For those who hate Akira, especially if you're not gay, read this:
From @Focussen who commented this 3 days ago. Reposting it so people could see.
"Four episodes doesn't cover Akira's way of thinking. Realistically speaking, these doubts have been there since they started dating. So we're talking about years that this guy has been in his head about this in some sort of way.
Every gay person feels some sort of pressure from society. You are not part of the norm. I reckon that in a society as Japan it could be more difficult than the place where I'm from. They are unfamiliar with it. With that unfamiliarity comes limitations. Marriage is a great example of that.
That unfamiliarity isn't only on a large scale, it is within your own small environment too. Your parents, close friends, the rest of your family or teachers. They just don't understand it yet. And we all know that Asian cultures can give a lot of pressure. Pressure to succeed in life the best way possible and to not stray away from the norm. If homosexuality isn't being talked about and if there are no rolemodels within the said society, it will never become part of the norm. Not even a tiny little bit. In their eyes you are doing something that will not help you to reach the point of having the best life as possible. In Akira's case it might be even worse, since he has a sister who did go against their parents. The pressure of satisfying his parents might be even harder because he sees how disappointed they are with his sister. I really felt that pressure when Yuuki brought up to make things finally clear.
Another thing that's often being forgotten is how unfair homosexuality feels. You never made the decision to be like this. You never wanted to be attracted to the same gender. You want to marry too just like anyone else. You want to have kids just like anyone else. Life can really feel unfair these times. It's a feeling that is very hard to describe. It's like some entity out there is really laughing in your face. When he saw that kid with his mom at the train station and said how cute the kid is, or when his colleague talked about his own kid.. Yeah, I felt that. It's that longing for what everyone else has. Because that is what everyone knows and accepts. Because that is being recognized as having a good and stable life.
You will get to a point where these doubts will reach a boiling point. Akira's age isn't unusual for that boiling point. It's the time you really grow up. When you're getting responsibilities. The longing for being part of the norm becomes bigger and bigger. And with all the doubts that you have been having all those years it is easy to see your sexuality as just as some kind of phase. You will convince yourself on this. And you will convince that breaking up is not only good for yourself, but also your partner. Completely selfish? On the contrary. You usually assume your partner is in the exact same position with the same difficulties and doubts. And honestly, most of the time they are.
When an opportunity like that girl presents itself right at that boiling point, it is no surprise a guy like Akira is, well, almost ''seduced'', by it. It doesn't come as a surprise for me. It's that final try to get a life that is a part of the norm. The ordinary. Being accepted. No hardships.
I can understand where the hate on Akira is coming from. But honestly, if one person has been suffering it is probably him. For years already. I don't know how this manga unfolds and I am very interested in seeing how they are going to play out the final episode. I expect the episode to be limited and they will not be showing all the troubles both of them are experiencing after such breakup. But you know what? The truth will always catch up. The lie you have been living will fall apart eventually. And when it happens it will hit you so hard in the face. It's the time you need support the most. It's that moment when you finally realize that everything else doesn't matter except true love. I really hope Yuuki will be there for him if that happens, or that he will meet Yuuki again later in his life. If not, people like Akira usually fall into a deeper pit and it's very very very hard to get out of that alone."
From @crlb:
"People who don't understand Akira probably live on countries where mlm relationships are well accepted. On the most part of the world, Akira's attitude is perfectly understandable. People keep on asking for realistic depiction of mlm on BLs and when they get (like on this and DBK) they complain LOL"
I love it but I wonder what would my reaction be if I watched it without having read the manga. I feel like I can't judge this "objectively" because the emotions I felt when I read the manga are clouding my actual thoughts lol
It's been a while since I've watch a kdrama so I wanna ask, the kiss on this one was in the style of the kisses you would see on most mainstream kdramas, right? Like the kiss is just basically lips touching?
Where Your Eyes Linger!!! It's so good. You can watch it officially on Viki.
Tbh they don't feel short. 2gether has like 50 mins of runtime but it always feels like nothing happened but with WYEL, every episode (the only 2 right now lol) feels like an hour has passed when you watch them
From @Focussen who commented this 3 days ago. Reposting it so people could see.
"Four episodes doesn't cover Akira's way of thinking. Realistically speaking, these doubts have been there since they started dating. So we're talking about years that this guy has been in his head about this in some sort of way.
Every gay person feels some sort of pressure from society. You are not part of the norm. I reckon that in a society as Japan it could be more difficult than the place where I'm from. They are unfamiliar with it. With that unfamiliarity comes limitations. Marriage is a great example of that.
That unfamiliarity isn't only on a large scale, it is within your own small environment too. Your parents, close friends, the rest of your family or teachers. They just don't understand it yet. And we all know that Asian cultures can give a lot of pressure. Pressure to succeed in life the best way possible and to not stray away from the norm. If homosexuality isn't being talked about and if there are no rolemodels within the said society, it will never become part of the norm. Not even a tiny little bit. In their eyes you are doing something that will not help you to reach the point of having the best life as possible. In Akira's case it might be even worse, since he has a sister who did go against their parents. The pressure of satisfying his parents might be even harder because he sees how disappointed they are with his sister. I really felt that pressure when Yuuki brought up to make things finally clear.
Another thing that's often being forgotten is how unfair homosexuality feels. You never made the decision to be like this. You never wanted to be attracted to the same gender. You want to marry too just like anyone else. You want to have kids just like anyone else. Life can really feel unfair these times. It's a feeling that is very hard to describe. It's like some entity out there is really laughing in your face. When he saw that kid with his mom at the train station and said how cute the kid is, or when his colleague talked about his own kid.. Yeah, I felt that. It's that longing for what everyone else has. Because that is what everyone knows and accepts. Because that is being recognized as having a good and stable life.
You will get to a point where these doubts will reach a boiling point. Akira's age isn't unusual for that boiling point. It's the time you really grow up. When you're getting responsibilities. The longing for being part of the norm becomes bigger and bigger. And with all the doubts that you have been having all those years it is easy to see your sexuality as just as some kind of phase. You will convince yourself on this. And you will convince that breaking up is not only good for yourself, but also your partner. Completely selfish? On the contrary. You usually assume your partner is in the exact same position with the same difficulties and doubts. And honestly, most of the time they are.
When an opportunity like that girl presents itself right at that boiling point, it is no surprise a guy like Akira is, well, almost ''seduced'', by it. It doesn't come as a surprise for me. It's that final try to get a life that is a part of the norm. The ordinary. Being accepted. No hardships.
I can understand where the hate on Akira is coming from. But honestly, if one person has been suffering it is probably him. For years already. I don't know how this manga unfolds and I am very interested in seeing how they are going to play out the final episode. I expect the episode to be limited and they will not be showing all the troubles both of them are experiencing after such breakup. But you know what? The truth will always catch up. The lie you have been living will fall apart eventually. And when it happens it will hit you so hard in the face. It's the time you need support the most. It's that moment when you finally realize that everything else doesn't matter except true love. I really hope Yuuki will be there for him if that happens, or that he will meet Yuuki again later in his life. If not, people like Akira usually fall into a deeper pit and it's very very very hard to get out of that alone."
From @crlb:
"People who don't understand Akira probably live on countries where mlm relationships are well accepted. On the most part of the world, Akira's attitude is perfectly understandable. People keep on asking for realistic depiction of mlm on BLs and when they get (like on this and DBK) they complain LOL"