I don't even know what to say anymore. How can 2 people be THIS bad at communication? I think for Luke, his initial reactions for everything in this episode except for the dating app thing were understandable, up until they both DIDN'T TALK ABOUT IT. One, ONE, simple conversation could have resolved almost everything. Flora is very easily influenced by other people's lives and opinions. Like this girl didn't give a damn about their relationship status until she saw her bestie married. She wouldn't even TELL anyone that they were dating, and forbade him from doing the same —which I get— but to turn around and expect him to propose that very instant was ridiculous. The same person who can't have a vulnerable conversation with her bf wants to jump into an intertwined life with him??? I am not attacking Flora; Luke went a little too far, and was a a little too immature about her actions. I am not denying that, at ALL. However, I kinda understand his POV. At NO point of this entire relationship did Flora make it known that she was thinking in that direction. In fact, her non-responsive and emotionally distant behaviour hinted, even to me, that this was pretty casual. I've said this before, but their biggest problem is that they are not able to be vulnerable to each other, which is why they find it difficult to talk things out, and put up walls and use hurtful actions and words to protect themselves, which leads them to be unable to understand each other. Had they actually known the other person properly, then Luke would have known Flora values her friendships very highly, and would have had a better understanding of her friends, and wouldn't have gotten as jealous, and wouldn't have had a problem with the dating app, the male roommate, or the ex (that one was pretty valid tho). And Flora would have understood his mentality better, and would have known that he didn't actually mean that he never thought of their future, just that he was hurt by the distance she had ALWAYS kept, so he didn't think they were ready to go further in their relationship.
I really don't see everyone's issue with both these characters. Why do we constantly start labeling them as 'red flag' and 'green flag' every single time they make a decision or choose to act a certain way, then switch up the next second when they do something different? Humans often make irrational, emotional, and conflicting choices all the time, shaped by circumstances and previous experiences, good or bad. If everyone were perfect, then relationships—and by extension, life— would be bland and unnecessary. You live, and you learn, which, clearly, these characters are doing. The most important thing is ownership of mistakes and growth, which, again, these characters are doing. It is refreshing to see how each person's personality and worldview impact their words, actions, and decisions, and how they work with each other to morph into better people. I am a little tired of seeing the same tropes again and again, where everyone has life and relationships figured out, making them predictable and unrealistic. I do not hate tropes. I love the predictability most of the time, but I can appreciate and applaud when things go off script. I truly don't understand why everyone is so pressed when they act like real people, just this ONE TIME. Right now, I think both Flora and Luke's issue is that they cannot be fully vulnerable to each other, which is why there is such a big gap in their communication and a lack of complete trust, especially on Flora's end. I am also a little worried about how they will be able to properly flesh out the breakup arc, the aftermath, and the resolution in just 7 episodes. Crossing my fingers that they don't rush it.
I am actually loving THISSSS. I love how gradually Luke developed into a better person and boyfriend. I also don't mind how he acts in recent episodes, and yes, I am talking about him opposing her dog conversation; that's just how he is, and Flora is used to it(and actually really likes it). I love green flag men, but sometimes, seeing the same overly green flag guys gets tiring, because they end up feeling really one-dimensional. It gets so unrealistic, like no normal human acts like this. It really is refreshing to see someone with a personality (and growth!!!!).
I surprisingly really liked this episode. Both of them TALKED (a great feat, ik), and Luke apologized (thank god). It's interesting to see how he's slowly caring for her more, and how that mixes with his aggressive(???) and cold personality. A great comeback from yesterday's episode (watch them ruin it tmrw). I also loved that we got to see more of the flatmates storyline.
Ok, so... I don't totally hate Luke. He says really, REALLY hurtful things to Flora, and that is NOT ok. But like... I kinda get it. He is genuinely afraid of losing her, and afraid of being betrayed, so he lashes out and says whatever he can to hurt her before she hurts him. This is a defense mechanism, one I myself have used multiple times before. It is a result of previous trauma and bad experiences. That trauma, however, is NOT an excuse to hurt her, but I get it. Flora really needs to stand tf up and COMMUNICATE. The burden of this doesn't fall only on her; she is an adult, even if she is young. She is insecure, and seriously needs to talk it out with Luke before expecting him to reassure her every step of the way. We can be mad at Luke all we want for not clarifying that he and his childhood bsf were not having a thing, but that's only because we, as the audience, knew that Flora knew about his bsf, and that she was insecure about it. He did not have the information we have, so it's reasonable to not know to reassure her. That said, they both need to learn how to USE THEIR WORDS. That's the only way relationships can work. At this point, I think they both need time away from each other to reflect and, for Flora specifically, she needs to get ahead and mature a little more before she can go into this relationship on equal footing. As for episode 13, OMG LUKE PISSED ME OFF SO BAD. I hate how realistic it is, because pretty men (or most men really) are only ever that when they keep their mouths shut. My man would not SHUT UP. It's so hot and cold, I swear.
