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BTW, Bi Jin is lucky to have YCX by her side, whether she realizes it or not. In a military investigation involving treason, the consequences could extend beyond the person accused and put their family under scrutiny, too. So even if her fiancé turns out to be innocent, she should understand how serious the situation is. 👀 YCX might have his own flaws, especially when it comes to his obsession with her, but his position and influence could be crucial in protecting her when things get dangerous. I just hope she doesn't overlook that side of him while struggling with her feelings.

Honestly, I really like YCX, both as a military man and as a person. ❤️ You can see his kindness through his actions, whether it's helping the two orphaned children, protecting Lan Qing out of respect for his late brother, or the way he treats his friends LBR and GRT There's more to him than his cold, arrogant exterior, which is why I'm struggling to understand where his obsession with Ye Pingjun comes from.

I have a theory that losing his older brother, whom he loved so much, might have something to do with it. Maybe the fear of losing someone he cares about again makes him want to hold on too tightly. It could explain his possessiveness, but it doesn't justify it. The fact that he doesn't intend to hurt her doesn't mean his actions can't hurt her emotionally.

Still, I believe people can grow, and I hope YCX learns to love her without trying to control her. He wants to protect her, but can he learn to protect her from himself, too?

And I hope Ye Pingjun grows alongside him. She's an ordinary student, but she's smart, capable, and knows how to stand up for herself. However, she seems inexperienced when it comes to romantic relationships, and I want to see her learn to understand her own feelings, establish her boundaries, and stand firm in her principles.

I don't want either of them to lose themselves in love. I want to see them challenge each other, learn from their mistakes, and grow as individuals. Because, for me, the most satisfying love story isn't about one person changing the other, but about two people becoming better without losing who they are. ❤️

Honestly, both YCX and YBJ are starting to piss me off. 😭 YCX needs to understand that love should be mutual. You can't force someone to love you through obsession. And YBJ… girl, what kind of love makes you forget your own principles and blur the boundaries you should be respecting? 💀 I understand that her situation is complicated, but that doesn't mean she should lose sight of her values. One needs to learn that love can't be forced, and the other needs to remember where to draw the line.

What I love about Fake It Till You Make It is that both characters have their own perspectives, ambitions, and insecurities. They know how to communicate, but they're also willing to learn how to understand each other. And I think that's what makes a relationship mature. It's not about always agreeing or never having misunderstandings; it's about being willing to listen, communicate, and grow together. That's what being true partners means to me. ❤️

Haha, I think there was a little misunderstanding! I wasn't using the Tunisian proverb to describe Changxuan's behavior, but rather my own reaction as a viewer towards him. I meant that even though I really like him as a character in general, I refuse to overlook his mistakes or "fall into the trap" of justifying his toxic obsession with Pingjun just because I like him.
But I love your camel metaphor! You're totally right, Changxuan definitely has that self-directed bias. He's so focused on his principles and his mission that he doesn't see his own "hump"—which is how emotionally destructive his obsession can be for her.

I get your point, but I don't think she do that
Remember the boat scene? YCX had his own mission to accomplish, yet when Bi Jin got scared, she unconsciously reached for his hand. That moment says a lot. She may be afraid of him consciously, but deep down, she already trusts him.

And honestly, falling asleep in someone's car doesn't automatically mean you're careless or that you're playing a dangerous game. Sometimes, your subconscious feels safe around someone before you're even ready to admit it to yourself. She's afraid of the man, but some part of her already feels safe with him.

“When you love someone, you let their mistakes slide; when you dislike someone, you pick on every little thing they do.” 😂
Literally, the Tunisian saying الي تحبو تسقطلو و الي تكرهو تلقطلو means something like “For the one you love, you let things drop; for the one you hate, you pick things up.”
The idea is that we tend to overlook the faults of people we like and magnify the faults of people we dislike.

In fact, Bi Jin is definitely falling for YCX, but she's not ready to admit it yet. Maybe she hasn't fully figured out her own feelings, or maybe her fiancé is holding her back because she doesn't want to feel guilty about falling for someone else. Either way, I think she's struggling to understand what she truly wants.

He's the real RED flag.

