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here's the green flag list btw: https://kisskh.at/list/47a09bNL

No denying that a LOT of tropes in dramas reflect the violently misogynistic world we live in. Sometimes seeing things that are unsafe in the real world reflected in a "safe" environment, ie, where it can't hurt you as it's contained in a screen, is comforting to some gals. Like a way to safely come to terms with a world that is going to be out to hurt you, no matter what. It's comforting to me, at times. Other times I find it disturbing. It's hard to find that line and the line may be in a different place for everyone.

That said, I do feel that it's impossible to consume problematic media and not be affected by it somehow. These themes seep into our subconscious and affect our behavior without our consent or realization, often. So in that sense maybe it CAN hurt you even though it's contained by a screen. Idk. This kind of thinking is what makes these tropes a "guilty" pleasure for me even though I find comfort in it.

In any case, if that's not for you then perhaps you can use this list as a warning system to know what not to watch... and I do also have a list for green flag MLs who actually respect women. You might still disagree with my choices there, but it's at least a better place to start for you.

spoiler tagging my response below as discussion of misogyny may be triggering....

Ah right I forgot! My b

Just watched My Little Monster (2018) and there's a scene where the FL defends the ML to a group of his fake friends within his earshot. Don't know if you are counting movies for this list though

It's been a little while since I saw it, too. I do know that she pursues him first in the drama world and loved or at least admired him first in the real world (?) It was complicated, I remember that much.

Yes, I've been checking out your lists haha! Always good to find like-minded drama lovers :)))

True! Don't know how I forgot about Lost Romance! I would classify that one as a "FL falls first" drama but once the ML falls he really is head over heels.

Thanks!! It's a work in progress so feel free to leave a comment if you know of other crazy-in-love MLs not included yet :)

True, true, the FL is defending the ML for her own benefit more than his...

This happens in Once We Get Married, I think it's in Ep 7?

can anyone tell me who falls in love and chases first in this romance, the ML or the FL?

TIA :)

This is such a helpful list, thank you!!! I would add Love Like the Galaxy, the FL actually marries the SML first and there's a strong love triangle (more like a reverse harem really) in season 1.

a gorgeous edit, thank you for sharing!!

You’re welcome! And I haven’t seen those dramas, if I do end up watching them I will report back haha

You're welcome!! I'm happy if other people find use in it too! :)

Thanks!!

Can anyone tell me who falls first in this drama, is it the ML or the FL? And who chases who first?

Reply 1988 (for the ML and SML both) and Reply 1997 (for the ML) qualify as 1, I would say.

The cdrama Meeting You could fit for 4.

My Little Happiness is either a 4 or a 5... he recognizes her quickly and pursues her too but kind of in a platonic/behind-the-scenes way for a while.

Thanks for compiling this!

Awesome list - there's also Hwarang (he acts as her long lost brother) and Love Better Than Immortality (it's, um, super complicated haha but in essence he pretends to be her brother)

Thank you!