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18 ? What ?

Right?

Meon is really trying with all her might to 'rational' herself into being ok. She wants it. And she decides it is so, but he can tell that it's not. And maybe it just takes her a moment too long to realise.

Isn't it just such a classic case of: love sometimes is just not enough. No matter how hard you try, no matter how much you want it. Sometimes our wounds are stronger, sometimes our need to flee is stronger. Sometimes we inflict hurt without wanting. Sometimes it's not enough to love.

And with the ending in mind: let's love each other nevertheless. Even if it doesn't work and we end up breaking our hearts on each other. At least we DID love. We did try.

So much today is held up by looking for perfect, for just right, but never for the small understandings, and the calm in companionship and have it be enough. Leave the big stuff to be figure out later. And be happy, even for these small moments. :-)

I hope you liked the ending. Liked the promise of courage and stepping onto a path together. The separation between a couple may be large at times, and then shrink to nothing at all. But as long as both are still looking into the same direction, it can be whole worlds until you find each other again, you can still love.

It's sad seeing it end. This drama inspired me profoundly to look for the silent moments in between our noisy lives and that sometimes a touch means more than a thousand words.

Trust me. I am surviour. I have more clue than you allow me in your little mind-theatre.

I have a newsflash for you: you dismissing others while lording your own opinion over othemhers, while not toxic per se, can be read as immature at best, insecure at least and manipulative-narcissistic gaslighting at worst.

I have tried to read it in all variants to give you the principle of charity that you are actually not getting the point here.

And I think you really don't.

I am truly sorry that someone hurt you so badly that you cannot see humain weakness even in something in an online-drama and must read it as violent behaviour where everyone is trying to manipulate as soon as they don't reply to a text message. I bid you farewell. This discussion has run its course now.

I am sorry, but do you actually see what the plot writers are doing, yes?

I think you honestly believe that he left her because of what you quote here being her 'toxic' behaviour. Then of course, suddenly all your postings here make sense.

However, this is not what is happening: he left her because he could tell that she was trying her hardest to make it work and it didn't. The clumsiness, the will-over-reality where she tries to see his world, and cannot.. the joy is missing. And the deeply HUMAN lesson (not toxic) is that there is nobody to blame. It's nobody's fault. It happens. This idea that we can make anything work is killing a lot of relationships. Making it work looks vastly different than simply 'good behaviour (or as you would call it non-toxic).

The only unhealthy thing in their relationship is him not really fighting for her. He said it at the beginning: for him it was new that for once he was not the one to make all the effort for a hearing person, but her actually doing all the work. And at some point he grew attached to it being this way, while disregarding (or not telling her) about what was happening with his former GF. Even though there is a lot of off-screen relationship handling happening ("we talked a lot..." in Ep 15.) He learnt through her that he was deserving of that effort. But the thing is: in a relationship that's normal. Sometimes you are pulling more and being supported more, and then it levels out until the other needs more.

Here the levelling out never happened... because let's face it: he unpacked lifelong trauma and hurt which informed ALL his reality.

And lastly: sometimes the greatest hurt we create for ourselves is when we think we are something for someone else that we are not. Sometimes we do not immediately know why we come into the life of someone else. And so we project our needs and wishes. She came into his life to teach him about self-love and respect, to lessen the harshness of the hearing culture in which he can barely exist, to bring peace to his child-heart of a mother who rejected him by bringing him to his old home and his mother (Ep 16). She was there for all of that, and it didn't matter that she didn't knew how or why.
He brought her confidence in moments of deep doubt. She built herself up again through being loved.

This series has so many layer and the writers had courage to show us how understanding forms without words and beyond the explicit forms of understanding we are attached to, how it erodes in the silence that allowed for expansion a few moments before and how eventually the same silence will grow so heavy and break love apart.
And let's not start on second lead Johan: who loves in silence over years and years and it is just enough. Even in the hard moments or when he is tempted to say it out loud, he keeps it in his heart like a precious treasure because he fears losing what he has. His silence is deafening and anybody can see it. And yet... it is his companion.