I really like YCX as a character. He's principled, sincere, honest, and straightforward, and he seems to have a clear vision of how he wants to reform the military. But when it comes to Bi Jin, it's like he becomes a completely different person, and that's what bothers me.
He may not hurt her physically, but he does hurt her emotionally. His obsession with her crosses a moral line, and I can't just overlook that because I like him as a character.
He protect her, but can he protect her from himself? 👀
It actually reminds me of a Tunisian saying: الي تحبو تسقطلو و الي تكرهو تلقطلو
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Basically, when you like someone, you tend to overlook their mistakes, but when you dislike someone, you notice and criticize every little thing they do. And I don't want to fall into that trap with YCX. Just because I like him doesn't mean I should justify his behaviour toward Bi Jin. I can appreciate his good qualities while still holding him accountable for the harm he causes.
For me, that's what makes a character interesting: being able to recognize both their good and bad sides without letting your feelings for them cloud your judgment.

thank yooooo, the writer’s job is to write the script, but our job is to look beyond the lines, read between them, and analyse the deeper themes and meanings 😄

The more I look beyond YCX's obsession with her, the more suspicious I get of JXT. 👀 I don't know why, but something about him feels really off.

Oh my God, what kind of parents are they?! 😭 I swear, I can't even look at them without seeing the evil behind their actions. Di Liren and Lu Hui seem to believe that Yu Meng is living the life that should have been theirs, as if that gives them the right to take it away from her. Instead of building their own future, they want to steal hers. And this is exactly why they remind me of the movie Parasite: they don't just want a better life; they're willing to exploit someone else's to get it. How can you call it parental love when your idea of giving your child a future means destroying someone else's life?

me too, I think he's a double agent

Just 30 mn into ep 9 and that's what I've realized: Jiang Xueting, the fiancé, might be the worst kind of wolf in sheep's clothing, while YCX seems to be the exact opposite.
Now I'm curious to see who the REAL red flag is. 😂 Because sometimes, the man who looks cold and dangerous isn't necessarily the most toxic one, and the one who seems gentle and harmless might be hiding the darkest side of himself.Let's see who's actually waving the biggest red flag… or should I say, the BLACK toxic flag? 🚩💀😂

Of course, it's a drama 😂 But why limit ourselves to what the story is trying to show? We can look beyond the plot, question the characters' choices, and criticize the message too. For me, that's what makes drama discussions interesting!

I get your point, and I agree that things went way beyond saving their child. But what interests me isn't just judging DLR's actions or whether his intentions were genuine. It's the moral dilemma behind their choices.
Even if he genuinely wanted to save his child, did that give him the right to destroy another innocent person's life? At what point does desperation become an excuse for doing terrible things?
That's what I want to explore through this drama: the moral lessons behind the characters' choices and what they tell us about real life.

Thank youuuuu , that honestly means a lot to me

Hahaha, thank youuu! 🥹❤️ Now I'm curious, though 😂 Are you interested in my writing style or in the way I analyze dramas?

Because what I write mostly comes from my own reflections and observations while watching. I love discussing the deeper meaning behind a drama, the moral questions it raises, and the lessons we can learn from it. I don't just want to talk about what happened in the story; I want to understand what it says about life, human nature, and relationships.

I do get a little help from ChatGPT to organize my thoughts and express them better in English 😂, but the reflections and opinions themselves are mine. So now I'm really curious about what made you say that! ❤️

I started watching *The Vanishing Beauty* with absolutely no expectations, just wanting to refresh my brain for a bit, hhhhh 😭😂 But look at me now, getting sucked into this show and overthinking its moral dilemmas!

And I don't even wanna talk about the revenge itself. I'm more interested in the morality behind it, the desperation of the parents, and whether a good intention can ever justify doing something deeply wrong. 👀

I agree that Yu Meng's character development is interesting, and her decision to fight back doesn't need to be the central topic of every discussion. She has every right to protect herself after what they did to her.

But what really gets me is the husband and his first wife. They're more complicated than villains who simply want money. They started with a desperate desire to save their sick child, and honestly, I can understand that desperation. When your child's life is at stake, you might do things you never thought you'd do.

But here's where things get complicated: "understanding why someone does something doesn't mean you have to accept what they did."

They wanted to save their child . But what kind of lesson would that child learn if they grew up knowing their parents destroyed an innocent woman's life to protect their own?

Love without morality can turn into selfishness. A good intention doesn't erase the consequences, especially when someone innocent ends up paying the price for a situation they had nothing to do with.

And if you wanna be a good example for your child, your actions matter, too. You can't teach them to be good people while showing them that hurting others is acceptable as long as you have a good reason. Children learn from what we do, not just what we tell them.

"You can be a loving parent and still be a terrible person to someone else."
Their love for their child might explain their desperation, but it doesn't erase their responsibility for what they did.

And what bothers me most is that they didn't stop when it came to saving their child. They kept crossing more lines until their original reason started to feel more like an excuse than a justification.

For me, there's a huge difference between being desperate and deliberately destroying an innocent person's life.
Their child deserved to be saved, but that didn't give them the right to sacrifice Yu Meng's happiness and future without her consent.

That's why I'm more interested in the moral contradiction behind their choices than the revenge itself.
=> How far can you go for the people you love before your love becomes an excuse for your cruelty?