My Dearest

Amazing... but confused

A quite slow beginning (it took 2 episodes to really get into it), but it is worth hanging in there. Acting was amazing, especially in the war scenes. The chemistry is great and the sorority between the four women is really precious.

I loved almost everything, except the last 2 episodes that I found to be a bit confusing (with some flashbacks?). The war/occupation storyline was completly left out in the last episode and it looked like a pressed ending. It is honestly disappointing and a waste because there is so much more to be done (exploring characters' past, development etc).

Let's see what season 2 has in store, but give season 1 a try :) EDIT : Go watch Part 2 it's amazing !! My Part 2 review : https://kisskh.at/profile/lisouille/reviews/329673

Note : I am a bit sensitive and some scenes were kinda violent so watch out if you cannot stand violence...

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My Comparative analysis: My Dearest and Gone with the Wind

For me, Vivien Leigh and Clark Gable are one of the most legendary couples in the history of world cinema. Therefore, the Korean series, which reinterprets the story in its own way and according to its cultural codes, could convince me to forget the first version and immerse myself in its story. The answer is yes: this series can be classified in the category of a major work of so-called “minor art” (popular art), because although there are differences, there are also similarities. Hence, I took the time to make a comparative analysis of two major works.

My Dearest, a 17th-century Korean sageuk, and Gone with the Wind, the emblematic novel and film of the American Civil War, both tell stories where passion and destiny intertwine at the heart of turmoil.

Historical Context: a reversed mirror of society

In My Dearest, the Joseon kingdom is shaken by the Manchu invasion. Confucian social structures collapse, and women become targets of violence and abuse imposed brutally by war. Every choice becomes a matter of survival. Love appears as a fragile luxury, threatened by chaos and social conventions.

In contrast, Gone with the Wind depicts the American South in the 19th century, during the Civil War. Southern aristocrats see their plantations and power crumble. Famine, violence, and human losses disrupt a world once structured and reassuring. Here, there is a glorifying view of the slavery system, which I personally consider the film's major flaw. Scarlett O’Hara, like Gil‑chae, must learn to survive and make decisions that define her, often against society’s expected morality.

This war shows the strength of heroines—women like Gil‑chae, who suddenly grows up, much like Scarlett shedding her carelessness. It also shows how men perceive war and what patriotism means: one fights for the king and ideology, the other only for the suffering people, otherwise abstaining.

Male Heroes: Jang‑hyun and Rhett Butler

Jang‑hyun and Rhett Butler share the archetype of the charismatic, wounded, and elusive man. Classic anti-heroes: charismatic, mysterious, often distant. Jang‑hyun hides his heart behind a mask of indifference and sarcasm. His loyalty and depth appear in times of crisis, revealing a love that only those who can understand him truly perceive. Rhett Butler, cynical and brilliant, feigns indifference to survive but burns internally with an intense passion for Scarlett.

Both fall in love not with appearances or social conformity, but with the heroine’s strength and lively spirit. They are deeply feminist, disregard the opinions of others, and possess a rare, admirable sense of loyalty in love.

Cinematically, both are filmed splendidly with wide shots but also isolated ones to capture the actors’ full range of emotions. Scenes in the fields are magnificent and poetic.

Heroines: Gil‑chae and Scarlett O’Hara

Both women embody the survivor archetype. Gil‑chae, at first coquettish, carefree, and social, quickly reveals herself as strategic, courageous, and resilient. Scarlett O’Hara, though often criticized for her selfishness, shares the same ability to adapt and survive despite loss and humiliation. Their love for the hero is paradoxical: it is both a refuge and a catalyst for their evolution.

Gil‑chae’s love for Nam Yeon‑Jun is more literary and imagined, a nostalgia for her carefree youth. Yet unconsciously, both women always loved the main hero because they share the same moral codes and values. Gil‑chae’s relationship with Jang‑hyun often relies on dialogue without space for sincere emotional exchange, as both egos clash; no one wants to yield or open their heart.

