Mary Nanna

Thank you for sharing your perspective, it's very interesting.

I am a product of my age, gender and culture, as well as my values, so I didn't respond to the drama in the same way as you do. For me, the idea of dating other men before you "go steady" with one would be considered normal, especially if you meet online through an app or blind date set-ups like this. In this case, the dating stage is the exploration stage, before any commitments are made, so there's no perceived conflict.

What I do relate to, is the question - who do I relate to? What is it I'm looking for? Is chemistry everything or is consideration going to last longer after passion fades? I would genuinely be in her dilemma - because if you are a single woman in your thirties you are at the crossroads of deciding the kind of life you want to have. The question of children has to be honestly faced right now before that option biologically closes.

Dating is awkward, and not everyone is on the same page about whether it is permissible or appropriate to date multiple people at the same time before forming a relationship. I'm curious about the dating culture where you come from. How would this be viewed through your cultural lens, and does your position reflect your cultural lens or is your own experience or opinion that informs it?

I'm with you, it was awful. I haven't been this bored by a drama for a very long time . I'm glad so many people enjoyed it and thought it was great because that's hours of their life that they spent well. Me, I want mine back.

I really resonated with this review- I persisted with this drama because of Seo In-guk and honestly I wonder if he's embarrassed to be associated with something this dull. I haven't been as bored by something so pretty in such a long time.

thank you for your review- I am so deeply disappointed by this drama that I am going through all the reviews and reading all the low rated ones so I can feel better about how much I hated this show.

Kdramas are usually predictable, you're right - but actually I've watched a few now where I've been surprised by who was considered the "right" choice - which is usually the safe choice. For example, Who are you? school 2015 - the most air time, the one who achieved the most growth - did not get the girl. Similarly, I was disappointed by FL's choice again in Start up - again - the lead with most screen time and growth did not get the girl. When that happens, when the one we 've invested in, the one we've seen change and grow, doesn't win romantically, I do feel cheated. I'm not sure there's going to be much growth in this one, but my won would be on the one who presents as the most stable. If this was a Western show, passion would win, but in Drama land - stability is more likely to rewarded.

What a great review - honestly this drama is so boring - I just don't understand the hype around it. What a waste of talent, the actors in this are so great , I feel bad for them that their skill was squandered on such a weak script.

I love this review! You nailed exactly what annoyed me about this drama. I hope you don't give up on kdramas completely - when they get it right they get it so right, with complexity and tenderness and production values that leave me feeling better about the world. But maybe not with this drama.

yes I have to say I am still quite curious about the second leads but I can't bear to watch the show to find out. I'm sure they'll have a happy ending...

thanks for sharing your insights. It's really interesting to reaad.

One more question: what role did her being married before figure into the one-night stand? I'm not Korean, so I don't know, but if she had never been married before, would that make a difference in how her behavior would be viewed? I wondered if divorcees are treated differently with regard to societies expectations around sexual behavior.

Thank you. I read your interesting review and Oppa's thoughtful reply. Suspending judgment is a big part of this k-drama because it basically asks us to entertain the idea that she has the supernatural power to kill men who fall in love with her.

Clearly, this is not possible. That's why I chose to see it more set in a mythical realm, dealing with darker unconscious human impulses that are mythologized in order to be made clear and understood. Oppa does make a very good point about stalking and there's no doubt the ML behavior would qualify as stalking. I'm not sure of the time frame presented in the movie though - it seemed to me to be over months rather than years. Nonetheless, it is stalking. I didn't find it creepy though. That may be because of my own cultural background where stalking is rare and so it's harder for me to understand its damage.

I hadn't critically examined before the role of stalking in this drama. Is stalking also part of wanting to possess the desired object?

Thank you for clarifying. In this drama, did you think the woman was making her own choice to solicit a one night stand or do you think she was following some kind of societal expectation?

When I saw this drama, it felt like it had an archetypal feel -like it was telling a story that is deeply embedded in humanity - how intoxicating beauty can be and the lengths we will go to possess it. I think we all relate on some level. Although in the past it was connected with a "femme fatale" , is it too different from what some young women will do these days to get close to an idol or a favorite actor? Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Interesting - is this a positive change or a negative change in your view?