InspectorMegre

This drama is a play on stereotypes. The older nerdy guy with glasses versus a younger frilly charmer guy on a motorcycle. The audience automatically stereotypes these two guys, regardless of what they ACTUALLY show on the screen.

FL strings both guys and acts very confused, flippant and silly - too prude towards ML and too open and without boundaries to SML. FL is unaware and irresponsible, flakey.....
The main issue is that FL is unaware of how she is driven by her hormones and unwilling to accept it - she denies that part of herself... So... the end result is that she strings two guys. SML for just attention and ML as a genuine like.

FL uses SML as a frill pill and hangs out with him without any intention to officially date, and likes ML, kisses him, and promises to go on dates with ML but stays out of getting too close - and keeps the company of SML without any obligation.

ML has never done anything unless FL was open to it - which often caused a stallmate when she pulls back - and he does not dare to call her to the carpet - and she pretends that her hormones and thoughts of marriage do not exist -
and SML barges into her space and pokes her, totally oblivious to her liking the ML and totally confident based on his long standing success as a charmer for women.

It is already ep 5 and the character flaws of all 3 are still glaring and playing out. FL is playing the SML because she still has not figured out what she wants.

There is nothing wrong with using SML for a hot and steamy SHORT relationship *** if *** the FL wanted that. But the problem is, she is not really interested in that, and already deeply likes ML So, instead of going on hot steamy dates within a LONG relationship within a stable marriage, she choses to stay confused and use the SML for attention.

The FL plays both guys. The guys are emotionally incapacitated, cannot talk things through, and do not call her to the carpet. So she keeps stringing both of them.
THE PLOT IS UNREALISTIC. In real life, both men would be gone by ep 4.

ML: a rather stiff and reserved older guy with glasses and in baggy "college student / IT guy / CEO" sports-and-outdoors clothes, the "nerd" type who owns a successful home wood furniture business; who already seriosly loved and dated for years a very glam cold woman who dumped him. he still feels pain from that relationship but seems to be on the way to 100% recovering. He is the kind of guy who falls in love deep and he does not want to sleep around. His goal is marriage,
VERSUS
the younger frilly guy has fashionable "young stud" casual clothes and a flippant attitude that a kiss means nothing and does not bind you to a person. He claims he kissed 500 people in his young life. He drives a motorcycle and is super popular with women, as he is openly a charmer. He is an actor and does bar, cafe and restaurant jobs to pay the bills, and barely succeeds. In short, a guy who seems to be living in the experimentation phase of his life, forever. We do not know much about his past or past loves yet but we have some inclinations. There is ONE mysterious woman that he still has painful feelings for and she is trying to get into his life - os it an ex, a sister, an ex-colleague actor?

So the fun part is how the audience reacts. They call ML's clothes "homeless man." The serious guy with glasses is proclaimed ugly and ppl wrote comments they dropped the drama bc ML is ugly. There are lots of comments how he is boring, stiff, has no adventure, no emotional ability / does not express, etc. How there is no chemistry or passion between him and FL, etc
And how SML is caring, there is chemistry, how he pulls out the best from FL, etc.

And what ACTUALLY happened?

ML already **LIVES** love, partnership, care and committment in his daily life. He and his best friends are business partners, and the friend is a single father with a young daughter who is very present in their lives. ML volunteers to walk dogs.

ML is good with kids, dogs, and his best friend/business partner, and he runs a successful company and has good relations with lots of customers and employees. He is a *healthy* person. Sure with some faults but that is why we need 12 episodes and FL lol for him to expand his circle of love
ML is very stable and reliable and caring person.
ML is indeed stiff and reserved, hurt by his ex, but he has potential and, when given a green light, tries in proper ways. ML never barges uninvited, and he is also assertive.

ML was honest and clearly expressed himself and his feelings to FL, attempted to kiss her twice and succeeded once, there were PLENTY hot steamy moments between them that HE initiated, he already very gently and naturally broke into her personal space and BY HER WILLING CONSENT has spent time kissing and cuddling, he volunteered to ride a train ride home with her and sleep on her shoulder, he volunteered to work with her to get closer and keeps calling her on dates.

At first, ML was official, formal and polite, and blurted stuff about marriage so FL rejected him. Then she coincidentally showed up and acted in some suspicious behaviors which triggered his ex trauma, so he rejected her. Then he decided to overcome that, and took steps, and they kissed, so now he is actively trying with her. He picked a work project with her and keeps calling her on dates.

ML is too stiff and slow, which is partially his character flaw and partially his considerate nature, as *** ML follows what FL asked for **** He never barges into her life. FL keeps rejecting him and he keeps catching her hanging out with SML - essentially going on dates with the SML.
So far, since FL is not his, ML tolerates seeing FL hanging out with SML but it pains him. FL is super flippant about OPENLY stringing two guys.

FL has a huge issue of unwillingness to talk about things openly. They kissed and FL did not want to talk about it. ML tried, but was too coward to push forward when FL acts so clueless.

In short, ML is too shy in openly DIRECTLY discussing matters of emotional closeness **if the other person seems clueless, unaware, unwilling and/or upset**. That is his main character flaw. If the other person seems somewhat agreeable and on the same page and willing to discus, he has no problems expressing himself.