Psychological Evolution: The Arc of Redemption

Gil‑chae transforms her vulnerability into strength and her fear into conscious choice.
Scarlett, through her pain and failed romances, learns to distinguish material survival from emotional fulfillment, maintaining positivity despite life’s obstacles.
These arcs of redemption are not only individual: they concern how each learns to love and stand upright in a broken world.

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a perfect marriage of history & drama

This review is only for Part 1 (Ep 1-10)

Having grown up in North America, I know next to nothing of Chinese & Asian history. This K-period drama has sparked my curiosity about ancient China's profound economic, political, & cultural influence on Korean history. The show balances interwoven love triangles, set against the tumultuous backdrop of the 1637 Qing invasion by a transitioning China. Korea is caught in the crossfire between two Chinese dynasties, the declining Ming & rising Qing.

The central character is a young noblewoman, Yu Gil Chae, who lives in a college town filled with scholarly noble families. She, along with her peers, is concerned only with finding the right husband. Problem is, she loves her best friend's betrothed who doesn't return the affection. As the spectre of a devastating war looms, a mysterious nobleman, Lee Jang Hyun, comes into town to do business, who seems completely noncommital & almost contemptuous in both personal relationships as well as politics. He justifiably criticizes a weak and paranoid king. However, willingly or not, he becomes a key player in the fate of the townspeople, the country, & Gil Chae's destiny.

The romance portion starts off light in tone, whereas the war is given a very stark & brutal picture. The barbarian coalition of Manchus, Mongols, & Chinese forces are literally blood thirsty. Interestingly, the Manchu language, which is now in danger of extinction, is preserved in this drama with the actors actually having had to learn & speak lines of it. For the first half, it seemed like this show would be a more serious war drama with a light romance on the side which didn't really seem to fit. There's the usual trope of the bad start relationship, & Gil Chae's devotion to her unrequited love interest got rather annoying.

However, in the 2nd half of Season 1, the war ends with the subjugation of the Joseon king, & the relationship between Gil Chae & Jang Hyun, as well as the rest of the characters, gets really interesting. The war divides Joseon into 2 types of people: those who place counry & duty above all else & those who don't. This is oversimplification but it's the basis of all the interpersonal conflicts. I liked Ahn Eun Jin's amazing portrayal of Gil Chae's growth from a naive girl into a self determined woman. I was completely sucked in watching the push & pull of Gil Chae & Jang Hyun's relationship as they try to figure out what they want from each other & for themselves. The emotional level is on par with The Red Sleeve. Gil Chae makes a gut wrenching but true-to-self decision at the end & this is the lead in to Season 2. Definitely must watch to the finish!

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A character driven story that was overpowered by the plot

I haven’t written a review in a while so bear with me
As a kid I played this Pride & Prejudice game, a multi choice story board with different endings
For example if Lizzy chose to dance with Mr Darcy the first time they met, or if she accept his first proposal, things would be different
How so? In the second scenario he never went back to their mansion, he thought she was a simple win, maybe even after his money so he didn’t love her as dearly

And well getting back to the review, this is what happened here, the setting was simple, a flirtatious girl meets the heartbreaker
And then we started getting constant sidetracking plotlines

For me eps4&5 then 8&9 were the best simply because it was about gilchae, our sweet naive girl’s journey and growth
For her, shoes and boys were her pastime activities , she had no worries, no threats
Her love was a product of that fantasy and “only” future plan for girls, to get married
Anyway as janghyun shook her world and the war broke her world, we get a simultaneous narrative of two different prospectives

To me all men looked at gilchae like she was gullible. They never accepted her feelings and never thought it was anything more than a youthful vigor. And that is the curse of age gaps, men think they’re more mature and have a deeper acknowledgment of the world

The fantasy dream of janghyun shows how he never understood or got to see the gilchae that had to mature, from the island but more so when all the male figures in her life weren’t there to “save and protect” them, the women who were raised to stay home and take cover while the men did everything.
So she had to get up, work, make men listen and try hard to show results to gain money to survive while also getting respect as a figure able to plan and plot

