
autumn iris:
Which part of that that's not BL?
The utter lack of time in which romantic feelings might develop for a start. Wang is trying to become closer to his deceased father, like a psychological mirroring, and latches onto a man in a photograph. It's not romantic, it's not love, it's not even infatuation. It's entirely about his dad - not In.
Meanwhile In is completely taken by surprise to have these living reminders of the man he loved show up unexpectedly. He's just going along with his very quiet, isolated life and boom, all of this old, buried, difficult psychological stuff comes to the surface with two people tied to it making conflicting demands of him. His romantic feelings towards Wang's dad do NOT count as romantic feelings towards Wang or make this a romance.
The older one is a coward for staying isolated and letting that part of the past define him - that's what those conversations are about. That screen in In's bedroom, with its prison like vertical bars - In has imprisoned himself in the past and his house.
It's a very different story when you recognise it's not about romantic feelings between In and Wang. But this is a thread for talking about controversies, not re-enacting them. If you want to continue this we can do that elsewhere.