It's a beautiful, beautiful drama. And I cannot get over it. I cannot get over the layers and the depth and I will forever be grateful that there are still creators out there that make dramas with so much depth possible.

Stop using the term toxic in this way. It's normal human behaviour. It's messy. Toxic implies manipulative, de-humanising and controlling behaviour (ie emotional abuse). NOTHING here is toxic, neither FL nor ML. It's just human beings having human interactions, misunderstandings, fears, unreflected reactions etc. for crying out loud.

Also: longing for things to be different when they are tough, situations to change etc. is not a sign of an unhealthy relationship or a toxic FL, but of a normal human psyche, accepting and seeing hardship. If anything it is a realistic way to show the difficulties of a relationship between abled and dis-abled people in the modern world.

It's astounding how the deeply touching portrayal of human relation can be misread.

Go back a bit and you’ll see that it’s a sliding door and that the farther side of the window is wide open to the outside balcony…

Yes. Tragically so, with a twist.

Please write a review, it will certainly be worth reading it.

I loved Rowoon in this, there is a certain charm to a ML who goes from completely emotionally frozen to the greenest-boyfriend-flag-that-ever-existed.

I came from watching him in Tomorrow. And he was really good (the original manga character really gained a lot in his portrayal). He is getting better and better. With each project.

I agree: certainly one of my favourite ones of the year too.

Wow, this one clearly missed the mark for you.

You sound like we didn't watch the same drama at all. O_O

OH my goddess, that is exactly right. THANK you for putting it into words. And this is why we are a bit lost with this: they are acting very continental/western where in US dramas it all needs to fit a certain narrative... it's actually sad for all that they are missing.

Agreed with you there.
What can I say, it must have been the charm of the couple and the fact that I followed live. I think if I had to watch it without the forced breaks, it would have been worse.

I tried with south wind knows and I just cannot. Cheng Yi was exceptional in MLC and I cannot get over the bad set up, the wodden blocking of the scenes ... I really tried. Modern C-Dramas are either hit or miss with me. I am still digesting the ending of Bright Eyes in the Dark... brrrrrr.

True... I didn't intend to watch it, but saw an edit on the curse on YT by a favourite FMV editor of mine and was intrigued... and then stayed for the chemistry.
But even the supernatural was very understated and interesting which I found interesting and I read it as them wanting to remain in the romance part and not go off and do a whole world/magic-building subplot, but rather 'this happened to them'.

Maybe I just watched too many badly exectued C-dramas lately and didn't see the all the things wrong with this one then.

There were deplorable plot holes however (why did the first visitor in the beginning die? From what? Where did the stalker get his cursing - and later spell - knowledge? WHY did they choose taoist talismans which are SO so so specific, only then to not explore it further... shamans =/ taoist magicians etc.) , I will totally agree with you there.

I don't know... the genre is really not my usual cup of tea, but I thought that it was rather enjoyable (with the second part being better than the beginning). Quite surprisingly so.

Totally agree with you here. I would never have picked up this drama (because not really my genre), but for a fan edit on YT on Shin Yu and the curse which had me interested and curious.

And it did not disappoint. It was in fact so charming that I missed many plot holes, which is really saying a lot.

The structure of the narrating storyline and how it's interwoven is very interesting and is well done. Also the incremental reveal of the whole past-plotline which is very essential and avoids using too many unnecessary characters just to make it 'real'. I loved the use of the echoes (fireworks in the past, same fireworks in the present)... there was a lot of sense and attention of detail.

Some editing, as you said, could have been better, and some of the audio edits were unnecessary.

But you are right. Will miss them too.

Wow... people, your reviews are so, so bad, what happened..? Is the mix of genres too much ?

Seriously? DO YOU have nothing better to do than declare women on the internet as toxic hypocrites? Bro, breathe, you are giving off unpleasant incel vibes that nobody wants to see.

Interesting that you think that. Kind of making their point for them.

Absolutely not.

The editing and storytelling is so bad… there are time shifts that you don’t get because the actors don’t age… there are so many people you’re never introduced to… there is no backstory take could make them into actual people… this is really bad. What a waste.

That fact had me convinced that his dad had survived too.