The first eight episodes were good, but then it derailed to a pile of shit. I’m still confused as to what the four last episode were supposed to do.
Ah Jin as a character was interesting. We always want villain fl characters, but when they start acting bad, our heart can’t take. One of the reasons is that if she was bad to bad people, we’d all be rooting for her, but when she get innocent people in trouble, then we have a problem. But on a whole, most of her actions were in defence and though there were some heartbreaking collateral damage, she really didn’t force anyone to do anything, she’s just a good manipulator. Honestly I was surprise how easy it was to manipulate people, but honestly all her victims were all dealing with a level of trauma so it’s understandable, because vulnerable and people lacking parental love/childhood trauma are easier to manipulate, Jun Seo, Jae Oh, In Gang etc, her boss was just a good guy. In Gang’s death was probably the most heartbreaking thing because she didn’t need to do that - that was her being vindictive. I would have liked to see her get her just desserts, but falling from such a high position is alright I guess because she really wanted to retain it.
I can see that Jae Oh is receiving a lot of love, but I thought he was a boring character. From beginning to the end, there was no emotional journey or growth, he remained a tool and died a tool! Why would you write such a character? It’s lazy writing. His death was probably the most interesting thing, but good riddance to his character. He added absolutely fuck all to the story. He might as well have been Ah Jin’s toothbrush and there would have been no difference. The actor was cute though.
Jun Seo, what can I say about him? Was he a victim? Yes, Maybe, I don’t know! All I know is that I never felt sorry for him when he came to whatever entanglement he had with Ah Jin. Not once, except for what he witnessed as a child because that was traumatic, but as a child what was he supposed to do? He needed therapy to deal with the trauma, but he was an enabler that fostered Ah Jins sociopathy, but masking it as wanting her to live a normal life, when he could have just taken her to therapy to deal with her trauma..But any sympathy I had definitely disappeared when he tried to murder Ah Jin! Bitch who gave you permission to kill her! That was a psycho move!
Spoiler, please.Yes, JQF inserted herself into their relationship. But could she have done so if not for Rebecca…
Also Rebecca was quite frankly one of the best female character I've seen in a long time. She was beautifully complex, she was strong, and sad, loyal to her family, even though she's quiet, she's not afraid to say her mind, she's talented, she was charismatic, I totally got why 3 men were in love with her and in most dramas, I do not get this.
That's probably why it's even more upsetting that the writer played it the way she did and didn't fully explore her potential to be the female character that doesn't carry love on her head.
That's why I think she was used as a stepping stone because although cancer might not be plot device, who you give cancer to is?
Spoiler, please.Yes, JQF inserted herself into their relationship. But could she have done so if not for Rebecca…
Thanks for your commentary. It was interesting seeing your perspective.
Yes I definitely agree with the fact that HRZ allowed Qing Fen to be the third person, but I don't think it was Rebecca's responsibility to stop that shit. And I hate to defend the guy, but he did try ish to fight for the relationship after Rebecca's broke up with him the first time. But she understood that marriage was a huge responsibility and that's why she asked his mother. This was a chance to deviate from K-Drama tropes where the female lead would postrate backwards to try and please the mother-in-law, that hates her. That's why it was interesting to show the perspective of someone who chooses not to go in with a self-sacrificing marriage because if you're an avid watcher of K-drama, we don't see this very often because the rule is that love conquers all. You'll get verbally abused by the mother for decades until she see's how good you are. Which is why I'm disappointed with the writer for going down the path that she took of making Rebecca stupidly be waiting for this bredda who is not even rich.
Yes, her decision was based out of fear, due to her background of rejection, loneliness, abandonment but also her inability to postrate for other people. She has pride which means she doesn't do shit like that. It's self-preservation which to me is a good thing. Due to her history, why should she subject herself to verbal abuse for love? That's why she left the house in the first place. With her quiet persona and criminal brother, the MIL would have never liked her and because she's not a beg, they would always be at an impasse.
I mean in the end JFQ got the love of the man and will get the spend the rest of her life in a loving relationship (she deserved it because she worked out for that-) and Rabecca is dead. That's the message I saw.
This whole idea of a dog-eat-dog world is not necessary true when it comes to love. This fighting you mention should not be about subjecting yourself to a toxic environment just because you love. HRZ and Rebecca's whole relationship wasn't going to work out because of his mother, that's why I wanted them to dead that love in 2 years max. People move on IRL after making that decision or try to sabotage their relationship, so I didn't like that they made Rebecca pine.
What was Rebecca's peace and closure in the end? Because the cancer felt punitive because she gave up love and was single, maybe because she was "bad" woman because she had an affair with a married man. The death felt like a cop-out. Death as a way to end misery and trauma is lazy writing. Death ends all things, not just misery and trauma, it ends beauty, it ends happiness, it ends the fact that she's not going to have one more body count under her belt. When Rebecca said she didn't want go, I think she meant it.
Yes JQF wins because she was ready to fight for her love but the obstacle she had was imaginary. She also had what looked like a more stable childhood and so would be more robust mentally to tackle the world. She already had so much favour in life.
That's why it hurts that the writer couldn't love Rebecca more when she didn't have a lot going for her. That's why I didn't like her being used as a stepping stone, because people with a difficult childhood like hers, dealing with traumas deserve happiness in life and not an end to misery with death. Yes life doesn't always work out the way we want to, but this is fiction.