I am glad, eventho it was messy, I’m glad they had finally both talked it all out, that was three or more years of two incredibly frustrating people that didn’t show their vulnerability
Every time they had to actually admit their feelings they would switch it up with bickering and teasing that did become burdensome and increased misunderstandings

But anyway if she had gone with him, she’d always feel guilty about her family and he’d think she hated him for it so the best choice was to stay
Just like how janghyun said if he had “went to her faster” he worried she’d get over him and that was basically why he played hard to get, which also led to frustration and made gilchae trust him less

Now they also need ten more eps, so they had to end on heartache but either the husband lets her go, idk how their separation works. Or he dies and she can be free
By then I hope janghyun sees her as a mature person rather than a fancy object in forms of a love interest

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It will suck you in instantaneously

I mostly binged this part and it was probably the best decision since it's an easy watch. By that I mean, it is very easy to sink into the story. It captivates you. There is a lot happening constantly so you certainly won't be bored. It also has some very emotional moments. At least they were for me. I was on the verge of tears at least a couple of times so expect angst as it delivers it well.

The war scenes were brutal without being too gorey. They left it to the audience's understanding of what might have happened/is happening and I am thankful to not have to seen some of those scenes. Else it would have required me to take a lot of breaks. It's nothing close to Game Of Thrones if you need an idea. There are some action scenes but not that much and nothing that blew me away. It's less skill and more about war tactics.

I enjoyed the character development of the female lead. How she changed from being self-obsessed and somewhat immature to having great strength, wonderful leadership qualities, being a quick learner and strong-willed. The male lead on the other hand gives off red flag vibes initially but falls hard for the female lead so there were several points where he won my heart. There's a lot of push and pull happening.

If you prefer quick resolutions, don't bother. It's a bit of a rollercoaster. The final episode may leave you feeling a tad annoyed. But nothing we didn't expect I suppose.

All actors were brilliant. The OST is beautiful. Hopefully part 2 will be satisfying.

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Good Enough

Korean Drama " My Dearest " is part one of the historical melodrama, following the lives of two tragic lovers that fate and their own mistakes keep them apart.

The drama starts off seemingly like every other historical romance, with some light moments, some comical sketches, and two leads that seem to be constantly fighting and loathing each other, even though, underneath it, there is an undeniable tension brewing. Soon, however, things take another turn. War breaks out and the characters come face to face with its ruthless reality. Hereafter, the story goes deeper and deeper into darker waters, with the drama hitting its pick towards the ending, when the characters have gone through a huge character development, and their stories coming together. The ending, even though its just the end of the first half, was just what the story needed to fully embrace the melodrama.

Moreover, the performances were masterful, by everyone in the cast, but especially the two main leads, whose chemistry was deliciously enjoyable.

So, overall, nine and a half out of ten.

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A thrilling, epic historical romance. Well worth a watch . . .

Some caveats on the portrayal of the 'barbarians' at the end:

Lee Jang Hyun is a familiar character, a world-weary ex spy or military man who hides his skills and history behind a joking, frivolous womanizing mask. What is unique, is that he meets Yoo Gil Chae an entitled, determined and crafty 'fox' of her village and falls head over heels for her because of these qualities, not in spite of them. Here, though young and immature, is a woman who has the resilience to survive. As these characters get tossed to and fro, partially due to being in the middle of a tragic and gory war, and partially due to their own inability to be vulnerable, you very much cheer on their survival and happiness.

Towards the end, the miscommunications and missed connections stretch into the absurd. It is understandable that both characters would prioritize their country, community or family over their romantic love - laudable even. It's also understandable that both misunderstand each other - assuming that their love was weak instead of that their duty called on them to act differently. This does not forgive the lack of letter writing and direct communication of the last episode. The lack of communication during war is forgivable - during peacetime less so, and so some points were knocked off for that.

