Oshin Episode 93

Reminder to myself as a woman

In this episode, her grandson told Oshin he wished to marry someone like his grandmother. I think the screenwriter meant to praise her as a wife material, because Oshin was kind of a perfect woman who was both perfect at cooking, doing chores and working to support her husband while never complaining about her husband, but always being understanding and soft towards him instead. If they wanted to encourage women to be more like Oshin, I would never accept that encouragement. I’d rather be not good at anything and watching my dramas forever instead of getting married. My mother is kind of like Oshin, except for the understanding and encouraging attitude towards her husband. She is hot-tempered and considered ‘not feminine enough’. My father always takes her for granted and disrespects her, like Oshin’s husband. I don’t want to be like Oshin in this situation.

Also, the grandson mentioned that nowadays women would divorce her husband if they were in Oshin’s situation, and he said the reason was about money. Well, I would divorce the guy at the moment I met his father and heard what he talked bad about his son’s mother behind her back in front of his daughter-in-law, or never got married in the first place.

In the previous episode (episode 92), the cafe girls also discussed how Oshin’s life was hard after her marriage and all of them said that she should’ve stayed single and lived on her own instead. From what I saw, she totally had all the skills she needed to support herself, instead of having to take care of a male adult kid who was a controlling hypocritical loser.

Anyway, that’s not the main point of what I was about to say. I mean, Oshin told her grandson that she was mistaken about what love was and didn’t know how a man felt. If this was really a message the screenwriter wanted to give their viewers, I would refuse to learn that lesson. Oshin did nothing wrong. She had done everything for the man she loved. What’s wrong is that she met the wrong man, who was an insecure patriarchal narcissist. I will leave some words here to strongly remind myself to never be like Oshin in this case, if later on this turned out to be the message the screenwriters wanted to tell us women.

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