Diva70

Interesting perspective...thank you

Yes who does what he did...walk in going through cabinets, telling you not to go clubbing, who to see, who not to see and she just gleefully replies yes. And she just met him and has given him her whole life history. She was ready. If he had wanted he could have had her right than and there. Both sickos.

I was thinking the same thing. I keep watching because I can’t believe this is set in the 21st century. I keep waiting fir the wives to break out of their emotional prisons. And you are right. This is a sad commentary on men/husbands.

You are not an idiot. There are some good people in the world but good or not if a married man is that attentive both parties should beware.

Probably so but I would find that just as repulsive. I think for me I keep watching because I just want these men to be publicly exposed and get some payback. And I hope the wives come out winners. We are halfway through. The tides have got to change. After this I’m going back to watching my BLs.

Me too...you ask how a woman does that with a man she just met. You do it if that’s what you’re used to doing....using your youth and looks to get what you want. She’s not a naive teenager. She knows what she’s doing. This is like reading a trashy novel.

When you lie to your wife and to your fantasy ., when you take a young woman you just met out to dinner and then proceed to take her home all without telling your wife you are cheating and on top of that you give her an expensive gift you are cheating. Some people call it grooming.

At the very least I think Seo ban would be man enough to own his stuff.

And some women are no better...call it low self esteem, insecurity, need for validation, emotional distress, vengeance, economics, whatever...any woman who gets involved with a married man gets no sympathy or respect from me.

Why are they trying so hard to make the youngest wife seem so awful? All three wives deserve better. This was a hot mess. The first husband needs to grow up. That statement that he got a queen and not a wife really riled me. I just hope all three wives get retribution at the end. As for the mistresses and the husbands....I hope they all burn in you know where.

I am hooked on this drama but it’s more out of curiosity and a hope that the wives will come out of it with a better sense of their worth. As of now the husbands and suspected mistresses seem to be unscathed. I’ve seen so many instances where the wives are left bearing the shame as if they did something wrong for being too smart, too aggressive, too docile, too fat, too old, too passionless, too...too...too while the men are given a smack on the hand and told boys will be boys and the mistresses feel if the wife had did what she was supposed to they wouldn’t be needed.

Many wives have did what you suggest. I personally believe two wrongs don’t make a right. Sometimes loving yourself has to be enough until you’re in a position to make that final break. This is why I hope the wives end up with their heads held high.

It’s about the same in the USA regarding men . From my own observation when some men reach 50 they suddenly need validation.

Thanks....I watched Love In the Afternoon...I know it’s the rage now but I’m just not into any more movies with unhappy marriages. I think I was just curious since I was with my husband for 50 years and married over 47 years. There were highs and lows but the day he died we were more in love than ever. Just needed to share that on today. Thank you .

I didn’t know there was a difference in how kdramas portray cheating by women . Can you recommend a kdrama. I also agree with you. There is no justification for extramarital affairs. That is the problem I see with this kdrama.

The only purpose I have seen so far is how some women accept the role of mistress with no reservations. The writer might also be trying to show that who the other woman is is really not the point. These are three wives facing a crisis in their marriage and the burden is on the woman to fix the problem or leave. I certainly hope that’s not the message.

I think you are right. My cousin’s ex-husband never could understand what the fuss was all about. Afterall he was basically a good guy with just one “flaw”...?

Yes she’s been trying to be respectful since his father just died but she needs to be more assertive. He just calmly dismisses everything she says and she needs to finally spell out what she sees and how she feels. However it looks like she is just not strong enough. I really don’t like how they are portraying the wives unless this is representative of Asian women. I always thought they were fierce. Yes this stuff happens but I don’t know any women who would be taking the crap that these women are taking. One in the hospital with an ulcer, one looking like a timid frightened wife and one just beaten down. And the mistresses seem so happy and carefree when they are together. I’m watching but not enjoying . Of course to the writers and producers it’s all about the numbers and the money.

Yes I was so glad when he tried to take her hand and she pulled away. Too little too late....he’s a wuss ....too immature to be a father...the best he can do is pet the family dog.

What was even more pathetic was watching the father act as if his wife and children should throw him a going away party....
afterall he only made one mistake which just happens to be adultery and who stays with one person forever ...I guess I keep watching to see how callous a person can be to someone who literally picked him up out of the gutter. So far the ones who seem happy and content are the mistresses. The husbands aren’t worth a dime.