The acting here is believable and top notch, not for one moment from the main characters to the supporting characters, was I ever taken out of the story. Namkoong Min does an excellent job in the early episodes of hinting at the cold competent nature that hides behind the mask. Ahn Eun Jin has the difficult job of portraying a character with many unlikeable flaws and making her come alive and be endearing and she does just that.

The music was sweeping and epic, and some scenes will definitely linger, even if the show isn't really set up for rewatching. I grade on other criteria as well:

Themes: 10
In difficult times, the clear headed, determined will to survive at any cost will triumph over ideological purity. You can find someone that loves you for your difficult qualities not in spite of them. Beware parting with angry words or things left unsaid, you could end up living a life of regret. Be skeptical of titles and power. Look to people's actions not their words in determining where there values and priorities are. Romantic love is not always what to prioritize there is our responsibility to our country, community and family to consider.

Complex characters/Character development: 8.5
All the characters even the secondary ones, have different sides to them and I appreciated this. I was mildly annoyed that instead of having a bigger time skip and allowing Yoo Gil Chae to fully mature, the plot kept them reuniting piecemeal and didn't let the mark of war and trauma full settle on to her.

Complex Women/Strong connections with Women. 9.0
The friendship between Gil Chae and Eun Ae was a complex and enjoyable one. Both having a deeper connection, than their reputations as the 'bad girl' and 'good girl' of the village would imply. Eun Ae, like Jang Hyun, respects Gil Chae for what would be considered 'bad qualities' in a woman.

Cinematography/Production Values: 9.0
Really beautiful, with plentiful use of outdoor sets, well-done costumes, and excellent fight scenes. Nothing new or innovative, but a pleasure to watch.

Note on the 'Barbarians':
The portrayal of the Mongolian and Jin/Qin people is primitive and dehumanizing. It was not 100% this way. I did like that even Jang Hyun underestimates them at times, assuming they will greedily go for the money or gold, only for them to catch him in his plots. I also liked how it shows how Jang Hyun can trade and live amongst them: he understands and respects their practical drive to survive and conquer over the scholars of his own country upholding ideological purity even if it led to defeat. But, I'd be curious for those more knowledgable or from those heritages how they found the portrayal.

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A TRAGIC LOVE STORY

This is the kind of drama I am looking for ! When I first saw the poster of this drama I knew It would be great ! and I was not wrong ! I just finished it and I feel satisfied with what the story is trying to tell.
This drama is not the usual historical drama that the lead will have revenge or something and fall in love and be stated at the higher position in the end, it is nothing like that ! the story is more of a reality, some random man who is strong fell in love to a noble woman whom does not like him and it is in the midst of a war!
Every now and then government is always been this lame, this drama depicts such reality that in the midst of a disaster Governments and those who are on a position is lame and weak and slow and self centered !( that is why I don't believe anymore to anyone in the government ..) I hated the King so much in this drama, he is such a coward, he should've been the one to lead the army ! and what ? he even sent his crown prince as a captive to the invader ? lol .. I hated that, but I loved how the drama implied that story it is so convincing that this is what I felt
The love story is tragic on the first 10 episodes , I flutter so much with the lead in a while but things got serious in the end, What a tragic love story ! you have met but it seems you are not destined to each other, this couple cannot admit to themselves that they want each other. I kinda understand Gil Chae choosing what is right and his family in the end because that is for the benefit of many not just for her, in times like that love is not important but how will you ever survive ! like hello she's just started a business right ?
too bad for Jang Hyun to not being the chosen one in spite of all the things that he did for Gil Chae ! well that is life.
About Ryang Eum, his character here is so new to me in a historical drama, he have some kind of bromance with Jang Hyun here , Is it only I who notices it ? like he had this dialogues behind Jang Hyuns back and the facial expressions are as if he loves Jang Hyun more than a Hyung, that is why he looks differently to Gil Chae knowing that Jang Hyun loves her .. so I am really looking forward of his character here also, and the part where Ryang Eum told Gil Chae that Jang Hyun is dead and when Jang Hyun found it out, he did not hurt Ryang Eum .. but even so I don't think the drama will give a chance to Ryang Eum's desire here .. I don't expect anything about the bromance here but I just want to mention it.
I am so excited on the part 2 of this drama, there are so many things that I am really looking forward to it that is not clearly shown on the part 1 like, who is the woman in the end part? will she be the new lover of Lee Jang Hyun ? also is it truly the end of the love story of him with Gil chae ? and also who is really Jang Hyun ? what is his roots ? does he came to revenge ? is he someone that is just pretending to be nobody but in fact he is really someone powerful ? those are what I am expecting to be answered on part II so I am looking forward for it really
The Visuals, props, and production of this drama is really giving, we can really say that it is not cheap but the people behind this really did spent a a lot , so I am so satisfied, this drama is a lot ! my time is never wasted and I was never wrong to watch this ! see you on part II Jang Hyun !

