Why Do We Really Hate Lady Yulou?

 Playset9656:

True, still she's not just power-hungry for the sake of it—she’s driven by deep-rooted pain from being used and abandoned as a child. Becoming the most powerful woman, like the Empress, is her way of ensuring that no one can ever hurt or manipulate her again. Her rampage is a reflection of how desperately she needs control and security. 🫠

What do you mean? How had she been used as a child? Makes not much sense to me. Girls were pawned out to other families to be raised alongside their own (the stranger family's) kids. That was normal. 

Control is important to manipulators. And she seems to have been a schemer from childhood on. 

Unlike others I don't think that she would have been happy with Bogong. He was "too good" of a man for her to long term happily be his wife quietly. What Manman manages she could never have done. (Quietly work behind the scenes)

 playful_site_2714:

What do you mean? How had she been used as a child?

In  Episode 28 ( around 26:45 ), Lady Yulou has flashbacks to her early childhood, and it's clear that she was raised under a lot of emotional pressure. Her family’s words show how much they placed the burden of the Su Clan’s future on her shoulders, even as a child. For example, they said things like:

• "A daughter, again? How could she bear the future of the Su Clan from Wushan?"

• "Your peony mark almost washed off in the rain."

• "Be careful. Without your peony mark, you're nothing."

• "Once in the Wei family, you must get along with both young masters. The future of the Su Clan depends on you."

• "Stay indoors and avoid bringing trouble to the Su Clan."

These lines illustrate how Lady Yulou was raised with immense expectations and control from a very young age, and it clearly set the stage for her later need for control and security. She wasn’t just manipulating others—she was manipulated and used herself, which I think is what drives her to seek power in the first place. Becoming the most powerful woman in the kingdom, much like the Empress, isn’t just about power—it’s about survival. She needs that control because her entire life was defined by people using her as a pawn for their own ambitions.

Her need for control over her life, and to not be controlled by anyone, is a reflection of the deep-rooted trauma and abandonment she experienced growing up. It’s her way of ensuring that no one can ever hurt or manipulate her again. 🫠

Wei Bogong could probably have healed and grounded her, much like Manman does with Wei Shao. He seemed like the kind of person who could have provided the support and stability she needed to not turn down the destructive path she eventually took. Unfortunately, he died before that could happen.

I think even Bogong would have gotten rid of her one day with that whiney liar cowardice which defines her entire character. 

I am sorry, that one is so deeply flawed that I can't find any excuse for her. 

The way she was raving about wading through the Wei Clan's blood and stepping over their dead bodies ultimately made her DESERVE what she got. And all of it. She is jus as bad a psycho as is that husbad of hers.  

Go figure... her wanting great grandmother dead who was nothing but nice towards her! She made me positively sick. 

What I found absolutely FUNNY is how we meet again with an old acquaintance of ours under the form of her first husband: that's demon Ni Chuyin from "Eternal Love of Dream".

 playful_site_2714:

OUH! That's really far fetched and finding excuses for the narcissists and psychopaths of this entire world! Her rampage is a reflection of her bad character. Is all. At least to me. 

Let us hate her. That's what her character had been created for. Near every CDrama has its vilain for us to hate and bash. Well done, CDrama.  

She died committing suicide.  I mean she was doomed from Day One she received the military token from that general.  

I would have just converted everything into building a commercial business using the 50,000 people instead.

 UnaSpenser:

Because she targets other women.


Patriarchy survives to this day,  because women don't stand in solidarity with one another.

I'd say because she targets the innocent. She'd be mesmerizing if she had been a clever woman pitting herself against other clever characters. We might not LIKE her, but she would be someone to admire, or at least see the brilliance of. But she works from the shadows, attacks from the back, and attacks the innocent. She's fraudulent to boot. I've always thought of her counterpart as Lady Xu. A strong woman with little tolerance for incompetence, Grandmother knows how to gain and control power.  YuLou just knew how to harm others and convinced herself that was power. She had multiple opportunities to better her station and turned her back on every one determined to steal someone else's husband because pain was the only thing she associated with gain.