I actually love how smart and funny the ML is, its so interesting to see. I'm a bit tired of the cold and calculated type. Can they not be incredibly smart AND have humour?
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Flora is very easily influenced by other people's lives and opinions. Like this girl didn't give a damn about their relationship status until she saw her bestie married. She wouldn't even TELL anyone that they were dating, and forbade him from doing the same —which I get— but to turn around and expect him to propose that very instant was ridiculous. The same person who can't have a vulnerable conversation with her bf wants to jump into an intertwined life with him???
I am not attacking Flora; Luke went a little too far, and was a a little too immature about her actions. I am not denying that, at ALL. However, I kinda understand his POV. At NO point of this entire relationship did Flora make it known that she was thinking in that direction. In fact, her non-responsive and emotionally distant behaviour hinted, even to me, that this was pretty casual.
I've said this before, but their biggest problem is that they are not able to be vulnerable to each other, which is why they find it difficult to talk things out, and put up walls and use hurtful actions and words to protect themselves, which leads them to be unable to understand each other. Had they actually known the other person properly, then Luke would have known Flora values her friendships very highly, and would have had a better understanding of her friends, and wouldn't have gotten as jealous, and wouldn't have had a problem with the dating app, the male roommate, or the ex (that one was pretty valid tho). And Flora would have understood his mentality better, and would have known that he didn't actually mean that he never thought of their future, just that he was hurt by the distance she had ALWAYS kept, so he didn't think they were ready to go further in their relationship.
Humans often make irrational, emotional, and conflicting choices all the time, shaped by circumstances and previous experiences, good or bad. If everyone were perfect, then relationships—and by extension, life— would be bland and unnecessary. You live, and you learn, which, clearly, these characters are doing. The most important thing is ownership of mistakes and growth, which, again, these characters are doing.
It is refreshing to see how each person's personality and worldview impact their words, actions, and decisions, and how they work with each other to morph into better people. I am a little tired of seeing the same tropes again and again, where everyone has life and relationships figured out, making them predictable and unrealistic. I do not hate tropes. I love the predictability most of the time, but I can appreciate and applaud when things go off script. I truly don't understand why everyone is so pressed when they act like real people, just this ONE TIME.
Right now, I think both Flora and Luke's issue is that they cannot be fully vulnerable to each other, which is why there is such a big gap in their communication and a lack of complete trust, especially on Flora's end.
I am also a little worried about how they will be able to properly flesh out the breakup arc, the aftermath, and the resolution in just 7 episodes. Crossing my fingers that they don't rush it.
I love green flag men, but sometimes, seeing the same overly green flag guys gets tiring, because they end up feeling really one-dimensional. It gets so unrealistic, like no normal human acts like this. It really is refreshing to see someone with a personality (and growth!!!!).
He says really, REALLY hurtful things to Flora, and that is NOT ok.
But like... I kinda get it.
He is genuinely afraid of losing her, and afraid of being betrayed, so he lashes out and says whatever he can to hurt her before she hurts him. This is a defense mechanism, one I myself have used multiple times before. It is a result of previous trauma and bad experiences. That trauma, however, is NOT an excuse to hurt her, but I get it.
Flora really needs to stand tf up and COMMUNICATE. The burden of this doesn't fall only on her; she is an adult, even if she is young. She is insecure, and seriously needs to talk it out with Luke before expecting him to reassure her every step of the way.
We can be mad at Luke all we want for not clarifying that he and his childhood bsf were not having a thing, but that's only because we, as the audience, knew that Flora knew about his bsf, and that she was insecure about it. He did not have the information we have, so it's reasonable to not know to reassure her.
That said, they both need to learn how to USE THEIR WORDS. That's the only way relationships can work.
At this point, I think they both need time away from each other to reflect and, for Flora specifically, she needs to get ahead and mature a little more before she can go into this relationship on equal footing.
As for episode 13, OMG LUKE PISSED ME OFF SO BAD. I hate how realistic it is, because pretty men (or most men really) are only ever that when they keep their mouths shut. My man would not SHUT UP. It's so hot and cold, I swear.