I’ve been deeming the story and I realised apart from the good dialogue that seems deep, the message of the story is not quite good. It’s saying being a pick me works, inserting yourself in a relationship work. What is it saying about singleness? Rebecca was in the right for choosing herself over a relationship with a man who’s mother hated her. And the whole series felt like a punishment to her for not choosing love. What message does that send?
It was a good drama but I hate that Rebecca was the stepping stone for everyone, even the writer. She deserved so much better after everything she’s been through, so for that I hate the drama and wished I never watched it.
Ah Jin as a character was interesting. We always want villain fl characters, but when they start acting bad, our heart can’t take. One of the reasons is that if she was bad to bad people, we’d all be rooting for her, but when she get innocent people in trouble, then we have a problem. But on a whole, most of her actions were in defence and though there were some heartbreaking collateral damage, she really didn’t force anyone to do anything, she’s just a good manipulator. Honestly I was surprise how easy it was to manipulate people, but honestly all her victims were all dealing with a level of trauma so it’s understandable, because vulnerable and people lacking parental love/childhood trauma are easier to manipulate, Jun Seo, Jae Oh, In Gang etc, her boss was just a good guy. In Gang’s death was probably the most heartbreaking thing because she didn’t need to do that - that was her being vindictive. I would have liked to see her get her just desserts, but falling from such a high position is alright I guess because she really wanted to retain it.
I can see that Jae Oh is receiving a lot of love, but I thought he was a boring character. From beginning to the end, there was no emotional journey or growth, he remained a tool and died a tool! Why would you write such a character? It’s lazy writing. His death was probably the most interesting thing, but good riddance to his character. He added absolutely fuck all to the story. He might as well have been Ah Jin’s toothbrush and there would have been no difference. The actor was cute though.
Jun Seo, what can I say about him? Was he a victim? Yes, Maybe, I don’t know! All I know is that I never felt sorry for him when he came to whatever entanglement he had with Ah Jin. Not once, except for what he witnessed as a child because that was traumatic, but as a child what was he supposed to do? He needed therapy to deal with the trauma, but he was an enabler that fostered Ah Jins sociopathy, but masking it as wanting her to live a normal life, when he could have just taken her to therapy to deal with her trauma..But any sympathy I had definitely disappeared when he tried to murder Ah Jin! Bitch who gave you permission to kill her! That was a psycho move!
That's probably why it's even more upsetting that the writer played it the way she did and didn't fully explore her potential to be the female character that doesn't carry love on her head.
That's why I think she was used as a stepping stone because although cancer might not be plot device, who you give cancer to is?
Yes I definitely agree with the fact that HRZ allowed Qing Fen to be the third person, but I don't think it was Rebecca's responsibility to stop that shit. And I hate to defend the guy, but he did try ish to fight for the relationship after Rebecca's broke up with him the first time. But she understood that marriage was a huge responsibility and that's why she asked his mother. This was a chance to deviate from K-Drama tropes where the female lead would postrate backwards to try and please the mother-in-law, that hates her. That's why it was interesting to show the perspective of someone who chooses not to go in with a self-sacrificing marriage because if you're an avid watcher of K-drama, we don't see this very often because the rule is that love conquers all. You'll get verbally abused by the mother for decades until she see's how good you are. Which is why I'm disappointed with the writer for going down the path that she took of making Rebecca stupidly be waiting for this bredda who is not even rich.
Yes, her decision was based out of fear, due to her background of rejection, loneliness, abandonment but also her inability to postrate for other people. She has pride which means she doesn't do shit like that. It's self-preservation which to me is a good thing. Due to her history, why should she subject herself to verbal abuse for love? That's why she left the house in the first place. With her quiet persona and criminal brother, the MIL would have never liked her and because she's not a beg, they would always be at an impasse.
I mean in the end JFQ got the love of the man and will get the spend the rest of her life in a loving relationship (she deserved it because she worked out for that-) and Rabecca is dead. That's the message I saw.
This whole idea of a dog-eat-dog world is not necessary true when it comes to love. This fighting you mention should not be about subjecting yourself to a toxic environment just because you love. HRZ and Rebecca's whole relationship wasn't going to work out because of his mother, that's why I wanted them to dead that love in 2 years max. People move on IRL after making that decision or try to sabotage their relationship, so I didn't like that they made Rebecca pine.
What was Rebecca's peace and closure in the end? Because the cancer felt punitive because she gave up love and was single, maybe because she was "bad" woman because she had an affair with a married man. The death felt like a cop-out. Death as a way to end misery and trauma is lazy writing. Death ends all things, not just misery and trauma, it ends beauty, it ends happiness, it ends the fact that she's not going to have one more body count under her belt. When Rebecca said she didn't want go, I think she meant it.
Yes JQF wins because she was ready to fight for her love but the obstacle she had was imaginary. She also had what looked like a more stable childhood and so would be more robust mentally to tackle the world. She already had so much favour in life.
That's why it hurts that the writer couldn't love Rebecca more when she didn't have a lot going for her. That's why I didn't like her being used as a stepping stone, because people with a difficult childhood like hers, dealing with traumas deserve happiness in life and not an end to misery with death. Yes life doesn't always work out the way we want to, but this is fiction.