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Initially, she didn't want revenge. She wanted to honor her father's request to move forward and try to live a peaceful life . The ML would always try to pull her to his way of life. He feared that he wouldn't live long enough to finish his ultimate goal, so he wanted her to burn with revenge the way that he did so that she could finish off his desires in case he was unable to finish them himself and wanted her help him achieve his goals. He saw her potential and was unwilling to let her live the way she was desperate to do so. After pulling her into his way of thinking, instead of helping her train well, he sent her out into the world while telling her father's enemies exactly where she was, so that they could attack her. He thought that was the best way for her to be trained, without her knowledge or approval. He only cared about her reaching his final goal. Only later did he start to acknowledge his feelings for her, because he knew that his feelings for her strove against his desires to use her for revenge. I have watched it many times over, I actually like how he grows.

I felt so bad for the FL , she lost everything and was seen as a tool to sharpen and use by the ML.

It was hard to watch sometimes. The male lead is often very cruel, but acts as though he is the only victim/sufferer. The FL fell into depression after their breakup when he acted as though he was dating her best friend, and kissed her cheek in front of FL. Her sister told her dad about her depression so he decided to come home sooner, along with ML's dad. (We later discovered that they were also returning early for the ML' s mom, to surprise her for her birthday.) They died in a plane crash and the FL's sister slit her wrists for the FL to find in her state of severe depression and malnourishment. She passed out and fell into a coma. When she awoke she was taken to England for treatment and only remembered the break up and his actions toward her former best friend. (The kiss & him hugging/holding her.) When she finally was able to return to face him he punished her through many means. He even allowed someone to touch her inappropriately. Later after they work out a lot of their relationship, and she recalls history, his mother berates her, calling her a murderer. FL says that since his mother can't accept her then she will back out. He won't truly defend her and allows his mom to continue to disrespect her and accuse her. Then, again he tries to test the FL, and he wants her to break up his wedding engagement party with an actress who's fans have already attacked the FL before. The FL, was the one who set everything in motion but she's not responsible for everything that happened after. She has a martyr complex, believing that everything is her fault if others accuse her, with very little critical thinking on whether or not she's actually at fault. I wish that their relationship had been more healthy. In the end he left their future happiness in the hands of his mom, trusting that eventually she would do the right thing, which she does, half a year later.

I liked this show for the most part, the only part that seems wrong to me is ( Yin Xi ) the second best friend of the fl's bf ( Jin Shi). He is literally the one who caused the problems in their relationship and blamed it on her. He didn't tell her how he really felt, when they discussed things alone together and just gave into her to avoid conflict when he should have told her how he really felt and what he wanted in their relationship. He behaved cowardly and then begian to lie and hide things from her. When he was caught in the lie he gaslighted her and said that it was her fault that he resorted to lying. Not only that he then yelled at her, publicly humiliated her, and publicly criticized her. She wanted to talk with him but he just wanted her to accept his outburst as acceptable and he wanted her to shoulder the blame for his behavior. He doesn't believe he owes her an apology after humiliating her, she shouldn't have to apologize when he's the one in the wrong and didn't make his desires for their relationship known to her in a genuine, kind, loving manner before. He owed her an apology at the very least for his outburst and lies. How can he love her, if he has no respect for her. His behavior was not excusable/acceptable and the show never addressed that. Everything else was dealt with through character growth for all the other characters, except this. He never owned his wrong doings. Which was disheartening.