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Beautiful epic

Likes
1. I've been waiting for Min to do a historical drama and not only did he delivered but the romance is oh so good 😍 i love Jang Hyun so much. He looks so sexy and manly wearing hanbok.
2. I also love Gil Chae and how capable she is. She definitely grew up after facing so many hardships.
3. The angst!! Why cant Gil Chae choose Jang Hyun huhuhu when he is willing to stay for her! But i get her. How can she give her heart to someone she doesnt trust?
4. The scene at the field where they kissed.
5. Ryang Eum has a pretty voice, i hope he doesnt get petty and tear the lovebirds apart even more.
6. The beautiful soundtrack.

Dislikes
1. I dont really care much about the King and the Crown Prince.
2. I think the Qing Princess is going to be trouble.

Rating: 9/10

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Review from a Romance as a genre point of view.(Review for quality romance enjoyers.)

Let me start with saying i had high hopes for this drama.
Yet if failed to deliver on the romance part misserably .Majority of people see this drama as a masterpiece but for the romance enjoyers this is a fake perception of the story that is called MY DEAREST.
As a drama on its own is well filmed , the music fits the show, the acting is great.This is not where problem stands with this drama.The true issue is with the setup of the main couple in this show by the writers.
From a drama aspect with ignoring the romance part which should be the main plot point how the title suggests its watchable.

FOR romance enjoyers i cannot recommend this drama because it fails on so many levels its crazy .For rating the romance aspect i would seriously give it a 2 of 10 its that bad .The writers separated the main couple in a way that if they back together it has to be forcesdor its HIGHLY damaging to the ML character and damaging the characters integrity as he is set up .If the second part of the drama forces the main couple together it will just tank the rating for this drama from a romance point of view even further.

In the next part will dissect this rotten romance story in details now .SPOILERS AHEAD SKIP IF YOU NOT FINISHED THE SHOW YET.

I will focus only on the main couple because i am doing a romance review.

Lets start with our beloved Female lead
This character is so unlikeable from a romance point of view its mindblowing .
We are introduced to her being selfish, manipulative , entitled.
From the begining she lusts for her friends fiance and she makes multiple attempts to split them.
She even attempts tp kiss him in a barn pretending to be sick .Well sick she is but in the head .
In the village there is a bunch of virgin schollars and she is teasing them trying to make her friend fiance jealous.
It failes so she promises a naive guy to marry him just again to make the fiance of the friend jealous .
The schollars are leaving for war because the country is invaded and yet AGAIN she asks the guy she just promised to marry to protect the fiances boyfriend and she is suggesting some intercourse after they return .
(And this is just the first couple of episodes.)What a lovely FML such a deity so far .Her selfishness in this drama is peaking constantly bending everybody to her will with 2 scenes where she was selfless and cared about others yet she demands irrational things from the ML constantly and being ungrateful over the span of the drama .
SHe is constantly pushing the ML away from her ignoring his action for her by her being stupid or her brain cant put 2 and 2 together .She is talking about being abandoned by the ML which is again just showing her selfish nature becaus shes literally telling him not to stay with her actions and words TLDR of this part she wants him to be a cuck .
By the comment section shes described as a strong and family oriented person yet there is nothing suggesting this in the drama itself . Yet again the audience is holding into the Family cope without any reasoning showed in the drama .
She gets separated from her family during the invasion and sme makes zero attempts to find them or find out if they are safe and sound.She is rather helping the injured soldiers in the camp with her friends and first moment she sees her friends fiance she drops everthing and goes to treat him holding his hand right there with her friend next to her .How shameless is this crooked character .The drama fails here again because its showing her only as a capable human in their family the rest of the crew a clearly depicted as a mumbling fools .Very little scenes family wise suggesting any hard bond between them .
To the being a strong character or mature this is just another cope of the audience .
Her every action in this drama is to make her life easier always picking the easier road yet everybody talks about character development well i cant see any character development she is acting at episode 9 just like she did in the first one but the only difference is she was FORCED BY HER CIRCUMSTANCES (WAR) to show some survival skills. She is just as manipulative , entitled , selfish as she was in the first episodes .What is strong about getting married to a military guy instead of trying to get your family back into the track by your brain and capabilities if yu can just marry somebody . Seems like this the new STRONG nowadays .
Overall this character is a crooked one. It wouldnt be a major issue romance wise because roamnce can be tragic and thats fine .if she would show some promise in her character developement but there is none.

