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I personally really loved the first episode!! The cinematography was excellent and we had a wonderful introduction to our two main characters! I would definitely recommend watching.

YESS!!!! She is in DESPERATE need of therapy.

I sincerely wish you the best with overcoming/learning to combat your PTSD.

That said, I def respect your opinion, but I think the keyword is YOU. Unfortunately, people react to different things in different ways (and I love how you touched on this btw even tho it was different). In the case of sexual assault (specifically) we saw that she was more or less opening up to Sang Yan abt her family relationship but not her almost being RP by her assaulter. I think despite all that Sang Yan has done for her, I genuinely think that she was unable to re-open that part of her life. Like she was still able to communicate with her mother prior to this, but whenever she'd she her insane (I'm going to say non-related uncle for time purposes), she would have a panic attack and be unable to function. So, I think it's unrealistic to assume that she (someone with very HEAVY trauma) would have a linear path towards healing. I think this is one of the few things I can understand being changed from the novel. She's not perfect, and as the audience we don't have to 100% agree with her, but we do owe her grace (as she obviously wasn't offered it (apart from SY) in her life.)

Did we forget that she was never a good communicator? Like did we watch the same drama or was she obviously STRUGGLING very much to communicate to him about her whole family situation? Like even when they were watching the movie and she was telling him about her family, she left out MAJOR details. Wen YiFan was never fully healed from her trauma. In fact, I think after 8 years of struggling to grapple with her past, she FINALLY lost it and decided to leave. She was wrong to have not communicated with him, but please do your do diligence and research of sexual assault/RP victims before assuming that her response didn't make sense. Because unfortunately, it REALLY made sense for her character.

Thanks for the correction!

In terms of your comment, it's SUPPOSED to get you, that's the point. Traumatized people make questionable decisions. As the audience, we can't believe that their relationship is going to be linear. She's unfortunately still VERY traumatized from her past experiences and hasn't fully healed from that. We can never FULLY understand her and her choices because many people have never experienced things like that. Speaking from the perspective of someone who knows people who have gone through similar experiences, this is a VERY REAL response, and it's not right, but I can't say that it's not realistic. Strength comes in different forms, and she's been able to shoulder A LOT for more than 8 years. I think this time, she finally realized that she needs to heal FIRST, and properly gather her strength to be able to fully open herself to Sang Yan. If she wasn't able to heal for 8 years, what makes you think love will be able to automatically heal her in xyz amount of time. I think it's important to just consider other perspectives and approach these sensitive topics with more nuance. People go through things, and life isn't always pretty (nor are people's choices).

She was already healing and progressing.....hmmm, but she clearly still had nightmares and was sleepwalking? Trauma doesn't automatically go away because you fall in love. Her falling in love with Sang Yan was not automatically going to wash away all her problems, and we see that by her responses everytime she encounters her family/assaulter uncle. She was NOT fully healed. Yes, her relationship with Sang Yan was helping her heal, but ultimately that's a process that needs to come from fully within. People don't change overnight. It takes A LOT of time for scars to heal, and if it didn't heal in 8 years, what makes you think it'll heal in the amount of time she was with Sang Yan?

I think many of you guys need to re-evaluate how you view sexual assault victims/survivors. This drama is HEAVY, and it's only fair to approach it with the nuance it deserves. In the past episodes, we see that Wen Yifan had already taken several measures to try to get away from her crazy uncle and get him formally reported, but it was to no avail. Additionally, if you aren't aware, the probability that sexual assault survivors even report the horrific people who assaulted them is VERY low (statistically speaking). "Running away" is a VERY real trauma response for victims, and it's clear that she tried MULTIPLE times to get her uncle to leave her alone, but he was convinced on stalking her and following her. Obviously, her past is a VERY dark and triggering thing for her to remember, and she could not withstand her uncle coming back into her life again and making her re-live that. Now, I'm not saying I 100% agree with her decision because I don't. I really think she should have tried to communicate with Sang Yan, but again, this isn't HL. She is a survivor from both an abusive/broken household and a sexual assault survivor too. In the CONTEXT (keyword) of this drama, her actions 100% make sense. Yes, we're all very sad for Sang Yan, but she needs to HEAL. The show is a very realistic depiction of sexual assault/harassment, and it's harmful when you just minimize her struggles to her being "not strong" or "stupid," because honestly, to still be able to try to find happiness after all that happened to her makes her VERY STRONG to me. Several people would have resorted to alcohol, addictions, and other things of that nature to deal with trauma. My only gripe with the drama is the letter as I think the letter directed to Sang Yan could have definitely included how she needed time to heal. But rather than that, I think it was a genuinely REALLY good take on trauma and whatnot, and I encourage you guys to re-evaluate your biases and have more empathy.

