Why Do We Really Hate Lady Yulou?

Being heavily triggered by Lady Yulou’s character? 🤔 Let’s break it down!

We all have that one character who gets under our skin, and for many, it’s Lady Yulou. But why? Why do certain characters provoke such a strong reaction?

Here’s an interesting way to look at it—there are three reasons why we might dislike someone, and I think it applies perfectly to Lady Yulou:

1️⃣ They do things you would never dare to do.
For example, her manipulative schemes and devious plans might be too much for some to stomach because it's so far from their own moral compass.

2️⃣ They do things you used to do, but don’t anymore.
Maybe Lady Yulou reminds you of a time when you were a little more ruthless or scheming, and seeing that in her triggers old memories of behavior you’ve left behind.

3️⃣ They do things you also do, but you feel ashamed of.
This one might hit hard. Maybe you see yourself in her manipulation, but you don’t want to admit it. That feeling of shame can create an intense dislike because it forces you to confront parts of yourself that are hard to face.

So, which one are you? Why does Lady Yulou’s character get under your skin?  🧠💭

I really don’t think it goes that deep. As viewers we root for the leads and want them to be happy. She tries to manipulate them and lies to them for her own ends so naturally we hate her the same way we would hate anyone who treats the people we like poorly. Plus she’s really not pretty enough to be such a bitch. It’s not like Charlize Theron in Snow White where yes she’s evil but at the same time I can’t help but marvel at how stunning she is.

 Playset9656:

Being heavily triggered by Lady Yulou’s character?

I guess #1 would be the closest if I really had to choose, but "you would never dare to do" implies I'm even tempted. Personally, I think she just has "empress syndrome." Her whole goal in life was to become empress and have that power. She may have loved her husband, but she seemed more disappointed that he didn't agree to take in the foster child, like she wanted so that the line of succession would be controlled by her.

She placed a Huadian on herself and made it in seem like it meant she was somehow god-blessed, manipulating so many people by this alone.

She was a master manipulator, making Chuyu think it was her idea to ruin the wheat seeds when it was Lady Yulou and her cousin whispering in her ear all along. Then, convincing Lady Zhu to take the blame was yet genius level deception, knowing the investigation will end there.

Because she targets other women.


Patriarchy survives to this day,  because women don't stand in solidarity with one another.

 UnaSpenser:

Because she targets other women.


Patriarchy survives to this day,  because women don't stand in solidarity with one another.

Food for thoughts...

 mparthur:

I thought her punishment was brutal.

Wei Shao certainly knew how to cancel this woman's ambition.  His brother really loved this woman but the Wei State was lucky not to have this woman as their Duchess.

Yes, corporal punishment is always brutal. Not only did it fail to quash her ambitions, but it also fueled her hatred even more.

Victim mentality so bad that when her fiancé and husband loved her, still said she's

,she's unlucky. The type that don't appreciate anything as sincerity and gratitude are lacking.

She can't let go of grudges unlike ML. A small and closed heart .God help those who help themselves. She don't help herself for gratitude is not in her. Don't appreciate that her life was spared. From her my takeaway is gratitude in every little  things everyday good or bad, to be joyful  for nothing is permanent !