The ML has no bedside manners, which btw, studies have shown can have a negative affect on patients. So his being "the best neurosurgeon" in execution is perhaps correct, but in all around practice, not so much. The FL is a good work partner for him, because she softens his abrasive interactions with his patients, making the patients' treatment complete.
The things that are bothering me about this drama: The FL's family (especially her brother) pushing her to reconcile with the ML. If my daughter, who I know was in-love enough to give up her study abroad opportunity to marry a man, decided to divorce that man, I would know that something isn't okay with him and respect her decision, even if she doesn't tell me her reasons and even if he seems like a nice guy. She's my daughter, I love her, I trust her, I respect her. The FL: While I understand the FL didn't divorce the ML because she no longer loved him, I hoped during the 6 year separation, she would have matured in her thoughts and feelings about him and their past relationship. That seems not to be the case since she's now admitted that she chose her profession because of him and she is so easily falling into the same patterns with him. She is jealous of other women around him and she seeks his approval above and beyond work related matters; she wants him to think she's pretty and be jealous of the attention she receives. It seems like she's trying to prove herself to him, instead of being truly self confident and self empowered. I'm not saying she needs to be mean or rude to the ML, especially since she has no choice but to work with him, but I would have preferred her to be indifferent to him and he have to prove to her that he's worth loving again. The character still feels immature in her attitude toward romantic relationships. The ML: The fact is that during his marriage, he chose not to invest his feelings into that relationship. It can be said that his decision at that time isn't unexpected, since the relationship truly was a rebound relationship, with very little time between his heartbreak and his marriage. However, imo, that doesn't give him an excuse. During the conversation with his friend, he admitted he would have to put in the effort, to her parents he made the promise to do so, and during the marriage ceremony he made a vow to the FL to do so. If you say, "well, you can't force feelings", I would say that's true, but you can make a choice. Almost immediately after their divorce, the ML adopts the boy, a person wholly unrelated to him, and puts the effort in to love him as his son. And guess what, it works, he loves him. Now I'm not saying the ML is a perfect parent, but to love a non-blood related child as his own shows he's capable of choosing to love. So couldn't he do that with his wife? I think he just didn't want to; it was easier not to since she wasn't worth the time and effort in his eyes. But now, 6 years later, he realized his mistake? Or what? The drama didn't show the ML hating her in their marriage, but he definitely didn't love her. Six years later, they're making him act like she was the love of his life that he lost. They have not shown him coming to that revelation, maybe that scene is still coming up, idk, but at this point, it feels like his wanting her back is coming out of nowhere, except it would make his life with his son easier and he knows he can easily manipulate and control the FL because of her soft-heartedness. Or is it because he's a competitive person, and she was one of his losses. It's not clear, yet. The SML: Oh my, the actor is handsome! Both the ML & SML are handsome men, but they're different types of handsome. That aside, when the FL tells the ML she also hopes to meet someone that loves her as much as she loves the ML, my immediate thought was "are you cursing another man to a one-sided love that completely breaks his heart", because she didn't finish that statement with "and I will love that person back" . That's all I have to say about him at the moment. I will finish by saying, on the whole, I'm enjoying the drama and will continue to watch it. The entire casts' performance is excellent. Bravo!
There might be a more decisive event that occurred that we haven’t seen yet so we will just have to wait for…
Her breaking point was when she saw him smiling, all happy and bright with his teammates, like he used to be before they married, and she finally truly understood that no matter how much she loved him or did for him, he was happier without her, as opposed to herself, who had been sad and lonely without him. She finally admitted to herself that she couldn't make him love her, because he didn't want to.
The ML was a college student- teacher over the FL (he's only 4 years older than her). The FL had a strong crush…
If you're asking about their early relationship, then no, he didn't, at least not a deep, true love. If you're asking about their current relationship, well that's the drama's storyline, his developing feelings for and the pursuit of his ex-wife.
I think he just couldn't ask. He was a jerk to her their whole marriage. He probably feel, her leaving is better…
I think I disagree as far as him not knowing how much she loves him. In thinking it over, that scene was probably him knowing she would come back to him instantly and him deciding against it. Her love is too suffocating to him since he's choosing not to return her feelings. And I say choosing, because while he wasn't a good partner to his ex-fiancé, the love he felt for her was real, just poorly expressed, and he desperately tried to hold on to her. When the FL sat in the car and tried to communicate the issues to him, he was completely apathetic. It seems he has some emotional attachment to the FL, I just don't think it's true affection at this point in time.
