I think it can be easy to hold him responsible for the failure of their relationship when Eun Ho is in such an…
I do think the failure of the relationship is on the both of them, but HO has hurt EH much more than she did to him. His words to her after their relationship ended, like the whole "embarrassing" conversation, would be a huge blow to even someone not going through a crisis.
Re-watching ep 5 after finishing the 6 episodes, I realized the main problem with HO. The man is popular in his workplace and is generally seen as a nice guy, but he actually doesn't know jacksh*t about forming deeper relationships. His relationship with his grannies, the people who are closest to parental figures in his life, are transactional in nature. The only way he knows to "love" is to take care of people, the way he took care of his "family". He has no qualms about vacuuming, cleaning and cooking for his gf all the time, but there's a lack of basic consideration in his actions. He constantly pulls her to places without asking her, nags her for the smallest things, talks without filtering his words through his brain etc. Basically, he has no idea how these all have an impact on her feelings. The biggest problem is that he leaves suddenly without prior notice, which is traumatic for someone with abandonment issues. You can see that EH started getting disoriented when she searched for him in the house. All these little nuances are hurtful to EH, but he doesn't even seem to realize it. Now idk if EH ever told him about this, because it's also on her if she didn't communicate this across to him.
However, the time spent with EH has clearly formed a deep connection between them, despite the lack of communication. He's deeply in love, but has zero experience in expressing such deep love. And every time he attempts to show his love, whether through his words or his "sacrificial" controlling ways, it ends up hurting her instead. It's not that he's inherently a bad person, it's mostly a result of his dysfunctional background. And the reason why EH is so frustrated but also can't get over him, is because she knows that he's never hurt her intentionally. In fact, EH and HO are similar in some ways.
Surprisingly I feel like the chemistry between ml and fl isn’t that bad..? I think if they where in another…
I don't think their chemistry is bad at all, in fact they are very convincing as a couple that dated for 8 years and still harbor feelings for each other. Rather, there are many intentional nuances that display the problems in their relationship (most of which come from the ML), despite the love.
another flaw incomplete scenarios. She was invited to her boyfriend house to spend the night, but still woke in…
Wait, did Hyunoh invite her to his house? I might have missed that. They did show Eunho waking up at Juyeon's house when he invited Hyeri home though. I do think some of the incomplete scenarios are meant to represent her fragmented memories and confused mental state. Whether it's effective is another discussion though.
So far, I think the biggest flaw this show has is the inaccuracies in its depiction of DID. The way they showed how her DID symptoms disappeared during a period of emotional stability, is a little questionable and unrealistic. It seems like a choice made for the convenience of the plot. But apart from that, the show has an emotional complexity and depth that is rare in recent romance kdramas. I am still very drawn to the story and cinematography, but it needs some suspension of disbelief on the DID part.
People don't seem to be talking about how Juyeon is also very damaged (understandably, given his backstory). He has closed himself off from the world his whole life. So once he started to open up to someone, he has no idea how to set emotional boundaries at all. He brought a girl who forcibly kissed him to his house, paid for a mirror she damaged (knowing she probably can't afford it), and let him visit his mother way too soon. The pre-release of episode 5 shows that he spent hundreds of bucks of taxi fare just to see Hyeri. Not sure about the context there, but it's yet another sign of impulsiveness. Anyone who functions like that in real life would be extremely vulnerable to emotional manipulation. He has huge issues and needs help as well.
To the people who want the FL to end up with the 2ML. The show is presenting the 2 personalities as separate people for now, but let's not ignore the most important thing here: "Hyeri" isn't even an actual person. She's a personality that's unconsciously created by Eunho's mind, one that does not carry her emotional baggage/trauma/memories/desires, to help her escape from her reality and feel "happy" in a carefully constructed space. This innocent, dreamy girl has found a man she connects with, that can make her happy. But now comes the million dollar question. When "Hyeri" is happy, does that make Eunho happy? Clearly, the show has already answered this, multiple times. Likewise, does Hyeri and Juyeon being perfect for each other, mean that Eunho and Juyeon will be too? That, the show has not answered. But some unbiased thinking can easily answer that question.
Yes, there are simple and fantasy-like relationships like Hyeri and Juyeon's. That's partly because Hyeri herself is like so (it's hard to argue that she's even human). But in reality, most relationships are imperfect and complicated, because that's what humans are. Like Eunho and Hyunoh. We're talking about two people who are nearing their 40s here. These 2 very different relationships create an interesting juxtaposition. Why is it so hard for people to be happy together? What does it take to make a relationship work?
