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I mean, wondering what JA's opinion would be if someone like YH came along and tried to tell her that she shouldn't have considered her grandma her family? Because she essentially played the same role DH's mother did with him: JA's grandma raised her when her parents died, and DH's mother raised him and his brothers alone after the death of his father. That's why they are all so connected (and having her close so they can look after her is something that makes absolute sense for people with parents at a certain age, YH herself acknowledged the convenience, even as she had planned to get DH to relocate... everything needed to be subordinated to her irrational insecurities and petty jealousies, despite the fact that she knew that she was asking him to give up the one thing that was fundamental to his happiness for no rational reason -his connection to friends and family-... again, if we imagine DH trying to do the same to JA and getting her away from her grandma and hacker friend because of his irrational insecurities, one immediately sees how unfair and unacceptable it all is... let's again remember that DH had never hidden his opinions and desires around family and lifelong friends, it was YH that had pretended to be okay with it, but really wasn't, and it was all a ruse to try to get into his good graces so he would let her mold him into who she wanted him to be... then she essentially hated iron for not being steel).

Appalling behavior. Had DH tried to pull something like this with JA, she would have correctly lambasted him.

YH was a liar and a cheater that was moved by entirely self serving reasons. She was also DH's wife. JA was technically supposed to be DH's enemy and was moved by the desire to protect her family. And yet, between the two, nothing could be more glaring than comparing YH's dishonesty and deception to JA's behavior, who, for example, couldn't help but give DH the suggestion about the phone booth despite it going completely against her interests, because he couldn't continue to look at him being deceived. This despite the fact that she was supposed to be on the side of those interested in working against him, and doing all this in order to protect her family, and being in an atrocious situation where she was beaten and lived in poverty, while YH's actions were entirely self serving. Plus, she was a stranger who was paid to be his enemy, while YH was his wife and lived with him every day, she had known him for decades, and DH was her child's father. And yet JA showed him more loyalty, starting out as his enemy, than his own wife.

Frankly, it's all the more impressive when you consider YH being a liar and a cheater for entirely self serving reasons, and her dishonesty being utterly effortless, and compares this to JA, who was technically a stranger that was supposed to be DH's enemy, as opposed to YH who was supposed to be his spouse and someone he could trust completely, and was doing this to protect her family and survive amidst poverty and physical abuse... and yet, JA, for example, couldn't help but give DH the suggestion about the phone booth despite it going completely against her interests, because he couldn't continue to look at him being deceived. This despite the fact that she was supposed to be on the side of those interested in working against him, and doing all this in order to protect her family, and being in an atrocious situation where she was beaten and lived in poverty, while YH's actions were entirely self serving. Plus, she was a stranger who was paid to be his enemy, while YH was his wife and lived with him every day, she had known him for decades, and DH was her child's father. And yet JA showed him more loyalty, starting out as his enemy, than his own wife.

One just has to compare YH's self serving and utterly effortless dishonesty to JA, who, for example, couldn't help but give DH the suggestion about the phone booth despite it going completely against her interests, because he couldn't continue to look at him being deceived. This despite the fact that she was supposed to be on the side of those interested in working against him, and doing all this in order to protect her family, and being in an atrocious situation where she was beaten and lived in poverty, while YH's actions were entirely self serving. Plus, she was a stranger who was paid to be his enemy, while YH was his wife and lived with him every day, she had known him for decades, and DH was her child's father. And yet JA showed him more loyalty, starting out as his enemy, than his own wife.

Honestly, in terms of YH's effortless, self serving lack of honesty, compare this to JA, who, for example, couldn't help but give DH the suggestion about the phone booth despite it going completely against her interests, because he couldn't continue to look at him being deceived. This despite the fact that she was supposed to be on the side of those interested in working against him, and doing all this in order to protect her family, and being in an atrocious situation where she was beaten and lived in poverty, while YH's actions were entirely self serving. Plus, she was a stranger who was paid to be his enemy, while YH was his wife and lived with him every day, she had known him for decades, and DH was her child's father. And yet JA showed him more loyalty, starting out as his enemy, than his own wife.

It is worth comparing YH's deception to JA's behavior, who, for example, couldn't help but give DH the suggestion about the phone booth despite it going completely against her interests, because he couldn't continue to look at him being deceived. This despite the fact that she was supposed to be on the side of those interested in working against him, and doing all this in order to protect her family, and being in an atrocious situation where she was beaten and lived in poverty, while YH's actions were entirely self serving. Plus, she was a stranger who was paid to be his enemy, while YH was his wife and lived with him every day, she had known him for decades, and DH was her child's father. And yet JA showed him more loyalty, starting out as his enemy, than his own wife.

Compare this to JA, who, for example, couldn't help but give DH the suggestion about the phone booth despite it going completely against her interests, because he couldn't continue to look at him being deceived. This despite the fact that she was supposed to be on the side of those interested in working against him, and doing all this in order to protect her family, and being in an atrocious situation where she was beaten and lived in poverty, while YH's actions were entirely self serving. Plus, she was a stranger who was paid to be his enemy, while YH was his wife and lived with him every day, she had known him for decades, and DH was her child's father. And yet JA showed him more loyalty, starting out as his enemy, than his own wife.