I am really confused going through the comments. Can anyone explain whether the leads were ex-spouses as given…
The ML was a college student- teacher over the FL (he's only 4 years older than her). The FL had a strong crush on him. She found out the ML had a fiancé, and backed off. The fiancé had fallen in love with someone else while studying abroad, so she breaks up with him; it is implied (but not shown) that the ML, while loving her, was too obsessed with his work and didn't meet the fiancé's emotional needs in the relationship . The FL saw/heard the breakup, so she takes it as her opportunity to "be there for him", essentially she willingly becomes his rebound girl. Because his mother (who met the FL once), told the ML he shouldn't miss out on someone who is as kind and loving toward him as the FL is, he decides to marry the FL. He tells his friend that he doesn't love her but believes affection can grow. The FL, being young and dumb, also believes she can make him fall in love with her, despite being warned by several people (including the ex-fiancé), and gives up her opportunity to study abroad to marry him. The ML is an emotionally stunted man, who doesn't know how to give and receive love because his parents divorced while he was young, so his dad wasn't around much and his mother was always busy with work. All this turned him into a work obsessed man, who is unable to express his emotions well. Also, imo, since he doesn't really love the FL, he isn't really willing to put much effort into communicating with FL, as opposed to the efforts he put forth with the ex-fiancé. The marriage lasts two years, one of which the ML spends studying abroad to escape from her. In the beginning of the marriage the ML did try to care about her, but as time wore on and pressures at work intensified, he started to close himself off from her, which made the FL feel insecure. In response, the FL doubles her efforts to make him feel loved, but that only makes the ML feel trapped. The FL travels to where the ML is to surprise him at the end of his study program, and sees him smiling and happy. She realizes that she hasn't seen him happy like that since they married, (he's always very stoic around around her), and that the marriage isn't working, so she leaves without seeing him. A week later when he returns, she picks him up from the airport and tells him to go with her to the Civil Affairs Office to divorce. It seems like he doesn't really want to divorce, but he puts no effort in to stop it and that's the end to the marriage. The child was a 3 month old abandoned baby with a brain tumor, that was left at the hospital the ML works at, not long after the lead couple divorced. The ML operated on the baby, saving him, and then decided to adopt him. The kid, now 6 yrs old, found the wedding pictures of the ML & FL, that the ML had hung on to, so assumes the FL is his mother, because the ML hasn't explained to the boy that he is adopted. The series begins 6 years after the main leads' divorce, with a lot of flashbacks to their college/marriage years. Hope that helps clear things up. :)
At the end of episode 9, the scene where she comes out of the bedroom with her suitcase and they're looking at each other until he stands up and says "Can you stay?", is that her imagination again or his? I've watched the scene several times and at first I thought it was her wishful thinking, just like in the bedroom, but the scene just before showed him emotionally struggling and holding his head in his hands, so I started to think it was his thoughts. I'm just not sure. Did he really not have any desire to stop her, or he just couldn't bring himself to ask. Opinions, please?
Leaving 6 years son alone at night is very sad. But, for the doctors, sometimes the situation might call for that.…
A six year old child left alone, especially at night, puts that child in danger. If the Doctor really had no one to ask for help, why doesn't he take the child with him and have a staff member look after him. Is that inconvenient... absolutely, but it's the best choice in an emergency situation, compared to endangering the child's life just to try to save a patient's life. This child is also a former patient of his, not just his son. I'd also like to point out that it isn't just the myriad of physical injuries possible, but there are psychological affects that the child experiences in such a situation (ie. fear, panic, abandonment, etc.). Does anyone know, is it legal in China to leave a child that young at home alone? Here, in the US, it's illegal so I am just wondering if the law is different there.
My first thought was "And I care!?!" Frankly, I don't care who an actor dates and marries or what he may do in his personal life (provided he isn't a sexual predator). I mean acting is their job. And since at my age, I'm not fantasizing about having some kind of personal relationship with them, I would hope they have a happy and healthy personal life. The better their personal life is, the better their professional life is, which means I get to enjoy more of their work! So, even though you don't need my permission, approval or even my congratulations, Song Joong-ki, I wish you all the best. Life is short, I hope you live, laugh, love and spread joy! Blessing to you and yours!
Ryan Cheng is one of the best on-screen kissers (if they pair him with a FL that also isn't afraid to kiss and/or the director allows a normal full-fledged kiss). I've been a fan of Ryan since I first saw him in Queen of Attack. He's an excellent actor with the ability to play multiple character types. I hope he can expand his career and do mainstream big budget dramas soon. Best wishes, Ryan!
"Both are very limited actors at the moment, not yet accomplished enough to carry xian xia or heavy modern drama,…
I watched LToT on MangoTv's Youtube channel (the English subtitles were atrocious, btw). In the beginning episodes she's young and happy-go-lucky like her typical characters, but it doesn't take long before she becomes dark and serious. I was impressed. I hope to get to watch it again with better subtitles some day.
I for one am very excited for this drama. The ML isn’t a great actor, but he knows his limitations and his market.…
"Both are very limited actors at the moment, not yet accomplished enough to carry xian xia or heavy modern drama, but what they are good at they are very good at."
