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I agree with the ick. Based on their ages, she met him once (briefly) almost 20 years ago. They've never dated; never been friends; not adult acquaintances. But she lays in bed for days when she hears he's dating. Do fans think that celebrities who they have no adult relationship with really love them as girlfriends and wouldn't date? It is just so unreasonable and messed up to live life with those kind of delusions.

I'll say it again. Idol fangirling crosses a creepy line when it becomes idol WORSHIP. They don't have a real relationship with the idol but live as if they do. It's one thing to appreciate them for their talent and to admire them for their music but it's another thing altogether to "kiss their cross." Are they a Lord, Are they a Savior?

Your comments echo what many are thinking, including myself! Thanks for sharing.

Don't you see the irony here? Idols are expected to be flawless and perfect. Their every move is put under a microscope. Their personal life is greatly restricted. You're pointing out that the FL's private life should be kept private. She should be allowed to have flaws. I agree with that. What about the idol? The FL isn't a crazy, toxic fan but I like that this drama is highlighting the toxic and dysfunctional culture that does occur between idols and fans. It does harm to the private lives of both parties - fans living a fantasy that they have a real relationship with the idol that gives them control and idols having to live their lives in the shadows. That's why I was happy with the FL in Ep 2. She's aware of these pitfalls.

I think the FL totally redeemed herself in Ep 2. In Ep 1 spending hours on end streaming his song from 15 years ago seemed cringey. Rushing home from work daily to spend hours following him online seemed like too much of her life revolved around him for her own well-being. It was over the top. Her actions in Ep 2 reversed that. They are portraying her as fearless, tough, smart and rational. Both leads are doing a great job.

Thanks for the context. I missed that she knows him and that he played a prior role in her life. While her obsession with him is real, it certainly helps that there is a prior connection. Forget the drama, but it seems like there are fans in Korea whose obsession with celebrities crosses over into dysfunction. In their mind, they have a real relationship with the celebrity not a fictional one. Celebrities are treated like they are "owned" by the fans and become slaves to their love and approval.

As a woman, your characterization of me is really off. Forget the drama, my point is that there's a unhealthy, even dysfunctional set of dynamics that can occur between fans and celebrities in Korea. Fans think they "own" the celebrity or fantasize some kind of fictional relationship with them. Celebrities, in turn, almost become slaves of the fans.

So true. It really is a compulsive obsession. Fans think they "own" the celebrity. They fantasize a real relationship where none exists. Celebrities have to stay "available" for the fans. They almost become a slave to their fans.

That's true. However, is it healthy for her to idiolize him (all the images she has on her walls, etc.) to the extent that she does? And is it healthy for fans to idiolize celebrities to such a degree that they express that they are "in love" with them, dream about them? Seems to create a very dysfunctional life for the celebrity and for the fangirl.

I'm sure there's a level of fangirling that's healthy. She's beyond that level. Outside of work, her life resolves around a celebrity that doesn't know she exists. Do 35 year old women dedicate a room in their home to posters, collages and pictures of an idol that they're not spending time with? I find that creepy.

Do die hard football fans say that they're "in love." Do they spend all their free time following the player. Do they dream about the player. I find her obsession bizarre. It's not a hobby. She's propped him up to be the main thing/person outside of work that she thinks about, dreams about.

Strange hobby to be in love with someone that doesn't know you exist and to spend all your free time following him. She also dreams about him.

There's a level when fangirling crosses over into obsession. She's crossed that line. Her whole world outside the office revolves around following him. He doesn't know she exists and she's living for him. Bizarre.

She's obsessed with him. I would call that idol worship. Is it not bizarre to spend most of your free time fantasizing about how you love a celebrity. She dreams about him. Creepy. It is not a hobby. She says she loves the guy.

She's living a delusional life. She says she's "in love" with a celebrity. How can you be in love with someone you've never met, spent time with or talked with? Insanity.

It's insane to love an idol like that. Why wouldn't she want to pursue a life surrounded by real friends rather than live in a fantasy.

True they are psychos. The FL comes off as somewhat psycho with the level of obsession she has over him. Very bizarre that a fan would be so consumed with an idol. It doesn't seem possible that a successful attorney would be that nuts over an idol.

What do you mean a tad bit obsessed. Her life outside of work completely revolves around her obsession with an idol that she hasn't met and she's 35 years old. That is nuts.

Very well stated. The FL comes off as unbalanced and creepy with the level of fan obsession she has. It's really disturbing is this happens in real life.

If fans (let alone a 35 year old attorney) exhibit that kind of obsession, it really borders on an illness.