katiescarlett

I am so glad I found this thread because for all twelve episodes, I felt like I was being gaslighted into thinking that the FL and the ML are not inside a toxic, emotionally abusive relationsship.

I mean broken FLs are mostly adorable but to make this FL depressed, abused child, druggie, suicidal, got married to a random drug addict, and ghosts the ML for the stupidest reasons and then comes back when it's convenient, does not give the ML anything but only recieves, letting the ML suspend his life just to help her with all her problems? Now they're trying to redeem the woman in an episode or two?

I mean what kind of person leaves a man twice with the shallowest excuses. And the writer really thought ahe would still be loveable. Most of the audiences are women and more than half of them had been trapped in abusive relationships that they worked so hard to get out of.

And to use the talented Park Seo Jun to gaslight the audience into thinking that this is a fated and healthy relationship. I mean PSJ, I know his character in Gyeongseong creature effectively longed for the FL for 75 years but it was an effin fantasy. This one is supposed to be built on reality. What with all the celibate MLs?

And please don't say that Gyeongdo chose to be a virgin since college because that's what the show has inferred. Is it biplogically, physically, emotionally possible for any man to do that?

And don't get me started with the FL, where is the damn shame? Leaving a man crying his heart out with alcoholism. And she didn't know it will affect him when she left just when he needed her while his father is in the hospital? She's the poster girl for emotional abuse and I don't like that she is the heroine of thia story, not the villain who the ML needs to move on from to find his true love.

And to add insult to injury, she is now the one pining and chasing on the ML right after she got dumped. Typical manipulative moves of a narciccist when her supply tries to leave her.

I mean, does the writer even read up about narcs and abusive behaviour? Surely she is well-read. And surely she researched this character.

I mean Gyeongdo was doing fine in Malaga and has no plans to return just yet. The writer then k*lls off the friend who stayed with the ML all those years he was recovering from the stonewalling he got from the FL. Mind you, Choi Woo Shik is the name of Park Seo Jun's best friend in real life. No wonder PSJ's acting was personal in the funeral scene. This writer is demented.

The friends and parents are all enablers for letting their loved one still have a relationshop with this FL. Even in the ending, Gyeongdo agreed when the FL said he might not want kids because he is afraid they will end up like her.

I am uncontrollably irked right now at the sheer st*upidity of the story. And how unbelievable PSJ accepted the script. Is the FL the kind of woman you want your friend or family to end up with? I hope not. All his other characters were kick-ass.

FL sucks the life out of Gyeongdo and when she's around Gyeongdo loses his dreams. His Malaga scenes looked really good even if he is practically a broke waiter because there is no FL baggage that he is suspending his life for. It is the FLs dramas he had to take a break from not his own.

What I am mad about is for the FLs behaviour to be dismissed as cute and healthy. Isn't kdrama supposed to give us life lessons? She is a glaring example of narciccism, c'mon.

I really hope PSJ learns from this and become more discerning of the scripts he chooses. Right now people are calling his character a door mat, and the more he sacrifices for the FL, the more it is interpreted negatively. Not all sacrificial love are healthy. Some are toxic and harmful.

Whenever I see the FL pouting on screen because she didn't get her way, I want to go punch a wall. All her struggles are mostly self-inflicted. She makes decisions without even caring what Gyeongdo will feel because he will still be there when she gets back anyway.

I hope instead this kdrama becomes a warning to women and also to men to learn how to recognize abuse when they see it, detach, and move on accordingly with a healthy partner.

Seo Ji Woo had no business getting into a relationship when what she needed was therapy.