Can you give me a time stamp to the rape? Usually rape involves a lack of exchanging expressions of deep love…
Fucking doesn't upset me. It's just that, the way tHAT particular scene went down wasn't morally okay w/me. It made me really uncomfortable. Maybe our different thoughts are due to what's socially accepted around us. I agree it might not have been full blown rape, but it was still sexual assault and doesn't make it any more acceptable.
Nah i wont stop watching, i wanna see how it'll progress; there is always space for a redemption arc
Can you give me a time stamp to the rape? Usually rape involves a lack of exchanging expressions of deep love…
You have a good point, he did not in any way hold him down and force him. XS wasn't knocked out cold, but he was heavily drunk. It still did not did not sit right with me by any means and i personally consider it to be assault. Just cause he didn't say the words 'no' doesn't mean he said the words 'yes'. I feel like YJ should have just stopped at the cheek kisses and stuff. Just let it be and wait for it to play out when they were both sober. In my opinion it was too un-consensual. I didn't like how there was no affirmation. Its okay for everyone to have different takes on this. Where you draw the line is different from where i draw the line. I also have to apologize for coming off really rude. I'm sorry ◞ ‸ ◟ i didn't in any way mean to disrespect you or make you uncomfortable.
Can you give me a time stamp to the rape? Usually rape involves a lack of exchanging expressions of deep love…
Rape involves lack of consent. Not lack of feelings or 'deep love', you can fuck someone just for a fuck.
Yong Jie fessed up to making the drinks strong on purpose just so he can get his brother blackout drunk. Although Xing Si did drink them on purpose, he wasn't aware they were extra strong THUS he wasn't in any state of mind for proper consent. It's also sadly common for rape victims to blame themselves for it. XS was afraid he did something bad which means he prolly doesn't remember much from the night before. He was so drunk that he was basically passed out during sex (another huge sign of no consent).
Even if he wanted to have sex with his brother in the back of his mind does NOT mean he wanted to do it like that, right there, or at that time. What happened was against his will.
Also Yong Jie took advantage of the fact that Xing Si was drunk. He knew about his feelings and used it AGAINST Xing Si, because YJ wanted to have sex and knew that XS would have a tougher time refusing it if he was drunk.
Even though both had feelings for each other doesnt mean the sex was consensual. Just cause you like someone doesn't mean you wanna fuck them all the time. Yes, he consented to SHARE a bed but that doesn't consent to sex, at all. Even if he "knew the implications" it still means ALL he had agreed to do was SLEEP next to him. Consent to sharing beds and sex consent are different.
I haven't watched the new ep yet but i already don't like the existing relationship between the characters at…
I just watched it...... umm sir?...... wtf was that. I cannot comprehend why the writers wrote this for any other reason but to hate the younger bro character. That was rapey and disturbing. Completely un-shippable and toxic in my opinion.
At least XCL is making an attempt to apologize(????) Even though it was prompted by that girl, I hope he actually means it. TengTeng and XCL are my only hope for this show.
Im prob gonna skip the bro x bro plot till it becomes a bit healthier to watch.
I haven't watched the new ep yet but i already don't like the existing relationship between the characters at this point. - Younger bro needs to chill istg, he's inconsiderate and disrespectful (also a tINY bit creepy) - XLC is selfishly taking advantage of TengTeng to get that girl without considering if its making his friend uncomfy. He is acting ignorant and that aINT it man, - TengTeng is literally the only reason i'm watching the show at this point lol. I highkey want him to smack XCL and just shun him for some time cause he kinda deserves it.
yes i understand that this is fiction but representation of healthy relationships is pretty important to me ngl. Im not gonna quit the show just cause the last ep was a mess, i'm hoping the characters have solid redemption arcs soon
Im blown away by the acting in this one. Both leads are so committed to their roles and it makes the drama experience exceptional, i love how its going so far :'D
Literally everything about this drama was breathtaking. Incredibly high rewatch value, amazing acting, storyline and ost. I've watched it twice already and i can see myself watching it a billion more times.
You would DEFINITELY be missing out on a LOT if you haven't watched this yet.
It's just that, the way tHAT particular scene went down wasn't morally okay w/me. It made me really uncomfortable.
Maybe our different thoughts are due to what's socially accepted around us.
I agree it might not have been full blown rape, but it was still sexual assault and doesn't make it any more acceptable.
Nah i wont stop watching, i wanna see how it'll progress; there is always space for a redemption arc
It still did not did not sit right with me by any means and i personally consider it to be assault.
Just cause he didn't say the words 'no' doesn't mean he said the words 'yes'.
I feel like YJ should have just stopped at the cheek kisses and stuff. Just let it be and wait for it to play out when they were both sober.
In my opinion it was too un-consensual. I didn't like how there was no affirmation.
Its okay for everyone to have different takes on this. Where you draw the line is different from where i draw the line.
I also have to apologize for coming off really rude. I'm sorry ◞ ‸ ◟
i didn't in any way mean to disrespect you or make you uncomfortable.
Yong Jie fessed up to making the drinks strong on purpose just so he can get his brother blackout drunk. Although Xing Si did drink them on purpose, he wasn't aware they were extra strong THUS he wasn't in any state of mind for proper consent.
It's also sadly common for rape victims to blame themselves for it. XS was afraid he did something bad which means he prolly doesn't remember much from the night before. He was so drunk that he was basically passed out during sex (another huge sign of no consent).
Even if he wanted to have sex with his brother in the back of his mind does NOT mean he wanted to do it like that, right there, or at that time. What happened was against his will.
Also Yong Jie took advantage of the fact that Xing Si was drunk. He knew about his feelings and used it AGAINST Xing Si, because YJ wanted to have sex and knew that XS would have a tougher time refusing it if he was drunk.
Even though both had feelings for each other doesnt mean the sex was consensual. Just cause you like someone doesn't mean you wanna fuck them all the time.
Yes, he consented to SHARE a bed but that doesn't consent to sex, at all.
Even if he "knew the implications" it still means ALL he had agreed to do was SLEEP next to him. Consent to sharing beds and sex consent are different.
Sleeping is not fucking
I cannot comprehend why the writers wrote this for any other reason but to hate the younger bro character. That was rapey and disturbing. Completely un-shippable and toxic in my opinion.
At least XCL is making an attempt to apologize(????) Even though it was prompted by that girl, I hope he actually means it. TengTeng and XCL are my only hope for this show.
Im prob gonna skip the bro x bro plot till it becomes a bit healthier to watch.
- Younger bro needs to chill istg, he's inconsiderate and disrespectful (also a tINY bit creepy)
- XLC is selfishly taking advantage of TengTeng to get that girl without considering if its making his friend uncomfy. He is acting ignorant and that aINT it man,
- TengTeng is literally the only reason i'm watching the show at this point lol. I highkey want him to smack XCL and just shun him for some time cause he kinda deserves it.
yes i understand that this is fiction but representation of healthy relationships is pretty important to me ngl. Im not gonna quit the show just cause the last ep was a mess, i'm hoping the characters have solid redemption arcs soon
Incredibly high rewatch value, amazing acting, storyline and ost.
I've watched it twice already and i can see myself watching it a billion more times.
You would DEFINITELY be missing out on a LOT if you haven't watched this yet.