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I think in the same direction. They all need to heal and work on their past or nothing will move forward. You can’t live stuck in the past.

She and In where both in a way running away from the truth. In is hiding and not working on the loss and grief. And so does she in her own way with alcohol and a fantasy world. They can’t face the truth but now had too! Of course this explodes in everyone’s faces like boooom.
And Wang. He is a young man in search for something that he never could find. Until now. Answers. What do you do when people are hiding or not talking about things. You search for it and poke until you finally get it. He wanted to know about his father. She denied everything and made it worse with it. He was lonely and felt alone in this big world. And then there is suddenly In. It must have been kind of like the holy grail. He found him and got some answers to his questions and probably felt seen and heard for the first time in a long time.
The question is. Is it really love what In and Wang have or do all of them just search for a substitute for Siam.
I would like for Wang to grow a little bit more before he might get in a relationship with In if they did. For her to face her fear of loneliness and work on the big grief of Siam. They same goes for In. He didn’t work on the grief, the regret and guilt. How could any of them go into any healthy relationship if they don’t work on all these emotions and issues they have?

I feel as well that she really is manipulative, but is it really love for In and Wang or are they searching for a replacement for Siam? I wonder how long she thought she could hope to “cage” Wang in and behold him close besides her? One day he would find love anyway even if it wasn’t In!

I think they both loved each other equally. We have to think of the times when they where younger. It wasn’t easy at that time and in so many countries it still ain’t ok nor truly accepted to be gay. How could In live with him self and give in after so many years to ruin friendship, marriage and so on. They all should have been more honest with them self from the start to avoid this tragedy. But everything is easier said then done.
They all see different things in each other and I wonder can there grow real love out of it.
I mean Wang. He is lonely and in search for someone to fill the void, and might feel that he got closer to his father in a way. In who is struggling with regret, loss, and not worked on bigger issues. He comes in terms with that now because he got it right in the face in way with Wang. And Sasi the mother. She is lonely and was also left by her good friend In in the end. She has avoided everything that has to do with the death of Siam. There is just so much to unpack and work one. Wow!
In the end the big Elefant in the room is Siam who isn’t there anymore and they have to work trough this in their own way.

You have many and good valid points. There is also the part of denial, alcoholism, wishful thinking and she was lonely too. In was one of her good friend and suddenly he disappeared like Siam did in a way.
It’s for me as well not the age gap or that Wang and In are gay, but rather the whole picture. Longing, sorrow, loneliness, hurt, all of these big emotions. Can there really love bloom in an honest way and not because of the search of longing and other emotions that has been missing for so many years.
My heart broke when Wang was suddenly left alone after the dinner by the table and I knew he would take the chance to get away.
I feel for all 3 of them because of their own pain that they haven’t been able to work on. I hope it won’t end in another kind of tragedy.