tbf, at least for many westerners watching, it’s not so much a problem with regards to having to leave their…
First, you seem to assume that I have a problem with their romance because of their familial ties. I don’t.
Second, with all due respect, I am Chinese, and have lived in the East and the West — I am not judging ‘other people’s culture’ since this show is about my own culture. [Edit: and, again, I don’t have a problem with their relationship, so no negative judgement from me about that.] I did not say anything negative about eastern culture nor western culture. I merely asked that we try to be more understanding of each other. You seem to advocate that people be accepting and understanding of my culture and its history, and I appreciate that. But:
a) if you are also Chinese: please recognize that we cannot demand that others be understanding of us while we do not give them the same courtesy. This is a forum where we are all meant to be able to share our honest thoughts. If particular people are being rude, feel free to call them out. But please recognize that we cannot just silence everyone for the few. And particularly not over something as a trivial as an entertainment program; or b) if you are not Chinese: please recognize that, if you are trying to be a good ally, it would be appreciated if you first understand how we would like to be advocated for. Please do not silence people on our behalf when some people are just trying to share their sincere thoughts, without malice, on a forum where they are meant to do just that.
As someone whose culture and history you are using to silence others, I thought it fair to chime in. If you do not like my opinion, that is fine — that is, in turn your opinion, and we both should be free to vocalize them, so long as it is done respectfully. But please do not utilize my own culture as a means to silence me or others [Edit: on behalf of my own people. Silence is not how we cross cultural divides.]
The fl falling for the brother in law who was married to a sister she had never met would be icky now...but in…
tbf, at least for many westerners watching, it’s not so much a problem with regards to having to leave their modern morals at the door; it’s having to also cross a cultural divide. Historically, in some western countries, you could marry your cousin, but you could not marry your spouse’s siblings should your spouse pass away — in some countries, this was codified law. Harem’s may be easier for some westerners to stomach because they too have historical precedent for having lovers outside of one’s spouse. But the in-law divide might be harder for some, because it is so ingrained in the culture. I’m not saying one is right or the other is wrong. I’m just saying we should all try to be a bit more understanding
I don’t tend to rate shows until I have finished them because I think each show needs to be considered in its…
ofc! It seems like you’re at least interested in the show, so I’d say it might be worth at least starting it — it can’t hurt. And hopefully you enjoy it!
Guys do you think it deserves a higher rating ? At least 8.5?How's it in China? Is it popular there?(I haven't…
I don’t tend to rate shows until I have finished them because I think each show needs to be considered in its totality. That being said, if the show continues as it is now, I’ll probably rate it 7.5-8. Clearly I’m still watching it, and still enjoying it, but there are some pieces of criticism that I have, as others have pointed out here, that would make it difficult for me to rate it higher, unless these last 10-ish episodes really knock it out of the park. (I’m trying to not give any spoilers, assuming that you don’t want any.) That being said, plenty of people here seem to be enjoying the show even more than I am, so I don’t want my opinion to bias you one way or the other — those who disagree with me have valid reasons for their opinions. This one might be better appreciated as a binge watch. edited for grammar
Second, with all due respect, I am Chinese, and have lived in the East and the West — I am not judging ‘other people’s culture’ since this show is about my own culture. [Edit: and, again, I don’t have a problem with their relationship, so no negative judgement from me about that.] I did not say anything negative about eastern culture nor western culture. I merely asked that we try to be more understanding of each other. You seem to advocate that people be accepting and understanding of my culture and its history, and I appreciate that. But:
a) if you are also Chinese: please recognize that we cannot demand that others be understanding of us while we do not give them the same courtesy. This is a forum where we are all meant to be able to share our honest thoughts. If particular people are being rude, feel free to call them out. But please recognize that we cannot just silence everyone for the few. And particularly not over something as a trivial as an entertainment program; or
b) if you are not Chinese: please recognize that, if you are trying to be a good ally, it would be appreciated if you first understand how we would like to be advocated for. Please do not silence people on our behalf when some people are just trying to share their sincere thoughts, without malice, on a forum where they are meant to do just that.
As someone whose culture and history you are using to silence others, I thought it fair to chime in. If you do not like my opinion, that is fine — that is, in turn your opinion, and we both should be free to vocalize them, so long as it is done respectfully. But please do not utilize my own culture as a means to silence me or others [Edit: on behalf of my own people. Silence is not how we cross cultural divides.]
edited for grammar