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i know that. i never said he should be perfect. i was merely stating my opinion and my frustrations over the character. he might have a redemption arc later for all i care (i'm still watching so i'm not sure). but so far as the flashbacks i've seen, i'm not liking his timid self.

and it's not the ml's problem, it's just my personality clashing with his so i find his younger self annoying. you see, i've always been the type to be forward and speak my mind even when i was at his age, so of course, it would frustrate me to see someone who always keeps his thoughts even when he's asked thereby giving rise to miscommunication and misunderstandings.

i've seen way too many of those miscommunications that could have been resolved if people just talked. i absolutely abhor these kinds of problems, even if i know it's for the plot. i'm still allowed to feel displeasure. and i've seen how in some instances, he can stand up for himself, so why does he suddenly fold when fl faces him? he's fine confronting others but not talking to fl? i know he can speak if he wants to and that's why i'm getting annoyed

FL is really an idealist, right? I'm more of a realist. If her parents weren't shown, I would also be frustrated with her actions. Thank goodness we saw how she was raised so her being the way she is makes so much sense.

i prefer mature leads so i liked the present time more bc ML was more mature in the present. tho i really liked FL's styling in the flashbacks.

Her disapproval, to me, was a misunderstanding because that could have been prevented if he just explained why he did it in the first place. FL wasn't unreasonable but she was working with nothing. She wanted to understand him and make him feel comfortable, but if he doesn't communicate, how will she know? Then her only option is to do things the way she knows how and her default is to protect him that's why she disapproved of his actions she thought were damaging to him. But she only disapproved bc she didn't know his intentions. From her convos with the girl bestie, she wants to understand what his intentions were, too. She doesn't like it when she's mad at him and she doesn't even know why. If he told her when they were face to face, she could have understood him.

I didn't like how he wants to talk to her when she's not around but when she asks him questions, his tongue gets cut off again. To me, the bare minimum was to respond to FL's initiative but ML in the past was so frustrating. And then it reverts back to the present time where he's being more forward. So when it goes back to the flashbacks, I just want to have a go at him lmao

the thing is my patience is so thin. my brain can process that but i still can't empathize, and all the misunderstandings frustrate the hell out of me. This is a me problem lmao. I just personally loathe miscommunication.

I get he has his issues, but in these flashbacks, it's always the FL reaching out to him and i don't even feel like he's trying to make the FL understand him. He doesn't need to open up to her immediately, we all know that's leaps and bounds and it's too difficult for him. But can't he at the very least respond when she asks him questions?? That's already her taking the initiative. So really I can't blame her for sometimes making decisions on his behalf because he won't tell her shit. FL has the patience to deal with him but even I can still feel her frustration through the screen.

i'm only at ep 9 and i'm very annoyed. i think i would enjoy this more without the flashbacks and just more focused on the present bc ML in the past was so annoying - so many things could have been resolved quickly if he JUST TALKED. JUST FUCKING TALK MAN.

@LivV @AleksandraSucur love the discourse here. Honestly this is what comments and review sections should be like. Discussions where we could all agree to disagree and share our insights. Opinions can be changed afterall. Thanks for sharing all that - looking forward to new eps even more now.

this! this is what i find quite hypocritical. they cohesion is against outsiders but they kill themselves off from the inside. what family is their to uphold if they are breaking that very family from the inside? of course there needs to be some competition for them, but a good head would promote a healthy competition instead of something like this that looks more like a double edged sword.

it does give us a good show to watch tho

never said he was a good guy. i like him a bit exactly bc he is neither good nor bad (so far as the eps i watched bc i haven't caught up with the latest ones yet). cunning? i think yes. right now, he hasn't really done anything as bad as the he and yang guy.

i get that she can't be a loving grandma if she wants to be a strong pillar of the family, especially when she's ruling the only matriarchal family in a patriarchal country. but i find her attempts to keep face quite contradictory to how she condones the in-fighting among her granddaughters. she's clearly in the know about the scheming and everything in between. she lets everything off because she want to train them or she just doesn't have the heart to deal with them ruthlessly herself or maybe both. that will just push the girls to the edge even more

it's kinda annoying to me. maybe it's my own issues being dug up while watching so I'm being more sensitive. i know it's the writer's fault, but i think, there could have been a better way for her to rear her grandchildren - she herself grew up in such a cutthroat environment, it doesn't mean her own grandchildren need to, as well. she's just passing generational trauma 😭

Mr. Yan is so ambiguous and mysterious. Atp, I don't hate him, I even like him a bit. I hope he doesn't end up turning dark later on. It feels like c-drama writers have this thing for turning 2ML's, with good character development potential, obsessive, dark and irredeemable towards the end. I really hope that doesn't happen to him. At most, just make him go back to being a monk 😭😭

their glances and smiles whenever FL and ML interacts scream, "are you guys seeing what im seeing?" hahaha i like them more than FL's family

i don't like the grandma. it's mostly her own fault that their family is already falling apart but she thinks pretenses could patch up everything that's broken in this mansion lmao what a hypocrite

their personal maids/servant also ship them hahahahahahhahahaha

i love when the power dynamics of FL and ML are equal!!

as much as i am enjoying this, i hate that in such a big family, with many siblings, there's not a single genuine sibling affection. i feel really bad for the FL. i can't even count her relationship with the youngest bc she can't confide and share her troubles with someone who has mental issues. and grrr that 4th sister is annoying the hell out of me. she's so stupid. to think she's a full-blooded sister of FL's

hahahah i swear they spend more time together than with the FL and they understand each other well

the yang and he guy should just get married. they have more chemistry together than either of them with the FL lmao

she still improved a lot. her earlier dramas, her facial expressions had been off to me. i still can't consider her a top (or even a good) idol-actor but seeing an improvement is still worth noting

i didn't even recognize cheng xiao. she improved so much??