it's really sad to see people blaming fl for her actions. they are pitying towards him, but what about fl? why…
it's heartbreaking how, in reality, victims of assault are often ignored, doubted, and judged by society. instead of receiving support, they are forced to live in silence while the predator walks freely, without consequences. people are quick to question the victim—blaming them, scrutinizing their actions, and making them feel responsible for the trauma inflicted upon them.
it's really sad to see people blaming fl for her actions. they are pitying towards him, but what about fl? why don't they try putting themselves in her shoes and try to empathise with her? she's in a state of complete burnout, emotionally and physically. for years she has been in survival mode- completing fighting the trauma and betrayal alone. she never had a single safe place where she could try to heal. her coming into a relationship doesn't completely heal her and move on.
"why doesn't she tell him everything?" talking about trauma is not just words. it's reliving everything. it's re-opening the wounds she tried hard to ignore. it's like forcing her to walk through the same nightmare, knowing that there's always a chance- no matter how small- that she won't be judged.
she loves him, but that doesn't erase her trauma. love doesn't magically heal wounds, it will take time. her leaving him shows her love for him- she doesn't want him to suffer along with her. isn't this a basic human nature? no matter how much pain we are in, we won't tell and try to hide from our loved ones.
it's not that I don't feel bad for ml, i do. i applaud his patience with her— something which is difficult to be seen in real life. it may also be emotionally exhausting for him, but that doesn't mean fl should be blamed. there's no right or wrong. his pain is different from hers.
that's why her choice, though painful, is completely understandable.
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"why doesn't she tell him everything?" talking about trauma is not just words. it's reliving everything. it's re-opening the wounds she tried hard to ignore. it's like forcing her to walk through the same nightmare, knowing that there's always a chance- no matter how small- that she won't be judged.
she loves him, but that doesn't erase her trauma. love doesn't magically heal wounds, it will take time. her leaving him shows her love for him- she doesn't want him to suffer along with her. isn't this a basic human nature? no matter how much pain we are in, we won't tell and try to hide from our loved ones.
it's not that I don't feel bad for ml, i do. i applaud his patience with her— something which is difficult to be seen in real life. it may also be emotionally exhausting for him, but that doesn't mean fl should be blamed. there's no right or wrong. his pain is different from hers.
that's why her choice, though painful, is completely understandable.
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