Lets get into our Male lead
This one is can be described multiple ways . The ML can be seen from one side as obsessive with the FML since she has no good qualities to her so whats to obsess about but ok . On the other hand he can be described as somebody finding his true love .
From the begining the ML is trying to reach out to FML but in a more playful way Both her and him have a reputation of a player. By the scenes in the drama where he has some flashbacks its suggesting something happening in his family and made him reluctant towards marriage . The ML is constantly trying to prove himself to the FML. Not every action he does is presented to the FML yet those there are clear like the sky are being ignored by FML cuz shes that dumb .
As a examle i pick the scene where the ML is willing to help her block the marriage of the FM friend and her fiance .
He does so by giving war material to the villagers but his condition is to not allow the men marry before they go to war and he makes it reasonable so shes not exposed by this . Yet she didnt realize this even tho they had this discussion 2 days ago.
The ML is prepared to leave the village when the war begins to avoid being pulled into a conflict he doesnt want to be a soldier . Again he decides to risk his life to save the FML and being pulled into more and more danger at a point where he is leaving to be a spy help the country to end the war sooner because the people are starving etc .From FML perspective this is abandoning her again even tho he asked her if he stays will she only focus on him and not think about her friends fiance she said no. Again FML selfishness showing how amazing of a FML she is .
ML dodged multiple death scenarios for FML or were put into these positions because of the FML .
At the point where she breaks his heart as much as possible in he bounds of the setting of the drama .
The ML is clearly more mature than the FML and his love towards her is shown over the whole show .
Of course some of his actions are flawed but there is not flawless person on the planet. We cant blame him for anything he promised the FML he kept . This is where i think the ML deserves a second change with somebody else but these writers dont have the balls to do that and he will most likely sacrifice himself for the FML in the next part .

NOW as a Main couple :
There is no much romance to be talking about . Its a one sided love by the ML and some lukewarm feeling from the FML side .
This is where i blame the writers again because when they are separated and even before that the FML is having dreams of the ML and when they are separated and thinks hes dead she is seeing him in front of her having dreams of him crying in sleep etc .This is suggesting deep feelings for somebody romance wise yet she doesnt sacrifice herself for the ML once over this part of the drama on the other hand the ML is constantly doing this . Again terrible romance writing shown by these scenes .
After their 3rd separation where the FML is breaking the ML heart as much as possible in the setting they are in by not going with him because family which she paid litttle to none attention to (classic Kdrama cliche . Not only she refuses to go with him she gives him back the boots he promised her he will bring for her but also writing a letter to him that he wasnt enough for her to let everything behind (yet she had fk all )and yet again she will stay and rather marry the Military guy because this is the easier way and thats what she choose over the whole drama . This is the most you can do to spit into his face after he went thru everything for you .Romance drama is build on strong connection where the characters in love go over hardships and willing to sacrifice their life for the ultimate love especially in historical dramas. Sometimes this love cannot prevail and is doomed but here the FML shows 0 sacrifices for their love or determination on any level . This created from a romance point of view such a broken relationship that is not possible to recover from because if you force somehow the ML back to the FML its very damaging to his character and makes him from beinga mature character into a obsessive stupid one which his actions dont suggest so far and would be a huge step back for him .