I'm not discrediting that she should have left a letter saying that she needed space. I think it was poor writing on the writer's part for the letter she wrote. However, I think her leaving does make sense for REALISM purposes. And we can see in the next trailer that she DOES develop some strength by telling her abuser that she is not afraid of him. I am speaking from the perspective of someone who also loathes the "I left him because I wanted to protect" him nonsense that cdramas pull. This is the first time that it felt realistic and made sense for the situation. This doesn't mean I agree with what she did, as I think it was wrong. But I also don't think it's fair to call her a coward or stupid for doing something that MANY people in her unfortunate situation would do. People go through things, and these situations are, unfortunately really real. She is just lucky to have Sang Yan, who loves her unconditionally.

Did you ever consider that this makes sense for Wen Yifen's characterization in the drama? It's so clear that she has a difficult time communicating, and the stress of her crazy uncle re-inserting himself in her life was taking a toll on her mental health. YES, it's upsetting that she left him. BUT, if we're being realistic in the case with sexual assault survivors where many of them DONT even report what has happened to them due to shame, fear, etc., this TOTALLY makes sense for her characterization. She hasn't completely healed yet and we see that by how difficult this whole situation has been for her. She NEEDS to go and heal first, and find her OWN happiness, separate from Sang Yan. Becoming fully dependent on him for her happiness is not healthy, nor is dwelling this much on her past. This is a necessary change, and it's only for three episodes (not that long in 32 episodes). Besides, by the looks of the coming trailer, this only makes her stronger and ready to come to Sang Yan with her whole heart.

Gonna re-use my same comment because the same thing applies:
@Riya I don't think you guys understand what it means to be a sexual assault victim/survivor. In the past episodes, we see that she already took several measures to try to get away from her crazy uncle and get him formally reported, but it was to no avail. Additionally, if you aren't aware, the probability that sexual assault survivors even report the horrific people who assaulted them is VERY low (statistically speaking). "Running away" is a VERY real trauma response for victims, and its clear that she tried MULTIPLE times to get her uncle to leave her alone, but he was convinced on stalking her and following her. Obviously, her past is a VERY dark and triggering thing for her to remember, and she could not withstand her uncle coming back into her life again and making her re-live that. Obviously, we're all very sad for Sang Yan, but she needs to HEAL. You guys fail to look at the show with nuance. It's a very realistic depiction of sexual assault/harassment, and it's harmful when you approach the show that depicts these VERY nuanced topics with this perspective.

I don't think you guys understand what it means to be a sexual assault victim/survivor. In the past episodes, we see that she already took several measures to try to get away from her crazy uncle and get him formally reported, but it was to no avail. Additionally, if you aren't aware, the probability that sexual assault survivors even report the horrific people who assaulted them is VERY low (statistically speaking). "Running away" is a VERY real trauma response for victims, and its clear that she tried MULTIPLE times to get her uncle to leave her alone, but he was convinced on stalking her and following her. Obviously, her past is a VERY dark and triggering thing for her to remember, and she could not withstand her uncle coming back into her life again and making her re-live that. Obviously, we're all very sad for Sang Yan, but she needs to HEAL. You guys fail to look at the show with nuance. It's a very realistic depiction of sexual assault/harassment, and it's harmful when you approach the show that depicts these VERY nuanced topics with this perspective.