just say i have a problem with your family. I think, her husband loved her enough to take her away and leave his family if she had said something, but she didn't. Not because she was trying to act like a bigger person, but because she loved his family. Still please, don't say "then she forced everything upon herself" What was she supposed to do? Take him and leave? She loved him, and his family was suffering, staying there with him helping him was the right thing to do!

Its a difficult situation you can't get out from easily. I believe if they had left, their marriage would still be damaged. He would accuse her internally that he made him leave his troubled family and she would be the selfish person in the end. In many ways the result would be the same, he would resent her and blame her, he would cheat or she would or worse.

A day in a spa isn't going to help with such big issues, also i doubt she had any time. She was working as a laborer in the morning and then she was taking care of his sister, cleaning the house/cooking ect.

I am not saying cheating is a justifiable escape, of course not, i am just saying she shouldn't be the only one to blame. She is at fault but everyone is. This was her life for 7 years, her excuse of a husband couldn't get a grip? He should have payed closer attention to her, just because he treated her right and brought money home doesn't mean she should be happy like that! His family shouldn't have relied on her that much, and at the same time abusing her with their expectations! Of course she shouldn't have cheated, but that thing alone doesn't make her a bad person.

it isn't that simple, she was miserable while being with him because every problem of his family was on her. She had to take care of his sick sister, she had to be there for his parents fighting, she was pushing his brother to make something of himself. And on top of all that she was blaming herself for what happened to his sister.

When she met the new guy she didn't "jump on him" she wasn't like, "oh yeah i want him to do me so much, lets do it here in your house". It never got physical, and i am not implying that if it doesn't get physical it isn't cheating. What she saw in the new guy was a window where she didn't need to be the wall for a whole family to lean on. With him she found the excitement and happiness she had before everything in his family happened. She didn't need to be strong for him, he was strong alone. I am not saying she hated her husband, but she was miserable and she didn't even really know it.

You will tell me, why didn't she say anything if she was unhappy. It is extremely more complicated than this. She couldn't just be like "hey husband, your family is getting on my nerves lets shit on them and leave", she loved his family but at the same time they damaged her marriage and life. Life isn't black and white. This situation isn't black and white either. Everyone is at fault, her husband is, his family is, she is and the new guy is too!

Why was it unrealistic? Because everyone nowadays is obsessed with sex and giving it away easily? I agree it seems unrealistic but that doesn't mean it can never happen.

Kdramas are generally based on true love ect. Il Ri was convinced Hee Tae was the love of her life and she waited for life to bring them together again. I found it extremely cute.

The fact that people nowadays are sad beings obsessed with sex doesn't mean truthful romantic people are extinct, or their beliefs are unrealistic!

Aw, thank you a lot for reading it!!
This is the 2nd kdrama i watched so i know i'm still new to this genre, so my reactions might be a little over the top. But from all the dramas i have ever watched it was literally the BEST drama ever.

It is really unfair it was so underrated, i tried to figure the reasons for people hating it, all i ended up with was people's excuses to hate it from the beginning. I guess people didn't like the fact that she was in high school and he was her teacher. But how can you hate such an innocent love? Maybe people didn't like the fact that Il Ri was quite forward about her feelings when she was underaged. Still i found it extremely cute, funny most of the times. It wasn't creepy at all. Their love is everything i hope for in my life to be honest.

Moreover, i guess people disliked the fact that she cheated, maybe even got disgusted before watching it just by the discription. Its true that the discription of the show focuses a lot on the act of adultery, while the show itself focuses on the family problems more.

I seriously can't understand people saying it was bad, and even more how it got bad after episode 9 (which seems to be a quite popular opinion), in episode 9 starts getting more interesting. How can you ignore Uhm Tae Woongs' TOP NOTCH acting during his angry scenes? This kdrama needs an american remake movie asap! And needs to be appreciated more. Also the average of 7,2 it has here is seriously low!

She ends up with Jang Hee Tae