Have you seen Xing Fei in Lost Track of Time, yet? It may change your mind. :)
The FL's family (especially her brother) pushing her to reconcile with the ML. If my daughter, who I know was in-love enough to give up her study abroad opportunity to marry a man, decided to divorce that man, I would know that something isn't okay with him and respect her decision, even if she doesn't tell me her reasons and even if he seems like a nice guy. She's my daughter, I love her, I trust her, I respect her.
The FL: While I understand the FL didn't divorce the ML because she no longer loved him, I hoped during the 6 year separation, she would have matured in her thoughts and feelings about him and their past relationship. That seems not to be the case since she's now admitted that she chose her profession because of him and she is so easily falling into the same patterns with him. She is jealous of other women around him and she seeks his approval above and beyond work related matters; she wants him to think she's pretty and be jealous of the attention she receives. It seems like she's trying to prove herself to him, instead of being truly self confident and self empowered. I'm not saying she needs to be mean or rude to the ML, especially since she has no choice but to work with him, but I would have preferred her to be indifferent to him and he have to prove to her that he's worth loving again. The character still feels immature in her attitude toward romantic relationships.
The ML: The fact is that during his marriage, he chose not to invest his feelings into that relationship. It can be said that his decision at that time isn't unexpected, since the relationship truly was a rebound relationship, with very little time between his heartbreak and his marriage. However, imo, that doesn't give him an excuse. During the conversation with his friend, he admitted he would have to put in the effort, to her parents he made the promise to do so, and during the marriage ceremony he made a vow to the FL to do so. If you say, "well, you can't force feelings", I would say that's true, but you can make a choice. Almost immediately after their divorce, the ML adopts the boy, a person wholly unrelated to him, and puts the effort in to love him as his son. And guess what, it works, he loves him. Now I'm not saying the ML is a perfect parent, but to love a non-blood related child as his own shows he's capable of choosing to love. So couldn't he do that with his wife? I think he just didn't want to; it was easier not to since she wasn't worth the time and effort in his eyes. But now, 6 years later, he realized his mistake? Or what? The drama didn't show the ML hating her in their marriage, but he definitely didn't love her. Six years later, they're making him act like she was the love of his life that he lost. They have not shown him coming to that revelation, maybe that scene is still coming up, idk, but at this point, it feels like his wanting her back is coming out of nowhere, except it would make his life with his son easier and he knows he can easily manipulate and control the FL because of her soft-heartedness. Or is it because he's a competitive person, and she was one of his losses. It's not clear, yet.
The SML: Oh my, the actor is handsome! Both the ML & SML are handsome men, but they're different types of handsome. That aside, when the FL tells the ML she also hopes to meet someone that loves her as much as she loves the ML, my immediate thought was "are you cursing another man to a one-sided love that completely breaks his heart", because she didn't finish that statement with "and I will love that person back" . That's all I have to say about him at the moment.
I will finish by saying, on the whole, I'm enjoying the drama and will continue to watch it. The entire casts' performance is excellent. Bravo!
The marriage lasts two years, one of which the ML spends studying abroad to escape from her. In the beginning of the marriage the ML did try to care about her, but as time wore on and pressures at work intensified, he started to close himself off from her, which made the FL feel insecure. In response, the FL doubles her efforts to make him feel loved, but that only makes the ML feel trapped. The FL travels to where the ML is to surprise him at the end of his study program, and sees him smiling and happy. She realizes that she hasn't seen him happy like that since they married, (he's always very stoic around around her), and that the marriage isn't working, so she leaves without seeing him. A week later when he returns, she picks him up from the airport and tells him to go with her to the Civil Affairs Office to divorce. It seems like he doesn't really want to divorce, but he puts no effort in to stop it and that's the end to the marriage.
The child was a 3 month old abandoned baby with a brain tumor, that was left at the hospital the ML works at, not long after the lead couple divorced. The ML operated on the baby, saving him, and then decided to adopt him. The kid, now 6 yrs old, found the wedding pictures of the ML & FL, that the ML had hung on to, so assumes the FL is his mother, because the ML hasn't explained to the boy that he is adopted.
The series begins 6 years after the main leads' divorce, with a lot of flashbacks to their college/marriage years. Hope that helps clear things up. :)
I'd also like to point out that it isn't just the myriad of physical injuries possible, but there are psychological affects that the child experiences in such a situation (ie. fear, panic, abandonment, etc.).
Does anyone know, is it legal in China to leave a child that young at home alone? Here, in the US, it's illegal so I am just wondering if the law is different there.
I've been a fan of Ryan since I first saw him in Queen of Attack. He's an excellent actor with the ability to play multiple character types. I hope he can expand his career and do mainstream big budget dramas soon. Best wishes, Ryan!
Have you seen Xing Fei in Lost Track of Time, yet? It may change your mind. :)