Clearly, I am ready to write an entire humanities essay on this show lmao.
I just finished episode 4 and I get it. Many younger viewers won't or viewers who are just looking at the younger…
Exactly, a lot of people don't even seem to be getting the point of this show. Or maybe they just don't care, they simply want to keep seeing the couple that looks cute together.
Funny how tastes can differ. I thought the first ep was very unique and quite amusing, if only a bit choppy (though this might be intentional). It's been a while since a romance drama did something so different. I hope it actually develops the story well going forward.
The amount of people here can't hold themselves to throw their stones rightaway over some unproven allegation…
"Is it really a rape or is it "inconsentual" because they both get led on by their situation hence proceed without "asking"?" I agree with this point. If you looked at what LJW's side claimed at the time, the part about not seeking consent was indeed indicating that they proceeded without asking. It's debatable whether this is considered non-consensual, but it's ambiguous in a way. There are also people spreading that he got off with it because he "wasn't violent enough". This implies that he did use some level of violence, which is wrong. In actual fact, they couldn't prove that he used violence at all, which is very different.
However, I am not siding with him. I think naturally, the woman was at a disadvantage if she was indeed a victim, it also happened in a private space and it's very hard to have evidence to back up her claims. Also, there's a power imbalance as he's famous and she's just a regular person.
Ikr but hyesun accepted the role before the other lead role was offered to jin wook... I think. Still makes me…
She definitely accepted the role first. LJW stated in an interview that he took the offer because she was starring in it + he had previously worked with the director.
Random thoughts but I NEED Haein and Park Bo young in a ROM-COM like now because I know they'd destroy the Kdrama…
Not sure if you knew, but PBY was actually in talks to be the FL for this show before JSM. I guess she turned it down as she was busy with other projects.
How did the hate against Lee Jin Wook have started all of a sudden? He was declared innocent in 2016 and have…
Nothing new came out. It's just that his case belatedly blew up on twitter, there was recently a tweet with a few million views about it. Maybe since there seems to be more awareness on SA in SK recently e.g. burning sun BBC documentary, it may have sparked the discussion.
It wasn't "recently confirmed", it's just that people have only been spreading this recently. He was accused and sued in 2016, and the lawsuit concluded in 2018 - 2 years before the first season of sweet home. All the info that's been circulating was from back then, and he's done more than 10 dramas and movies since. Let's get our facts right, please.
ENA has a track record of picking dramas with unconventional plots and actually doing them well, but this one sounds a bit risky. It's already one risk to have a character with a disorder that's often misunderstood irl, and misrepresented in the media. But having the main character fall in love with 2 different guys at the same time? Now there's going to be moral dilemmas as well - is it cheating, even if she might not be doing it consciously? I wonder how the writer will rationalise this.
However, the time spent with EH has clearly formed a deep connection between them, despite the lack of communication. He's deeply in love, but has zero experience in expressing such deep love. And every time he attempts to show his love, whether through his words or his "sacrificial" controlling ways, it ends up hurting her instead. It's not that he's inherently a bad person, it's mostly a result of his dysfunctional background. And the reason why EH is so frustrated but also can't get over him, is because she knows that he's never hurt her intentionally. In fact, EH and HO are similar in some ways.
I do think some of the incomplete scenarios are meant to represent her fragmented memories and confused mental state. Whether it's effective is another discussion though.
Yes, there are simple and fantasy-like relationships like Hyeri and Juyeon's. That's partly because Hyeri herself is like so (it's hard to argue that she's even human). But in reality, most relationships are imperfect and complicated, because that's what humans are. Like Eunho and Hyunoh. We're talking about two people who are nearing their 40s here. These 2 very different relationships create an interesting juxtaposition. Why is it so hard for people to be happy together? What does it take to make a relationship work?
Clearly, I am ready to write an entire humanities essay on this show lmao.
I agree with this point. If you looked at what LJW's side claimed at the time, the part about not seeking consent was indeed indicating that they proceeded without asking. It's debatable whether this is considered non-consensual, but it's ambiguous in a way.
There are also people spreading that he got off with it because he "wasn't violent enough". This implies that he did use some level of violence, which is wrong. In actual fact, they couldn't prove that he used violence at all, which is very different.
However, I am not siding with him. I think naturally, the woman was at a disadvantage if she was indeed a victim, it also happened in a private space and it's very hard to have evidence to back up her claims. Also, there's a power imbalance as he's famous and she's just a regular person.