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FL, god bless her, is hanging on the last thread of her hormones and barely holding herself back from jumping on ANYONE who comes close enough LOL

Someone in the audience wrote that FL is a 30 yr old woman trying to have it all before she hits the menopause ... and that totally describes her. She wasnts a fling but she wants a husband.

FL is not promiscuous nor super prude. She is an ordinary person. But she is super confused and UNABLE TO ADMIT TO HERSELF THAT HER DESIRE FOR PHYSICAL CONTACT WITH A MAN IS CONTROLLING HER LIFE BC SHE PRETENDS TO NOT HAVE THAT DESIRE.

FL is a confused snowflake who is stringing two guys. She SAYS she likes ML and she consents to going on dates with him - but - she keeps hanging out very closely with the SML, bc SML just barges into her space and she keeps easily consenting to it. And she already admitted to herself once that lust is the only thing she feels for SML. But SML keeps pushing, poking, teasing, barging into her space, and she never sets boundaries. He keeps coming into her physical space, hanging out with her, giving her motorcycle rides, etc. He is hoping to bag her, but she is using him for attention and flirting.

Meanwhile, FL also flirts - but in a deep serious way and all the way to kissing - with ML and now keeps consenting to going on dates with him - but she still keeps hanging with SML in a way that is too familiar - basically using him as a frill pill

AND THAT IS DISGUSTINGLY TOXIC - the flirting between SML and FL is so toxic - he is trying to bag her and she keeps using him as a frill pill, without any intentions to date him, while she consents to go on dates with ML when he invites her

SML consenting to that is toxic to HIMSELF, he clearly does not treat himself with respect
SML needs to grow up asap and truly value himself
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SML keeps teasing FL and poking her with a clear intent to bag her. SML is not honest, he never says how he feels. The most he revealed of himself is to give her tickets to his performance. He gets her drunk and tries to bag her; he takes a job in the only cafe nearby so that he can be close to her and insert himself into her daily life. It is his IMPOSING UPONG FL, WITHOUT HER CONSENT. He is just using her weak moments to sneak into her life. That is not how love should be in 21st century... In 21st century, he invites her to do things with him, and she consents.

What the audience calls "passionate" is a controlling and manipulative immature person, looking for new experiences. What is called "chemistry" is just lust and flirting - as the FL so astutely noticed. His job at the near cafe is actually stalking. His trying to bag a drunk person while he is 100% sober is actually an attempt at s.x without real consent. His bragging about kissing 500 women without any feeling of responsibility is a glaring admittance of having no emotional connections. In short he is a woman-eater of sorts. He is not as bad as could be, but he is not relationship material for sure.

SML has no circle of love, he is alone, he even leaves his job on a whim and gets fired, he has no sense of responsibility commitment and hard work, and he does not know how to love YET. And it's gonna take a while for him to learn it :) First, he has to want it. He does not yet :)

I do not have anything against SML as a person, he is a good person, but as a MAN, he is not a long term relationship material. SML is perfect for a fling :)
SML is ***perfect*** as a dance partner. You can fly all over the dance floor with him and flirt as much as you want. But then when the dance is over, the prince Charming will be gone too :) SML is too ... confused to be a stable long term partner.

MLis still too stiff and unexpressive to be a long term partner too. His cold ex really left impact, he is still hurting and suspicious. Also, he is weak, he has no courage to conront things that make it seem he will ail, emotionally... he cannot talk about sticky subjects... But as he opens more and investigates, ... let us see.

The director is making a grave mistake of dampening down the ML. The actor seems bored.... ML is portrayed as someone who is not very active in his moving around and speech and expression, and that gives an impression of an old and boring person. I really want to see the actor have more FUN with his role. There are so many shades of ML and I want to see them all. That actor is able of expressing complexity. So let him.
But the script... is ... need of fixing lol ML is made too lifeless to make sure the audience starts thinking about this conflict - a stable boring man versus the passionate exciting man -

the truth is, the stable man is NOT boring and is quite passionate, and the passionate man is like a match, he quickly lights and then goes dim.

So I want to see the not-boring side of the stable man. We already had hints - his taking care of dogs, camping trips and hanging at home with bf and his daughter, his interest in making art furniture, etc his active and genuine attempts and successes in kissing FL.... ML is too skinny and stooped over, so he needs to move a little more gracefully and have more muscle.

SML gives an impression of excitement because he runs and jumps and drives a motorcycle, and bc he is outgoing and keeps poking FL and barging into her personal space. But when you look into what he has to offer ... ? it is a few exciting days and some exciting s.x, something that will last a short time while he is having fun with his new and interesting toy, and will fall apart fast as soon as thre is some problem, esp with committment, and/or when he finds something / someone else new and interesting.


This drama exposes severe societal prejudices.
As time immemorial, a shy quiet guy is automatically written off :)
The shortage of eligible single men is severe in the USA and perhaps other places and women consent to all kinds of guys. African American guys are severely in short supply, then white, then Asians.
Also, it is fascinating to see what the culture of 11 million monthly users on Tinder has produced in terms of what ppl call "normal" relationships,
There are all kinds of relationship coaches online and in person in the USA, many specializing in dating men, and most such coaches are men :) There are some that imo give very bad advice, like Matt teaches playing hard to get, and some that are very legitimate, common sense, good guy coaches, like Stephan Speaks. I highly recommend Stephan Speaks free videos on youtube.