Like i said this romance doesnt work and is ocassionaly forced by the writers with some weird scenes where the FML is demanding unreasonable things and the ML is sacrificing himself for somebody showing little to none interest in him .
The FML is a very badly written character from a romance point of view with nothing to be in love with other than being in love with her on first sight because thats an option .

My overall score for the drama is 8 points because as a romance drama the romance part heavily tanking the rating.
I highly not recommend this drama for romance enjoyers. There are tons of better romance stories than this out there you can find them just by closing your eyes rather than suffer the stupidity in this one .

PS. First and last review they are deleting negative comments under the drama thread .

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Absolutely in love with this gem

"My Dearest" Part. 1 is a painfully beautiful love story, with:
- profound characters, who develope throughout the episodes,
- outstanding acting from all the cast,
- scenes that keep you on the verge of your seat,
- amazing landscape shootings,
- overflowing emotions,
- gorgeous CGI, costumes and props.

I can only say that... I can't wait to watch Part. 2.
❤️

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A drama that is overall just okay, with good character portraits

To preface, I absolutely love historical dramas, and was pleased to hear about one set in this particular era jet during the invasion of the Jing/Qing. But, while the pacing kept me afloat to episode 9, I was greatly disappointed by this drama.

Let’s start with Jang Hyun. The way he is written is freaking annoying. His character and background is so vague it’s impossible to have any attachment to him. I’m aware that his mystique is part of the plot I guess, but withholding a backstory for a twist later is no excuse for having such a poorly developed character for a majority of the story. We only get glimpses of “tragedy” that don’t really explain anything about him. He’s also got a serious case of Mary Sue. I also think his companions could have been far more complex.

Now, he still has shining points as a character: he provides candid views on political situations, and what he said about Lord Nam’s burdensome idealism and weaponized incompetence was a BAR — the best written part of the whole drama.

Next. Let’s talk about my one casting gripe: Nam Goong Min. He’s a fine actor, but it’s so hard to get to the interior of the character when his face is so stiff. I don’t mean this as a drag or an insult, it’s just my criticism in a vital component of acting — with screen acting, you can’t profess your inner thoughts like in plays or lean on clever language like in books…the performers face must say what’s left unsaid. And Nam Goong Min simply has stiff facial performance. It’s creepy. And not good. I can tel by his eyes and his voice that he has all the skills necessary, but his FACE simply doesn't move!

More in stuff I liked: I love the character of Gil Chae. She’s a fascinating heroine (to me, who has seen every trope in the book). She’s neither a do-good heroine that prioritizes the good of society and well-being of the public nor a “spoiled brat with a secret heart of gold” trope that you typically find in sageuks.

Her character is clear, defined, and consistent. Pretty much from the beginning it’s clear that she takes exceptional care of her closest loved ones, but she protects them with by nanking hard decisions that can be seen as cruel and selfish if from an outside perspective. I found the boat scene leaving Ganghwa such a bold and powerful decision to portray her in.

In what I’ve seen so far, the balance of flat and round characters is very well used here (a round character must have an engaging direction, a flat character must be able to represent a force).

I’m not extremely well versed in the history that inspired it, but I did find some of the ‘foreign’ characters to be fascinating. It’s always refreshing to see some rounded out Jurchen characters as opposed to simple caricatures.

Overall, it’s not terribly interesting, but My Dearest has averagely decent political intrigue, engaging pacing, and important messages about the decay and de-romanticization of war. But the weakly written male characters dragged it down, and there wasn't a committed enough message on any single theme like anti-war or serendipity or youth.

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